Why Is It Hard to Have a Long-Distance Relationship?

The subject of long-distance relationships is controversial: some say they work, some don't! Is it possible for two people to maintain a healthy and harmonious relationship, even though they live in different parts of the country or even the world?

Skeptics deny the possibility of building and maintaining long-distance relationships: because the human being feels the need for company - it takes concrete closeness, physical intimacy for lovers to truly know each other!

Communication through technological methods loses its charm and mystery and cannot ensure the needs of the person of proximity and contact. Communication is based on so many aspects; what he says, how the other person says, what gestures he makes, how he looks at you, how much he looks at you… All this decreases in intensity when we talk about communication via the Internet!

The couple's relationships involve sharing the various activities of the partner, and long-distance relationships do not offer this possibility: the two can at most play together or perform virtual activities! Likewise, relationships involve the formation of a daily routine and what kind of routine can we talk about when the two get in touch only through the Internet?

Yes, let's say they can cook together: everyone prepares the same way in their kitchen, watching each other via webcam, after which they enjoy the meal "together"! But you can't build a routine and share your daily activities in the same way, you can't talk about being together!

This is demonstrated by couples who are going through a temporary period of separation: no matter how much they interact through the Internet, they still feel a lack of closeness, connection, and physical intimacy!

Relationships also involve getting to know your partner's close friends, relatives, all the important people in his life - because they have shaped and influenced him to become what he is! Important people are part of what he is! And how can this interaction be achieved when it comes to long-distance relationships?

Other arguments have to do with sex: the being needs regular sexual activity and sharing feelings of love with his partner! But sex on the Internet is extremely dry and tasteless! For a while, it may seem exciting and new, but in the end, the person will still want to feel the other person's approach, to look him in the eye, to feel his caresses, kisses, and smell!

Long-distance relationships start from the premise that it is enough for partners to be self-satisfied while talking and watching each other doing the same! But often, this does not satisfy the purely natural need for closeness and normal sexual contact!

But the most important argument of skeptics, of those who deny the possibility of consolidating long-distance relationships, is the one related to trust!

How can you know what your partner is doing all day, how can you get to know him so well on the Internet that you realize when something is wrong? Especially if the sexual and physical needs related to the desire for privacy are not satisfied, how can you trust that your distant partner does not satisfy them elsewhere?!

And can a person be blamed for giving in to his natural needs, not resisting to maintain a relationship as devoid of content as the virtual one?

If we talk about different cities, it is easier for the partners to keep the relationship at a distance: they can see each other on the weekend, they can still feel the physical closeness to each other, they can spend a certain amount of time together.

But when it comes to countries, even different continents, partners have the opportunity to meet only rarely, not to mention differences - which at one time do not seem important, but will speak at some point - values, morals, of attitudes.

However, some idealists believe in long-distance relationships, and argue that the information society offers satisfactory alternatives, to achieve an equally significant closeness between two people! Thus, webcam sex would be just as satisfying, video conferencing and social networking would allow you to get to know your partner and friends and you can build a daily routine because you can always be in touch with your partner!

One series even showed an interesting invention: a pair of lips equipped with sensors, connected to computers, so that when the person touches them, the other person from the second computer feels exactly the movements of the lips of the first! But does that look like a love affair ?!

To be realistic, long-distance relationships involve many difficulties that both partners must overcome, especially those related to the need for human closeness and the need for the trust! As long as the partners only met through the Internet, they still don't know each other!

Those who deny this simple truth come to recognize it when they know their partner: then notice how different the face-to-face interaction is, how many things they have not noticed in the other, and how different they feel in its approach (in a good way or in a bad way)!

Long-distance relationships have a real chance to grow and strengthen only in cases where the two partners have a background: they have known each other in the past, they have fallen in love, but life has not allowed them to live together…

Or in the cases in which the two decide to get to know each other "really" quite early and that meeting goes well! Only in this way will the two find convincing reasons to overcome all the obstacles that such relationships entail!

And if after a while, neither partner is willing to make the sacrifice of change - to move to the other city - then, unfortunately, long-distance relationships will lead nowhere, they will not have the chance to evolve!

As frightening as this change may seem, if it is true love, one of the two partners must be willing to give up his comfortable life and start a new one with his loved one, otherwise all the time spent on the Internet was a waste. !

So, think twice before initiating a long-distance relationship: it's worth getting over all these impediments, it's that very special person - or just the fact that you can't have her near you, that you're experiencing something new and interesting urges you to try? If the answer is the last one, you better leave it alone: ​​you lose, you lose the other precious time!