How to Behave With an Indifferent Boyfriend to Make Him Change His Attitude

Do you feel like you have an indifferent boyfriend, who doesn't seem to get involved, doesn't seem to hear when you talk, and doesn't make an effort to understand you, to satisfy you, to make you happy? No worries, you're not the only one who thinks so, on the contrary! But it's not just men's problem: women often don't know how to approach them, how to communicate effectively, how to get what they want!

So, if you think you have an indifferent boyfriend - even though he swears he loves you and does whatever you want, maybe you just need to approach new communication strategies and new ways to ask him what you want! As a first step in doing this, you need to know a few essential things about your boyfriend!

He is not an indifferent lover, but he simply believes that if he stays with you, if he comes straight from work at home, if he does not look at other women, and if he remembers your birthday, all this makes him the perfect lover. !

Men do not know or understand the importance of small gestures of affection and tenderness: hugs, holding hands, a flower, a candy… For them, these are syrupy things suitable for teenagers, not for two mature people.

But for women, a man who surprises her a little and shows his affection through small gestures is perfect. How about taking a small course in female psychology and stating as clearly as possible and with examples that small gestures of affection can be more important for a woman than an expensive perfume as a gift ?! He will be amazed!

Women always complain that they don't understand them, but what would it be like to help them understand you concretely?

You don't have a boyfriend no matter if he or she doesn't seem to communicate with you: men simply don't communicate in the same way as women. They don't talk for hours about all sorts of nonsense. For a man to be interested in a conversation for more than half an hour, it must be an interesting or controversial topic!

It seems to men enough to talk for half an hour at most about what you have done during the day, after which everyone will take care of their own business! As for discussing and sharing emotions, it scares and disorients men: they think it's enough that they have emotions and I think you realize this without being told or shown… Likewise, when a problem is in your married life or your personal life, men can make you jump by their silence and refusal to discuss it.

But this does not mean that you have an indifferent boyfriend, but that women and men react completely differently to a challenge, a problem; women feel the immediate need to talk, to split the thread in four and to find solutions together, while men feel the need to analyze the problem in silence and solitude, to understand it themselves, and then move on to solving it. Unfortunately, you can't change these aspects of communication: men will never relate like women and you have to understand and accept this reality!

But if you feel the need to talk, first of all, you have to keep him away from the multiple entertainments (TV, computer, newspapers) and tempt him with a romantic evening. You convince him that only the two of you are going out, and in the city, he will have nowhere to go: he will have to talk!

You don't have a boyfriend no matter if you ask him to do certain little things around the house and he ignores your request! Even if you ask him to take the garbage, wash the dishes, dry the laundry, fix a fuse and he doesn't, there is a simple explanation.

And that's not because he doesn't care! Think carefully about how many times you asked him to do that. If you say to yourself, "It's enough to ask for it once, it's clear you're ignoring me," you're wrong!

Because sometimes men are so preoccupied with their thoughts, lost in various dreams or engaged in exciting activities for them, that what you tell them goes in one ear and out the other. Either I don't hear you clearly or I hear you, but I don't understand you, it doesn't process the message. Try to ask him - nicely - to do something several times and see the result.

You don't have a boyfriend no matter if in some things, even if you ask him several times, he refuses to do them! This shows something different from indifference: it shows in spite, he silently punishes you for something that does not suit him! Of course, he will rarely tell you verbally what is wrong with him, so approach the strategy of ignoring your requests! And here, you have to work hard to find out what bothered him and why.

But remember: a boyfriend who behaves nicely and carefully with you is just that happy and sexually satisfied boyfriend. If you take care to keep him satisfied and not frustrate him, then he will take care not to provoke your nervous breakdowns… And if this behavior persists - you ask him various things and he refuses - maybe you need to change your strategy. Instead of simply asking him for something, he appeals to his competitive spirit, to his pride and jealousy.

Without any specific motivation, start praising in front of him your girlfriend's boyfriend, who repaired a door, whitewashed it in the bathroom, and cooked her a romantic dinner! Throw such arrows for a while, but without exaggerating, but leaving time between them and if he loves you, most likely after a while he will do some great things too - just to prove that he is better!

You don't have a boyfriend no matter if sometimes, once or twice a week, he leaves you alone and goes to town with his friends. Men (but also women) need time alone, away from women, and in the company of other men.

They need to do what they can't do with you: watch matches, play football, play poker, drink beer, talk about things foreign to you! The friendship between men, regardless of age, is especially important to them - more important than it is for many women.

You will often see a woman who is estranged, estranged from her girlfriends, and spends more time with her boyfriend, but a man who does not go away or give up his best friends does not exist. interesting is that the reverse does not exist)!

So it is only natural that he will leave you sometimes and want time with his friends, and if you do not understand this need and you think you have an indifferent boyfriend, you are rather an incomprehensible girlfriend!

You don't have a boyfriend whether he always takes horrible or useless gifts from you! Everything men know about women's favorite gifts is jewelry and perfume! It is not their fault that they have no idea how to choose those jewels and that their friends are not helpful to them either, and the store managers profit by selling the most hideous items!

Even less is their fault when they are well-intentioned and want to give you something original and new - and you wake up with a set of knives or a decorative sword! They had tender intentions. But it is your role as a woman to guide them when it comes to taking gifts in the right direction!

Either you tell them "subtly" what a beautiful article you saw, carefully mentioning the location and color, or you make a sincere list of what could take you without risk! The fact that you don't usually know how to buy something that you like or that comes to you doesn't show indifference, but a lack of skill.

In conclusion, before complaining that you have an indifferent boyfriend who does not pay attention to you and is not involved in strengthening the relationship, strive to understand him and accept the obvious differences between you and him.

And more importantly, as long as you don't explain to him and tell him what your expectations are, you can't complain that he doesn't meet them!