Why I Told Stan I Don't Want to Go Through Motherhood Again; What He Said - Blessing Nze

Nollywood actress Blessing Nze is opening up during a new interview with Tope Olowoniyan about her experience with motherhood and revealing how she once decided she didn't want to go through it again; and what her husband Stan Nze said in response to that.

The revelation came when Blessing was asked "How is it for you having a child and not having a girl child—having a boy child? It's not something that you've experienced at all, so how is that for you as a mom?" Blessing responded saying:

BLESSING NZE: At the beginning, I felt really lost. The first couple of months, I just felt like, okay, boy. I know the things I hear about the boy child—oh, they’re very this, they’re very that, you know? Then, maybe a few weeks down, like a few months—maybe two months later—I just thought, oh, my mom is here, she got this. And then there was no mommy again, you know?

So I think I just leaned on God, because I sometimes feel like, am I even a good mother? And he always constantly reassures me: you're doing this thing. Look at this child—he's turning out well so far. And I just make the right confessions when I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing.

I remember one time, I was telling him that I was worried, that I didn’t even know if I wanted to go through this whole motherhood journey again. And he just reminded me, we are doing this thing na. We are already doing this. And I'm here. Was I not taking care of Bobo when he was born? Did I not bathe him as a fragile baby? Did I not do this? Did I not do this? So don't worry, God has got us.

So yes, every day I navigate it as, ah God, how far? I don’t have a manual. And if I dwell on the thoughts, I get overwhelmed. I feel inadequate every time I dwell on the thought. Because those thoughts, they come every time, always. There are different times, at different stages, you’re having those thoughts, you know?

I constantly say, oh Holy Spirit, help me. And trust me, I genuinely see the hand of God. My child eats anything. People say, are you joking? He doesn't cry, you don’t beg him. If you tell him bye-bye, he will tell you bye-bye. I promise. Like, there’s no, you have to hide and pass the back door—no way. He wants something, he asks, and if you don’t give him, he moves on to the next toy. There’s no struggle. We have never lost sleep because of him. No, never. And that’s genuinely the hand of God, because wetin we know?

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