why do people cheat

lots of people have asked themselves this question for years. i'm sure everyone ones opinion is different and this is very much my own. when i was 16 i met a senior angle that went to my school. we were friends for a little bit and just hung out but he asked me out and we dated for 3 years. i would call the first 3 years happy or at least comfortable like every couple we fought. but i like to think i know exactly at what point we fall distant. after 3 years he had graduated and i was now a senior. as he became an adult he settled into who he was into having a job into having his own place and unfortanutly into having some controlling behavior. it was my senior year and as you know there are a lot of fun things in ones senior year.

You get prom, ball, last homecoming dance, last foot ball game, applying for college and all the community service hours to complete. well all the events that i had done with angel his senior year became an issue when i was doing then during mine. we would have bigger fights, he would try to put limits on when and for how long i could see my friends and even some family members. this caused me to withdraw and hide things as it was, i wasnt even cheating or thinking about it yet. over the next couple months it was easier to lie to him and soon i didn't bat an eye or find any guilt in it. it was a few weeks before prom when i met toby he was an end of the year last few classes transfer

I was instantly attracted to him and we became friends. Toby hung out with my friend group almost every day. our friendship turned into flirting , texting , hanging out alone, even sneaking out to see him. we didn't tell no one but i think some of my friends did notice and just didn't say anything. we didn't hide it very well, we tired to sit next to each other in every class and then if we were seperated we would text the whole time. it soon became one of those things to where you want to spend every second together and if you weren't your mood was all off. i didn't ever really consider what i was doing cheating until when my best friend Ali said it. well she didn't say cheating she asked if i had broken up with angle.

when you don't wanna tell a friend something or be honest to anyone that is the moment most people would consider it wrong. i was the same way i knew when i couldn't tell Ali that i had broken up with angel it was wrong. i knew at that point that even thought i had never slept with Toby or even kissed him that i was cheating maybe not physically but emotionally and mentally. during all of this the amount of time i spent with angel dimmed i wanted to make time for Toby. i had became addicted to the feeling that came along with him. maybe it wasn't even him i liked so much but that puppy love feeling that had faded with angel so long ago.

It took me a long time but 3 days before prom i broke up with angel. not really because my feelings for him were gone but because i also had feelings for Toby. the rest of my senior year was amazing i went to pro with Toby and all my friends, i focused on me, then i went off to college. to this day i am still friends with both boys, i know that what i did was wrong and i know it shouldn't have happened the way it did but i learned 2 main things that year. 1. I am meant to be single i love the feeling that comes along with new love but when that feeling fades so does my attention for you. so does any and everything i feel for you. my eye starts to wander and i will become a big flirt

2. once my eye wanders i have a serious disrespect for my partner. overtime i have learned to work on this and sometimes i can stay grounded. i will leave a relationship and be honest with my partners a lot easier now. however i still choose to remain single at least for the most part. for a long time when someone asked me why i cheated i couldn't answer that question. but now i can. i didn't cheat because it was a mistake, i didn't cheat because of a dare or someone thought i should, i didn't cheat to be cool, i didn't cheat because i was unhappy, i didn't cheat to hurt angel [ in the end the fact that i hurt him is what bothered me the most. and there was nothing he could have done to stop me]

In the end when it was all said and done. the only reason i could come up with is i am a selfish person. As i feel about a lot of cheaters, most the time when you cheat you don't think about how it will hurt you partner or consider the after math of the situation at all. in my personal opinion the only excuse for someone to cheat is you are selfish. so ladies and gentlemen next time you are cheated on or you have doubts thing about this maybe it is not a flaw within you but one within your partner or spouse. someone or disregards feelings and your thoughts is not worth your time and effort. so stay strong more one and get treated how you deserve.