When Is the Right Time to Get Pregnant?

It is essential that you, as a woman, be prepared - physically, mentally, and emotionally - for everything that involves a pregnancy! Of course, the thought that you will soon have a cute baby just yours can tempt you.

But consider all aspects: the changes your body will go through, the things you will have to give up or postpone - including academic or career training, the postpartum period, which will be perhaps the most demanding in your life, the changes that will inevitably appear in your relationship! These should not scare you - because if you are ready for the task, you will take them on and not consider them sacrifices!

But if the thought of these changes scares you (and you don't want to give up certain things), you may not be ready for the task yet! It's not the end of the line if you give yourself enough time to achieve everything you want before you get involved in raising a baby!

But it is difficult to postpone indefinitely: maybe you have finished college for some time and now you find out that your former colleagues are getting pregnant one by one! Or maybe go to a high school reunion and all your former classmates can only talk about what the baby did! And you feel weird, with your successful career!

Or maybe your parents or your partner and grandparents constantly ask you when the miracle will happen and you see in their eyes the disappointment when you answer them: "when I will be ready"! Yes, the pressures of others - direct or indirect - can influence you to want a task, to enter the "normal world"!

But remember that the most important thing is yourself - it's the perfect time to be a little selfish because you will have to give all your love, affection, time for this baby so long-awaited by those around you! If you feel that you have not yet lived everything you wanted before you started building a family, if you want certain achievements - either personal or professional - that would be difficult to achieve with a baby in your arms, postpone the happy event and take care of yourself. and your life!

A satisfied and fulfilled mother is a really good mother! A task will stop you from certain things and you must be fully aware and ready to take on and accept these changes without regret! Yielding only to the insistence of others could harm you, cause you regrets and frustrations, and this is extremely dangerous in the context of the fragile mental state of the pregnant woman and the new mother!

If you feel that you have given up something very important for you to have this baby, you are more prone to postnatal depression!

And when you have decided and feel ready for the task, don't forget your partner! He may face the same external pressures and influences, but is he ready? For men, it may be simpler, because they will not go through the physical changes, but the great change, the decisive and definitive transformation from the couple to the family can cause the same fears and doubts to him as to you!

So, talk openly with your partner and find out if he considers himself mature enough and accomplished to become a dad! Even if the "baby fever" has taken hold of you - along with the decision - and you are impatient, give him time to get used to the idea and decide when it is ready!

It is important because the father must be an equally present figure in the baby's life! And for him, the postpartum period may be even more difficult, because from now on, he will "share" you with another being: while you will focus all your affection and attention on the baby, he may feel from outside and ignore it!

But if he is ready to have a pregnancy - you both have it, you both have to go through all the hops - he will be an involved and happy father! Thus, this decision must necessarily be taken in two!

Going back to the previous idea, you should not rush into having a baby due to external pressures! When you are truly ready, you will realize! When you look into the eyes of your partner and realize that you want to give him a descendant, when you realize that you are ready to become your loving parents, then it will be time!

When you imagine a warm family scene - where you and your baby are having breakfast, for example - and you find yourself looking forward to that moment, then you are truly ready for pregnancy and ready to be a mom!

But if all you can imagine is how big you will become, or how painful the birth will be, or how tiring the baby will be, then give yourself another time! Find out all about pregnancy, get used to the idea, and in time, if you're the right person, you'll be ready to become a mother!

Why is there so much emphasis on the small inconveniences of pregnancy and raising a baby and the fact that you need to be prepared? Because many young women are so eager to have an expensive baby, that they don't stop at least to realize all the implications, to consult their partner, simply throwing their head forward!

And those young women may realize too late that they still cannot cope with the multiple challenges of motherhood! Many new mothers, without the invaluable help of their parents, would probably end up in the psychiatric ward! Even so, owning one is still beyond the reach of the average person.

And although this depression will pass at some point, isn't it better not to be put in this unpleasant situation? The cases in which mothers (quite rare and most of them extremely young!) Blaming their baby for ruining their lives and sometimes becoming suicidal, even thinking about infanticide, is horrifying!

But, overcoming this gloomy perspective, you must make sure that you are ready for the pregnancy and the role of mother for the good of you, your partner, and especially your baby! You just want to give her the best you can and make her life beautiful, right?

This article should not scare you: if you and your partner are fit and happy together, the decision to have offspring will come naturally one day and you will see all the good things involved in pregnancy and especially the fact that to be a mother!