When Does a Friendship Between a Woman and a Man Transform Into A Love Story?

An eternal discussion that often comes to no clear conclusion: can there be true friendship between a man and a woman? And if there is, what are the chances that it will suddenly turn into something else - either a relationship or a night of sex?

To start methodically in "studying" this subject - male-female friendship must be considered several variables that can cause various effects. First of all, how close are the two to each other?

It's about a true, deep friendship - which means they see each other very often and share everything (or almost everything) or a simple friendship - they occasionally meet over a drink and tell each other what happened to them.

It is easy to guess which of the two situations can lead to something else: if two people are extremely close, they may at some point want to increase this closeness, to go beyond the limits they have imposed.

Secondly, it is very important if the two have a couple of relationships and how stable those relationships are! If everyone loves their partner, then the two can maintain a friendship without worrying that something illegal could happen between them! That is if their relationship partners accept and tolerate this deep relationship between them!

A partner can be and is often extremely jealous of a good friend of the opposite sex! One wonders what needs you would have of a friend of the opposite sex if you had him/her. Even if the friendship is older than the couple's relationship, the existence of a stable partner will cause the friendship to cool down or even disappear!

But remember that a man-woman friendship is safe from sexual thoughts if they both have a satisfying and solid relationship!

Another variable: how attracted the two friends are to each other! Honestly, do you imagine effortlessly maintaining a friendship with someone who is enough to show up and salivate?

If one of them - or both - feels extremely physically or sexually attracted to his/her friend, then he/she can already say goodbye to the chance of a true and sincere friendship!

Sure, he or she may think that just because he or she is physically attracted to his or her friend does not mean that he or she is going to act, but even the thoughts in his or her mind can have an effect on the friendship - and the imagination is hard to imagine. strung, especially when it comes to sexual fantasies!

Finally, the context is also important: a certain situation can cause the friendship to go downhill… What would be such a situation? Imagine that your partner is breaking up with you one day.

You feel vulnerable, sad, good for nothing, confused, you need to talk to someone who understands you, who knows you, and who confirms to you that you are a wonderful person and that the ex-partner is a beast because he was able to leave you! What are you doing? You call your friend, who in the name of the close bond between you, rushes to you and comforts you as best he can!

It makes you feel better, it tells you all the things it likes about you, it compliments you too, being extremely vulnerable at this moment, you see next to you, not your good friend, but a person which you admire and which seems to admire you in turn!

So forget about friendship, forget about rules, forget about risks, and get carried away! After all, why not, you tell yourself then… and your boyfriend/girlfriend could not refuse you (unless he or she is a really strong person) when you are so vulnerable… After you have been abandoned (a), how can he/she refuse you too? And so you can both find out that you made a big mistake!

Doesn't the script seem realistic to you? Do you think that something like this can't happen to your old friend? Then another scenario: on Saturday night, as usual, you meet for a drink and talk. You are in a nice and crowded place, everyone is having fun, you let yourself be carried away… and drink and drink and drink… Until you forget what your name is, what about your pure friendship?

And if necessary, another scenario: you both go through a long period without a partner, you feel alone… Just spending time with each other forget about your loneliness and sadness… Just seeing how much you love your friend you stop asking yourself: "what's wrong with me, why can't I have a relationship?". Only next to him/her do you feel appreciated at your fair value… And what thought can be born to you, if not that one: simple and natural… ".

There is no denying it, yes - a friendship can turn into a couple of relationships and this is not a bad thing (as long as the relationship lasts if it ends - goodbye relationship, goodbye friendship!), But what is bad: it doesn't turn into a relationship, but to have a sexual adventure! Then you lost.

It is possible, if you are extremely close to your boyfriend/girlfriend, in time, to wake up that you have fallen in love! But what is the chance that he/she will feel the same way? Quite a few… Proximity, attachment, admiration, respect, open communication, all these can be easily confused with love or even turn into love!

But you have to think: do you value that friendship or do you prefer to risk it for something that might or might not exist? Many difficult obstacles!

One conclusion: NO, a man and a woman will not be able to maintain a true long-lasting friendship unless the improbable case of accumulating several variables: both to love someone else and to have a solid couple relationship, both to avoid extreme situations, as described above and… both of you do not feel physically or sexually attracted to each other at all!