What to Expect and How to Deal With a Breakup Correctly

In many cases, breaking up a relationship is the best solution or the only possible alternative! Some relationships just don't work out, maybe the partners aren't meant to be together, or maybe one of them isn't ready for anything that involves a serious relationship.

Either the partners were blinded by passion and thus had a sex-based relationship, which is almost over when it comes to a sexual routine, or the partners decided to be together because of feelings of friendship and similarities between them, therefore, had a relationship based on the need for emotional security, it will come to a point at the time of breaking up the relationship.

But even if breaking up a relationship was the right choice and you are aware of it and even if it was your choice, for a while you will miss it. Lack - if not of the partner himself, the lack of the relationship, the feeling of being with someone, of always having almost a person who supports and knows you.

It is normal to feel these feelings of loss, it does not necessarily mean that you have made a bad choice by breaking up with your partner. You can't after a breakup - no matter how amicable it may be, be immediately in perfect working order! Sure, you can pretend!

But the rupture of a relationship is followed by a period of "mourning", for some more intense, for others easier, but always existing. Although you know that the relationship would not have gone well and that it would not have led anywhere (except possibly to an even more painful breakup), you can't help but regret certain happy moments in your married life and wonder if you will find a person to live with such beautiful moments.

Any relationship, no matter how inappropriate and dysfunctional, has its good moments that you will then remember with regret. Don't fight emotions, but accept them and give yourself the necessary time after breaking up a relationship: time to think about yourself, what you want from a partner, what didn't work in your relationship, what you want in the future, and what kind of person would meet your expectations.

Avoid simply blaming your partner and try a relationship again right away! You first have to give yourself time and time to be with yourself, get to know each other again, and find out what you are looking for from another person in a couple.

There are two types of people, depending on how they react after breaking up a relationship: there are those who throw themselves into various social activities and those who isolate themselves from any social activities! Neither one nor the other approaches a correct strategy in overcoming the emotions of a breakup. The former lose themselves in an endless series of fun, outings with friends, parties, and other activities.

They start going on romantic dates one after the other: maybe, they will meet the right person! And after a long period of failed meetings, they start to wonder why they are not doing well! Because they didn't stop to think, because they didn't give themselves the necessary time to find out what they want from themselves and the other: they simply started going out, without wondering if that person attracts them. , with anyone, they found somewhat interesting.

And that's not how you meet your perfect partner! This is a strategy to inhibit emotions, not to allow you to feel sad, to always be busy. When you are so busy socializing in clubs, dancing, drinking, meeting new people, how do you have time to think about your emotions, live them and share them with your dear friends? But that sadness must be lived and accepted because it is the only way to get over it!

The second type of person isolates himself from society after breaking up a relationship, closes himself in, and does not let anyone approach them and see their sadness. This is not a correct strategy either, because they refuse to communicate with the only ones who have the power to help them: close friends! Sadness must be accepted and shared with loved ones, and by talking about how you feel, you are already taking the first step toward healing!

Pretending in front of your friends that you have nothing and locking yourself in the house to lick your wounds can lead to a beautiful depression! If you don't talk about your problem and just stick to your perspective on the relationship, you risk exaggerating the reality, distorting it, and drawing hasty conclusions: for example, that you should never start a relationship again, because it will end anyway!

Friends are the ones who can put you on the ground, they can help you share your sadness and after a long enough period to look at things in perspective, take it from the beginning!

So, after breaking up a relationship you have to accept your emotions, no matter how difficult it may seem to you! Being sad does not mean that you are weak and vulnerable, on the contrary, if you have the strength to accept and show others how you feel, this will make you stronger! Sincerity is important, and the most important thing is sincerity towards yourself! But what is important is that accepting emotions in no way means letting them dominate you!

Live them, share them, but don't forget for a moment that they are just passing emotions and that other emotions you feel or will feel are more important! For example, what does your momentary sadness mean compared to the moments of joy that your friends can offer you? What does your momentary sadness mean compared to the happiness you will feel at some point in the future when you meet the right person?

You have to realize that you are going through a vulnerable period of your life, but, like everything else, that period will pass (the faster you accept it as such and do not try to run away from it) and happier days will come!

What do you need to remember from now on in this article? Being strong means accepting your emotions, but not letting them dominate you!