What to Do When You Want to Reconcile With the Person Who Left You

Breakups miss. No one could ever dispute that. Breakups miss because even after separation, your soul still longs for the one who has been home to it for so long.

Breakups miss you so much because when you give up that person, you not only give up on that person but on a large part of yourself.

We have all gone through, at least once in our lives, a devastating parting… parting that emptied our souls, that broke our hearts into thousands and thousands of pieces.

It is very difficult to learn to live without a person who until recently was your whole life.

After such a breakup, you might even wonder, "What am I doing now? Who am I without this person?" You feel more empty than ever, and this awful feeling could make you fall into a lot of traps.

You are desperately looking for a way out of this state, a way to alleviate your suffering… you are willing to do anything just to stop this pain.

It is very clear that you never wanted this separation, and the simple idea that you were the one left makes you want to reconcile even more with the person who left you alone. Well, that's possible. You could get along with the person who left you naked, but you'll have to go through a long process to get to that point.

To regain a person who has decided that he no longer wants to be a part of your life, you will first need to regain yourself. It will be a long and arduous journey, but in the end, you will have a lot to gain.

This is the most important thing to do when you want to make peace with someone. Why? Because that person fell in love with you, the one from the beginning, that's why the person is lively and determined, not the one who now sits and cries desperately.

Think that this breakup happened for a reason. Maybe over time, you've changed a lot, and your ex-partner has lost interest in you. Your breakup had been around for a long time, only you didn't notice, or maybe you preferred to lie to yourself that everything was fine.

Try to figure out the reasons that kept you in that relationship, especially since things weren't going well. Maybe you felt comfortable with that person or maybe your partner was filling in some of your gaps, covering up some gaps. Maybe you were afraid to start over, even though you would have liked to, just because of the sense of security it gave you.

But look, the inevitable has happened, and now you're faced with these situations. Sometimes the universe works in such a way that we can solve all the problems we have with ourselves.

And look, this is happening now. You are faced with your person and you need to find out all the situations that led to this breakup. You have to understand why that person has become so necessary to you, why you feel like you can't live without him.

Go back in time and remember all the milestones in your life. What made you think you weren't a whole and that you needed a certain man next to you? You just have to be yourself again.

You have to become the person you were before all this suffering changed you. Take advantage of this loneliness and focus only on yourself. After all, you are your salvation and no one could understand your needs and desires better than you.

Put your thoughts on paper and write two letters to your partner. You don't have to send them, their only purpose is to clarify your thoughts.

In the first letter, describe your suffering, think about all the things that make you feel that way now, and ask yourself why you would not be able to live without that person.

You will see that this reason has nothing to do with the one who left you! He just left your life at a time when you needed to be alone anyway, even if you weren't aware of it.

In the second letter, thank your ex-boyfriend for everything he has given you during this relationship, whether it is life lessons or gifts that you have enjoyed immensely.

After writing these two letters, you can try to turn this situation around in your favor. This breakup is not about him, it's about you. Focus on your personal development, because it's your time to shine. Maybe you forgot how it is but don't worry! Gradually you will regain your radiance and happiness.

Make a list of what you want from a relationship and who you will be with at some point. Focus on both the good and the bad. It is very important to know the situations that you want to avoid in a future relationship.

Think that this breakup helped you understand your needs, helped you reconnect with yourself. And guess what? That's exactly what you had to do to get your ex-boyfriend back.

If after this long process you consider that he is also the chosen one, well, you will not have to do anything but wait. He will return to you immediately when he sees that the wonderful woman he fell in love with has returned. If he dreamed of a strong, independent woman, he could finally have her…