What kind of marriage is a healthy development marriage?

Married less than a year. I deeply understand that my husband is striving for the aa system in terms of living expenses, or I hope that I can spend more money for him. (My annual salary is 200,000, and he said that 10w is pre-tax). In terms of housework, he will not do it if he can. As a result, I went home from overtime and continued to cook and do housework for two hours every day. He just sat on the sofa and watched TV, or lay in bed and played with his mobile phone. I have talked a few times, but there is no improvement. The reason is that he will do it when he wants to. Some time ago, I planned to prepare for pregnancy, and I asked him to quit smoking because he is 36 years old this year and I am 30 years old. I think his physical fitness is average, he has been suffering from skin diseases, has a cold, fever and diarrhea, and every day he comes back from get off work, he complains of headaches and dizziness. So I hope that the best possible prenatal and postnatal care is responsible for the children. The only thing I can do is to eat well, rest well, and quit smoking. He said that other people who smoke don't want children, why do things come to me, thinking that I don't want children on purpose; we don't make much money, because we are in Shanghai, and it will definitely be more stressful to have children in the future. He talked about hoping that he could work harder. I also know that the environment cannot be changed for a while, but I think a positive attitude is indispensable. He said that he thinks that the money is too little for me to earn, and the family is very poor to raise children, so why do I feel that raising children is a lot of pressure. I think about having a child in the future, he is neither willing to pay more money nor do housework, our financial conditions are not enough to hire an aunt every month, then I go to work and take care of the child, and there is no one to help, no one Understand me, slap me in language everywhere, so how will you live the next day? How does a healthy marriage develop? Feeling disappointed and powerless with life. To add, I think the reason for his indifferent attitude may be because he is from Shanghai and I am a foreigner, but the family conditions of both sides are similar. Although I was lazy before marriage, I basically listened to what I said. Now I just look like me, whatever face you want, and he thinks he is fine with the above problems. I never put down my phone at home, I just keep playing with it. I don't plan to read to grow. Faced with this person every day, there is no hope in life.

If the man has been thinking this way, after having a child, you will be more tired than you are now. A perfect family is built by two people. If it is only one-sided, there will be problems sooner or later. I'm not married yet, but I can understand how you feel. I like what Joe Chen said very much: I don't like when others treat me, and I don't like to treat others, especially for the relationship between men and women, without you, I can still live a good life by myself. Flavorful. If I let you go, I have to think about your feelings all day long, so you are tired and I am tired too. There are so many annoying things at work, why are there still compromises to please you, if that’s the case, then I really can’t do it, I’m the kind of person in my life, get along with you for a while, if I find that If this person has no self-motivation in life, or lives with a lazy attitude, I will cut off contact with this person. Because I would think that every minute of talking to you and spending time with you would feel like a waste of my life. Sometimes I kindly remind the other party, and the other party also has an indifferent attitude. Then I feel that there is no need to be a bad person. After all, what does your personal good or bad have to do with me? As long as I am good, I will also Not a great man, can't affect you. Even worse, you reminded the other party, and the other party still thinks that you are long-winded, unreasonable, looking at you with an impatient face, very flat, why bother.