What is “emotional value”?

The hotly debated "emotional value" is a valuation product of contemporary specialty. It is abstract rather than concrete, and it moistens things silently.

The era we live in today is undoubtedly an era of value. Everything can be quantified and value can be exchanged. If you are still in the stage of love, "providing emotional value" is regarded as a single item of valuation parallel to appearance, height, work, education, etc.

When can "emotion" also become a value? The answer is when it can be exchanged with other things of equal value.

Then it is not difficult to understand that the "value" that can be exchanged and actively used by people cannot be negative emotions such as sadness and negativity, but can only be positive values ​​such as optimism, friendship, kindness, and enthusiasm. Everyone likes to be friends, lovers, and relatives with a person who is always sunny and positive. If the other person can still infect himself with that irrefutable, stable cheerfulness and optimism when he is in a low mood, his value will be higher.

Think carefully, if a person is very good at giving others "emotional value", there are two reasons: first, he has extremely rich and overflowing positive emotional reserves, and he gives roses to others anytime and anywhere; second, he puts "others" before "himself", in order to achieve a certain overall harmony or to please others, or simply as a means of maintaining relationships technically, in short, for the maximization of utilitarian interests, he does not hesitate to cover up the individual's true feelings and emotions.

Another possibility is that the instinctive empathy and empathy are strong. Such people need to have a sufficiently strong heart. But experience tells us that people who are too good at thinking about others may not be very enthusiastic and kind, and may even be due to excessive indifference. No one can get into his heart, and being at ease in social occasions is a means for him to adapt to the living environment.

In a relationship with real feelings, as long as you really feel the feelings of a specific person, it is impossible to just regard emotions as tools and currency. To some extent, this is a limitation, fragility, and sensibility that is unique to human beings, and those who are able to provide you with sufficient emotional comfort may also require you to provide the same amount in return. And it is impossible to completely distinguish the joys, sorrows, anger, and happiness of people, just like a housewife who has been married for ten years complains to her absent-minded husband: "You don't love me anymore." Or vice versa, the husband complains to his wife: "You are really inconsiderate!"

The emotions such as frustration, anger, and offense contained in human emotions are actually necessary pains that can promote psychological and relationship health. They not only constitute the authenticity of people's interactions, but also allow us to keep introspective at all times. Once there is a lack of awareness of self and others, human emotions are no longer unique and can no longer provide any specific guidance and precepts for our happy life. In this sense, indulging in emotional values ​​is like indulging in alcohol, which makes people have the illusion that they are the center of the world.

If one day, emotions become replaceable and consumable commodities, it will be another level of human spiritual doomsday.