What Are You Hiding From Your Partner?

What are you hiding from your partner - we all have little secrets from those around us, intimate things that we don't want others to know, not even the person we love! From small habits to intimate rituals to some past ideas or experiences.

No one reveals himself completely in front of others, keeping some of his intimacy - some even say that we are ourselves only when we are alone, with others putting on a mask…

What you hide from your partner:

Embarrassing habits… Of course, in the presence of your partner, especially at the beginning of a relationship, it doesn't bother you to be free and relaxed: you refrain from the small habits that almost all people generally have, but which are not encouraged in public (scratching, digging, releasing gas after a hearty meal)…

Which is good: maybe when you feel so at ease with your loved one, that you express yourself as freely as possible, has little to suffer…

Intimate things. Our various rituals of care and maintenance are intimate - and no matter how many years you have been together, perhaps a large part of them should remain behind closed doors.

Things like epilation or shaving in intimate areas or especially in areas where there should be no hair, thinking in various areas, cleaning the ears, exfoliating, or… going to the toilet! It is sometimes said that in a stable and open couple, partners should not hide and be embarrassed even when it comes to these routines… But is it not preferable not to let your partner see you at the toilet - such proximity seems to affect the desire…

Embarrassing stories from childhood and adolescence. What you hide from your partner - the embarrassing little experiences from your past, from childhood to adolescence.

Maybe we all went through a horrible experience when we took our partner home to my parents, and my mother began to tell me fondly wonderful stories from the past about when I peed on the floor, about what changes occurred at puberty or other nice childhood and adolescence memories!

Not to mention the exhibition of pictures from when we were little… Many times, we tend to hide embarrassing things from the past, from childhood and adolescence - the loved one does not need to know what we look like at 13, how we went through puberty, and how to write dramatic love letters…

Although such things would not harm the relationship, they would even be happy moments of laughter (of you!), as if pride leaves us too much to tell all these embarrassing little memories to the couple's partner.

Our instinctive fears. Many of us have a phobia - we are afraid of something, but it is not easy, as a grown man, to be afraid of the dark, open windows, spiders, the Black Man, zombies, serial killers…

But we rarely recognize this girl with partner or others as yes - we have this instinctive fear! So we motivate why we leave a light on or why we check the door five times using other pretexts…

Past love experiences. What are you hiding from your partner, fearing that he might have a different opinion of you or that it would bother him? Details of the love affair you went through - both emotionally and physically.

But it would be good to differentiate between hiding details that would bother your partner and that are useless to say and… lying by omission! In the first situation, it is very normal not to tell him in detail how much you cared about a former partner, how you felt when you were with him or what your intimate life was like! The loved one does not need to know all these aspects!

It is also acceptable to underestimate your ex-partners, to present them in a less good light, making your current partner feel that he is the best - you just couldn't tell him that an ex was better… But no more it is so acceptable to hide an important part of the truth: to say that you have never loved anyone - while you have been mad at someone else; to say that you only had an ex-intimate partner - while you had about three…

Why would you hide these love experiences from your past - what you lived did to you what you are and brought you with your current partner. No sense in telling you now - I don't wanna ruin the surprise. regarding the mutual knowledge of the love past of the partners of a couple, the rule should be sincerity without details!

Personal ideas and beliefs. What else can you hide from your partner, thinking he can change his mind about you? Some personal ideas you have, ideas and perspectives on sensitive things (ideas about relationships, about marriage, about children, about politics, about religion, about discrimination, etc.).

Maybe you know that your partner disagrees with you, that he doesn't understand you, and that he is disappointed with the way you think. Maybe you're afraid of arguing. When your loved one adores children, for example, while you find them annoying little creatures and you don't want to have children - you can choose to hide your opinions. When your loved one is an ardent supporter of human rights, while you have a tooth against certain minorities - you can choose not to whisper a word about your beliefs.

When the loved one is a believer, while you are Darwin's successor - you can choose not to tell him directly what you think (don't believe)… It's good that you don't want to upset or irritate your partner - but moments discussed in the couple - just talking about them you can see if you can accept that you are different and that you have different perspectives.

Sometimes these differences of perspective do not matter - you can accept them and understand that everyone has their own opinion - other times, however, they influence the relationship, when it comes to differences of opinion and a strong desire on things that can directly affect you (such as about children). One more reason to talk openly about them and see if you can get over them or not…