9 Rules of Self-Love in a Healthy Relationship

Someone said, "If you don't love yourself, it will be very difficult for you to fall in love with someone else because you are unlikely to want to waste time and energy that you are not ready to waste."

Being in a relationship is wonderful, especially when there is happiness and understanding.

However, if we want to be in a healthy relationship, we mustn't stop loving each other less than we love our partner. The higher the self-esteem, the stronger the relationship. How do we learn to love ourselves while in a relationship?

The quality of relationships with other people cannot be better than the quality of the relationships we have developed with ourselves.

Even when we are in a romantic relationship, we need to maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves, because this is the starting point for a full partnership.

Sometimes, by getting too involved in a relationship, we forget to love ourselves, become too attached to our partner, and stop working on ourselves. The line between true love for a person and addiction to it is very thin.

The closer we get to someone, the more likely we are to notice that we are beginning to treat ourselves with very little respect. That's why I want to share with you these 9 Rules that will help you understand whether you maintain a healthy balance in your relationship or not.

Here's why:

1. Maintain inner balance

Calmness and inner balance are the most liberating things in our lives, which come with age or after we learn to detach ourselves from the negative situations in life.

Maintaining an internal balance means not rushing things, but listening to your partner's wishes. You must not let your mood revolve around its axis because of the ups and downs of the relationship. No relationship is perfect, but if you find the inner balance, any conflict will end.

2. You are a unique person

Because you are convinced that you are a unique and complete personality, from the very beginning you did not look for someone to compliment you. You love someone who makes your life better, but you are quite capable of living without him.

Yes, you like living together, with him, but you can be happy without this person. You don't feel a great need to cling to your partner like glue. As important as it is to have hobbies together, you should also have a hobby that will bring you satisfaction and fulfillment.

3. You support yourself in everything

When you support yourself in any situation, it is a sure sign that you know how to love yourself and appreciate yourself. If you have a dream and support yourself in the path you have chosen, do not forget your priorities and do not rush too fast.

Sometimes you can go wrong, and that's normal. If your partner doesn't believe in your dream, don't let that influence you. Life is too short and you have to want to become a much better version of what you are today, so never let anyone stop you.

4. You look at the world very openly

When you love yourself, you are always on the path to self-improvement and inner development. You understand that sometimes you have to leave behind the one who makes you suffer or the one who no longer keeps up with you. You know you don't have to stay in a relationship just out of habit or fear. Always open your eyes wider and let them penetrate beyond illusions.

5. You use the potential you have

A satisfying life is not only achieved if you are always in your comfort zone. If you want to get as much as possible, you have to work hard. You always try to get to know each other, to find out what you can do and you manage to achieve a lot with the help of your potential.

6. You are a whole person

A person is whole when he does not change his mind 3 times a day and whose rules of life have always been highly respected. No matter how much you love your partner, there are certain things that you are not ready to sacrifice even for his sake.

Even if your partner's views on certain things are different from yours, you will continue to communicate and act as your conscience dictates. A person who truly loves himself will never try to buy someone's love by sacrificing his beliefs for it. You know it's wrong, and you'll never do it again.

7. You are not ready to give up your happiness

Although you are in a relationship where you work a lot with your partner, sometimes you have to choose whether to do what is best for you or to put happiness at risk. Although such situations happen to you very rarely, you have to do as your soul dictates.

8. Your love does not turn into an addiction

Your relationship does not turn into mutual dependence, full of jealousy and accusations, because both you and your partner respect each other.

You have long since decided to trust him, and if he ever fails to trust you, you will do as your heart dictates and give both of you complete freedom, but in no way will you insult him. Sometimes people become so dependent on other people that they become the mirror of those around them.

9. Don't stay in a relationship if you have violence

Violence can take many forms. Sometimes it is quite obvious, such as physical violence, but in other cases, it is not so easy to recognize. If you truly love yourself, love does not blind you and you immediately notice the symptoms of emotional or mental abuse.

You feel if your partner wants to control your every move or wants to manipulate you. When you feel this way, you immediately break up. Loving a person who understands you is a pleasure, but in any relationship, you must be able to stay yourself.