What Are the Characteristics That Make You a Successful Parent

Every parent hopes to be a good parent, to successfully fulfill their role of raising, disciplining, and guiding the child: let's see what are the characteristics that make you a successful parent (traits, but also skills, what can be "Worked", practiced daily in social interactions).

Every parent can become a better person and a better parent, if they exercise certain skills and develop certain character traits, these can be innate, but many of them can also be "socially learned" - and the child will learn them. from the parents!).

The parent knows he can't be perfect - but with each passing day, he learns how to play his part successfully. And this is because each person can, after knowing himself, work on his ways of thinking, feeling, reacting, and acting (personal development has practically no end).

Knowing what your strengths and weaknesses are and knowing what you can do for yourself is the first step to being a successful parent (and a better person). A successful parent is the one who learns something every day, the one who knows himself, and the one who knows his child.

What are the characteristics that make you a successful parent?

Emotional intelligence - each person possesses this characteristic (although it is true that some to a greater extent than others); the most important thing is that this type of intelligence is developed, stimulated by interactions with others.

The most important thing that makes a smart parent emotionally is empathy: knowing, accepting, and controlling one's emotions, but also learning to recognize, accept, and understand the emotions of others that are just as important. The empathetic person knows how to listen and learns to put himself in the other person's place, to facilitate the other's understanding.

Inner balance - a successful parent must work to achieve an inner balance, and inner harmony; For this balance, working on self-control (patience without self-control does not exist!) is essential - every day there are opportunities to improve self-control (and how effective it is in the relationship with the child!). And spirituality can be a way to gain inner balance (people who are not overwhelmed by problems feed their spirit).

Intelligent appreciative. Here is a characteristic of a successful parent that can be constantly practiced (of course, an innate optimism helps the person, but anyone can learn to think appreciatively). An appreciably intelligent person learns to focus on the positive, the strong, the opportunities, the constructive (compared to how many of us unwittingly focus on the negative, weaknesses, risks). and what is bad).

An intelligent person from an appreciative point of view knows how to value and use the qualities and opportunities that arise, even more, he knows how to appreciate the qualities of those around him and to motivate those around him positively. It is a difficult characteristic to acquire because, in the face of challenges and problems, most of us tend to think negatively.

It is very important, as a parent, to work on this appreciative perspective of thinking helps the relationship with the child, because such a person learns not to criticize the man, but to constructively criticize the man's action (this parent will not tell the child never that he is "naughty", "stupid", that he "knows nothing", but will correct his behaviors, highlighting mistakes and motivating them to be corrected positively).

Another side of this type of intelligence is focusing on the possible solutions in a situation and not on problems (many think only of the problem itself, its causes and consequences - but it is effective to initially think only and only solutions!).

Self-confidence and inner strength. Here are two more features that make a parent successful! Self-confidence is an essential trait for success and happiness in life, it comes after self-knowledge and acceptance (along with acceptance, comes the realization that you can always grow!).

Believing in yourself is important, especially believing in yourself as a parent. Asking for appreciation, obedience, and respect means appreciating and respecting yourself. Successfully overcoming mistakes and hops means trusting yourself. And the inner strength refers to the strong, confident people, who are based on their inner self, which forms an internal system of values, principles, attitudes towards life.

Another important element of self-confidence is confidence in intuition - any parent knows that often a decision is easier to make following your inner sense, parental instinct.

Initiative and firmness. A successful parent will learn over time that it is important to make the best decisions as soon as possible, to act instead of thinking too much about what would be best to do, often losing the chance to act effectively ( for example, when he does not know how to react to a forbidden act of the child and loses the right moment - as soon as it happens).

It is very difficult to know that you have made the best decision - it is important to make a decision that follows both your instincts and your reason, and if it is not the best decision in the end, then you will learn from it. No parent always knows what is best - but learning to act and be firm in actions is important to the discipline.

Flexibility and creativity. These two characteristics make a parent successful and go hand in hand: the parent mustn't have a rigid and closed perspective on discipline and relationship with the child; As time goes on, the relationship with the child changes, the child changes, so the rules and how to interact with him must become flexible.

Flexibility also means a bit of creativity: because there is no guide for successful parents, they need to form their style and add new aspects as they learn…

Correctness and responsibility - a parent is the first landmark of the child, he is the one responsible for the child's life. And he must be a straight, stable, responsible person on his feet, on whom a child can rely, on whom a child can depend, and on whom he has something to learn.

The child will sometimes accuse his parent of being wrong - but as long as he knows he has made the right decision (which is good for the child), he can console himself by remembering that there is no perfect parent, no parent who will not be criticized, there is no parent who knows everything - but there is the parent who learns with the child, thus becoming a successful parent!