We accept the love we think we deserve

But why do we really accept the love we think we deserve ??!

Reason number one :

People with high self-esteem are aware that they are valuable . They know they are worthy of love and of life , so they do not accept mistreatment . Just like we don’t accept blind people who cannot see us as “too much people .”

On the other hand , people with low self-esteem just accept the mistreatment , hiding behind the notion of love . They convince themselves that this is all they deserve ; nothing more , nothing less.

Reason number two :

Some people are afraid of staying alone . And I was one of them , because I believed that being in certain relationships or friendships , and working hard to socialize , was going to give me an added worth , no matter how badly I was treated in those relationships .

I used to think that I was incomplete , and that every relationship was going to fill the emptiness inside me. But the moment I realized that love does not complete you , but rather complements you, everything shifted .

Good news :

If you are in that circle, that’s totally okay : staying in relationships where you deserve a lot more doesn’t mean you have to remain the same person forever or keep being who you used to be . You can get out of it .

You can rebuild your self-esteem from scratch and create normal , healthy relationships . And these are the steps that will guide you to the love and life you truly deserve :

First: Protect yourself with boundaries ( REMEMBER THAT ALL THE TIME ) .

Set boundaries that no one can ignore , boundaries of respect and personal freedom . Just because you love someone does not mean they can cross those limits . It doesn’t mean you have to accept rudeness , toxic comments , or behavior that diminishes your value .

Second : Build a connection with yourself ( PLEASE UNDERSTAND IT AND BELIEVE IT ) .

Start your day with affirmations . Look in the mirror and say : “I am worthy. I am the best . I am lovely . I am more than enough . I am ready to shine. I am the main character of my story , not an extra . ”

Positive self-talk is the real game changer . When you consistently tell yourself these truths , you start to believe them . They guide your mindset, your emotions , and even shape your choices .

Third : Your surroundings matter ( PAY ATTENTION TO THIS ) .

The people you see every day give you unconscious affirmations just by being around you. They can either make you feel small or help you recognize your true value.

That’s why it’s time to filter your circle and choose the people who lift you higher. A toxic environment can cause real damage. ( Notice who really builds you up .)

Fourth : The priority is you , and nobody but you ( READ THAT AGAIN AND AGAIN ) .

When you truly understand your value , you stop running after love , and love starts running after you . You no longer waste your energy on bad relationships , and you finally let go of the fear of loss .

So I want you to admit it and answer the question : are you accepting the love you deserve , really , or just escaping from being alone ? Your answer will change the game.