Transgender and Pregnant

So, if any of you reading this have read my previous blog about being transgender but de-transitioning after 3 years, some of you may be confused.

I haven't posted on here for around 5 months purely because I had a lot going on in my life which made it hard to find the time to write. I also find that when it comes to writing about personal life and experiences that some people can become very judgemental, especially in this day and age. With social media expanding every year and more apps being released for people to talk and post anonnymously I believe that it becomes very hard to fight the stigma on certain subjects. Thats a topic for another day though.

In August 2020 I de-transitioned after living as Tyler (he/him) for over 3 years. November 2020 rolled around and me and my partner found out that i was 2-3 weeks pregnant. This for us was 100% a planned pregnancy as we have both always wanted a family but it struck a bit sooner than expected. I stopped my hormone replacement therapy (HRT) in August and by calculations I fell pregnant in October. This would have to mean that I began ovulating again within 2 months after stopping my testosterone shots. A lot of people say im lucky to have gotten so pregnant so quickly as some people spend years trying to get pregnant but for us it was definitely a shock.

I am now just over 23 weeks pregnant and I have started to realise that transitioning in the first place and living as Tyler was absolutely the correct decision for me. I am continuing with the pregnancy as i will always say to everyone that i am over the moon to be pregnant and it is one of the best most rewarding feelings ever. However after i have given birth i will be restarting my HRT and living back as Tyler again.

When it comes to the LGBT community there is a lot that people still don't understand. Where I was on HRT for over a year the changes that i have experienced will not reverse now so being pregnant with short hair, deep voice and facial hair it can still be a bit out of the ordinary for people to see, especially as I have all of these attributes along side a pregnant baby bump. I personally am a very open person about my life story and also my personal opinions based on my experiences which is why I have decided to start sharing my stories on this platform.

A lot of people ask me the question of "how did your partner react?" and "how does he feel about dating a pregnant man?". I get faced with these questions a lot and we will both answer the same way; the person who i am hasnt changed, he fell in love with me for me not for thats between my legs or whether i use she or he. It is very rare to come accross people like him these days and i can honestly say I feel like the luckiest person to have met him.

Although my family haven't been the most supportive through this massive change in my life, I have however had a lot of support elsewhere. Hospitals have been so understanding of my past and have helped put me and my partner at ease with the whole process especially considering I had testosterone going through my body for a year. We got concerned that there would be complications but the midwives at our old flat and our new house have been outstanding.

Being transgender and pregnant is such a wide and contriversial topic and so I believe it needs to be spoken about more openly to get people educated on such a vast topic.

~ Ashley