Top 10 Things That Should Never Be Said to Your Relationship Partner

Top 10 - what not to say to your boyfriend/girlfriend: what words can hurt or offend your partner, damage the relationship and take him/her away from you? What you should always refrain from telling him (we are not talking about what to hide or lie about, but painful and offensive words).

What can you say to her when she's upset or just spontaneously without thinking about what you're saying? In intimate relationships such as a couple, a simple word can do a lot of harm, precisely because you care so much about your partner…

Top 10 - what not to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend:

I do not care. Does the partner want to tell you something that happened to him or, worse, to reveal something intimate to you? But are you so moody or exhausted that you open your mouth to say "I don't care"?

Trigger the alarm and swallow your words: never tell him that you don't care or that you don't care about something about him/her, something he/she wants to tell you. And if you are not able to listen to him/her at the moment, tell him/her to talk a little later…

You bore me, leave me alone. Maybe you feel bored sometimes talking and you want a few moments of peace. You may even feel irritated because your partner is talking to you a thousand times about the same things you know and breathe as if it were something new. You can, in these cases, change the subject of the discussion or just listen with one ear…

You look like hell! 3rd place in the top 10 - what not to say to your boyfriend/girlfriend - is not a reply that leads to disaster only in the case of your girlfriend: your boyfriend will not be happy to hear you say such things!

Like women, men need to feel appreciated and wanted by their partners, and such direct and brutal criticism hurts pride and affects self-image. This does not mean lying: but being more discreet, subtle, and gentle with criticism regarding the appearance of your boyfriend/girlfriend (without forgetting to say goodbye).

Why can't you be like X / why can't you change? Translated - someone else is better than you, and you're not good enough for me! You shouldn't tell your boyfriend or girlfriend anything like that and you shouldn't compare him/her to others - he/she is who he/she is or you either love him/her for who he/she is or you have nothing to do with him/her. Almost nothing more painful and offensive than being told your partner prefers another or that he doesn't consider you good enough…

Why talk, you don't understand me anyway. 5th place in the top 10 - what not to say to your boyfriend/girlfriend: a reply that makes him/her feel useless, incapable, unimportant, excluded. When you don't want to share your partner's thoughts and feelings even more, you tell him that he doesn't understand you, you actually tell him that you are not close, that you don't trust him and that he is not the person who could support you. Maybe he/she sometimes can't understand you (or maybe that's just the way you think) - but speaking openly and revealing yourself is important to your privacy.

You're not good in bed. Here is a reply that, no matter how true it may be in itself, should never be said to the couple's partner! It is far too direct and brutal and is in itself a destructive critique - instead of such painful and offensive remarks, you can use constructive criticism "I would like it if you had it", "it would be great if you let me I look .. "," I wish you crazy, but if I have… ".

Specifically, you are not brutally telling the truth about what is not good, but you are saying what could be made better, emphasizing the positive aspects as well…

You always do nonsense, you don't do anything like the world! Speaking of destructive criticism - here's their queen. How do you help your boyfriend/girlfriend and how do you help yourself by making such remarks?

With nothing - eventually, you infuriate him/her or successfully remove him /her from you. Avoid being the one who always knows the couple better and avoid always criticizing and correcting

Instead, read what is being said above about constructive criticism - learning to say what you don't like in a positive way, showing what you like and then suggesting ways to change what you don't like.

I would feel better without you. On the occasion of an outing, a party, any event - telling your partner that you would rather go without him / her (although sometimes you may feel that way, being freer alone) is a wrong step, which is the most surely leads to an argument.

And telling him that in general, every day, you feel better without him / her is a sure step towards disaster: and if this is the reality and you feel much better without a partner next to you, then why are you in this relationship?

When are we going to break up … - the end of the sentence doesn't matter anymore! The simple words "when we are going to break up" should always be avoided as a couple - they show that you are thinking about breaking up; saying "when" instead of "if" is never a good idea.

Even if you still think from time to time about the possibility of separation (in the near or distant future), you do not have to tell your partner, because you make it clear that this will be the case and put the idea in your mind, that and how it is inevitable (you talk about it only if you really think it will).

I'm not sure if I love you. And the last place in the top 10 - what not to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend: even if you sometimes wonder if what you feel is really love or attachment, there is no point in hurting your partner so much. Why would you call him that? For him/her to show you if you really love him/her or not?

Do you want an answer from him/her, a clarification, a proof? Only you have the answer - and you should look for it as carefully as possible. it is better not to start a discussion that will hurt him/her, but to look in yourself, in your soul - there are the answers and not in the partner.