Tips for Living Beautifully So That You Can Win the Love of Those around You

Some people think they are unlucky in love. They believe that giving and receiving love healthily and reciprocally should be easy, perfectly natural. The reality of life shows that sometimes this is quite complicated.

Everyone must be fair to those around them, to respect them, but he is not obliged to love a person if he does not feel that, even if he loves him. The one who loves should do so to win the love of his loved one. How could he do that? Here are some helpful tips from psychologists.

Tips to win the love of a loved one

People need love, love. Affection is a primary human need for us humans. The desire to be loved by someone appears to every person, this is a certainty. Ideally, every relationship or marriage should satisfy the need for love and intimacy.

Falling in love is due to several factors, following the observation of details that assemble a person's personality. People act by instinct and this is not insignificant in creating relationships. People have romantic faith in searching for a soul mate and making it a purpose in life. When they fall in love, they tend to think that they have found their soul mate.

The feeling of falling in love is only temporary, it will satisfy the need for affection only for some time, at the beginning of the relationship. After this feeling passes, one of the partners may end up making a kind of obsession with the other, if the need for love is not satisfied.

You can read here about how a man in love behaves, what are the signs that the man loves you.

As a couple, each partner must strive to win and keep the other's love. If the husband feels that his wife no longer loves him, he should ask himself why this has happened. No one is bound to love a person indefinitely if he no longer behaves in an affectionate, loving way. The one who feels that he is no longer loved must strive to attract his partner and regain his love. Normally people should not simply give up love at first, they should get involved and strive to maintain love.

"Love with force is impossible!"

When a person no longer loves you and tells you or demonstrates this to you continuously, you can do nothing, you can not force him to love you, "love with force is impossible." But you can fight to regain his love, but in a dignified way, to make yourself appreciated again, and in no way to become a slave or beggar of affection.

Begging love is not love!

The fact that you are begging for love means a lack of respect for you. When you do this, it is clear that you have false love. In addition, you will find that you do not love yourself enough. The consequences are the following: you end up living an unfulfilled love, you victimize yourself, you feel that you suffer even more. No one should do that, because he will feel neither joy nor happiness.

When you feel that the one you love no longer loves you and there is nothing you can do, you have anxiety and you suffer in your soul. The best thing is to say goodbye to someone who no longer pays any attention to you, or who no longer feels anything for you. After the breakup, you need a period of silence, because love always needs reflection, so you can slowly overcome all your worries.

Love must be shown day by day, not begging. If you decide to beg for love, you will choose indifferently. When there is little love from a partner in a relationship or the love has completely disappeared, an imbalance is installed in that relationship, and indifference is seen. When you see constant signs of disinterest, it is clear that the foundation of this relationship is weak. Eventually, the same outcome is reached, the lack of interest will destroy the feelings of affection.

Don't run after someone undecided!

If a person is undecided, if she is no longer sure that she loves you, she becomes evasive and withdrawn. In this case, you need to give it space. If you insist, you will not gain anything, on the contrary, you will receive the opposite of love, which is indifference, not hatred. Indifference hurts more, it occurs when love is lost. As I said, you should not run after such a person no matter how much you love him, because you will choose with contempt on his part.

If the other person's feelings are unclear, if he doesn't know if he loves you or not, or so he tells you, it is clear that he does not feel true love for you. He will try to distance himself in this case, to free you and him from the relationship, therefore he will not encourage you to continue believing in the relationship. When that happens, one thing you don't have to show is despair. Even if you feel that way, you have to hide your despair because it will create the impression of a lack of self-esteem and you will look like a less valuable person in the eyes of the other.

When you are desperate, do not seek to earn love through favors and gifts. They will not be appreciated at their true value, they will be perceived as a way of manipulation. You can't be interesting to a person just by giving gifts. In addition, if they are not appreciated, you will feel that your self-esteem has dropped even more, which will make you even less attractive.

Stop criticizing!

If you want to have a happy marriage, stop criticizing. Criticism is not good, but neither is irony, gossip, and cynicism. All these have low vibrations and do not do well, they are defective. By applying them, the love affair gradually deteriorates. Married people should strive to improve their love affair without resorting to the habit of criticizing.

Neither of the couples should impose their personal will insistently on the other. If they do, that person will jeopardize their relationship of love and marriage. Both must evolve and thus each discovers in the other something new, something to be admired. The two must never stop growing, in the sense of accumulating knowledge, to evolve.

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What qualities attract a person's love?

When it comes to qualities, personality matters first. You will surely be loved for who you are, for your qualities. Therefore, here you have to be careful, to evolve, to become better and better. You have to love yourself, take care of yourself, be confident and that will be seen in your attitude.

You need to develop in yourself certain qualities through which to attract love. The idea is to develop your personality. Psychologists believe that the power of a pleasant personality attracts love. You have to have confidence in yourself, to be proud of yourself, to develop, to have qualities that will be appreciated by the person who wants to love you. Here we refer to attitude, appearance, inner beauty, and more.

Inner qualities matter a lot in a relationship. If they don't exist, you certainly won't be loved. Nobody wants a person who is "empty inside". In a relationship, you get to discover the character of the other person and analyze how he behaves with other people, how he treats the elderly, or younger, family, relatives, colleagues, friends. This way you can find out if she is sociable, persevering if she has courage, but also other qualities that we generally value in people.

Everything you do for yourself to become a man who deserves to be appreciated, you must do your best, because what you do superficially is not appreciated.

You have to have a personality, but here we are not referring to that cheap personality that is not appreciated, but to a pleasant personality that does not stress.

You can only win love if it is that spark of love, not through sacrifices!

That means love must exist, you must win it. Initially, the relationship starts with a simple attraction. Then what impresses you more than the attraction is the respect it shows. This quality attracts you more to a person than just physical attraction.

In no case will you be able to win someone's heart by the deeds you do - a lot of work, services, gifts, favors, etc. If you become someone's servant, you will not receive love, at most you will have mercy and compassion. To win his love, you have to show him that you have qualities, to appreciate him for what you are and not for what you do.

The wife who works too hard will not be loved more by her partner. She must understand that this is not what makes her husband love her, but the way she looks, how she attracts him, how she behaves towards him. If she comes home from work and spills all her nerves at home, in time she will surely lose her love. This is wrong, no one deserves to bear the nerves you have accumulated at work.

If you sacrifice yourself, you will fall into the eyes of others, you will attract feelings of pity and not feelings of love. Do not imagine that when you do everything for the efforts and sacrifices of those around you, they will love you more. You can't buy love with sacrifices, or with what you do for others!

Selfishness is a defect that kills love!

Remember that a selfish person will be avoided by people and not loved at all. If you are a selfish person, you have to change, because you cannot be loved if you do not give love. Some people just think they are sacrificing for others, they think they are doing a lot for others, but in reality, they are selfish and do almost nothing. Those who do so are selfish.

A selfish man does not listen to his partner, does not have patience with her, gets bored quickly when she says something, does not notice anything related to her interests, does not care about her problems, always thinks only of him, he only talks about it, which interests him.

If you are in a relationship with a selfish person, unfortunately, this relationship may not work. When you have feelings of love you do not see exactly what the person you fell in love with is like, your mind does not see its flaws. When you realize that you love a selfish person, you realize that you are wrong, his way of making your feelings go down.

Avoid becoming too altruistic!

Love is gained through a pleasant personality, through dignity, not through sacrifice. Those who have altruistic or self-sacrificing partners may feel pity for them and may take advantage of such people. Although they are pleased, this is not true love, and altruism is unhealthy from this point of view because it leads to continuous self-sacrifice, which also affects health.

This feeling of love that we all want cannot be bought through sacrifice. You will not win love by what you do, but by what you are.

It is good to do things but to do them constructively for the relationship, possibly with your partner. The chores (cooking, cleaning, shopping, and alleles) are done together, not separately. Love itself is a good reason to do things together.

Live your own life!

This is especially important in a relationship. If you can love yourself, put yourself first and live your own life, you will appear in the eyes of others like a more complete person. This means that you know how to love yourself, take care of yourself, evolve, etc. All this will make you a beautiful person and gain more appreciation for who you are, so you will gain more love.

To win someone's love, you must first love yourself, act on yourself. The idea is to appreciate yourself a lot, to take great care of yourself, to look impeccable. Then you have to have a pleasant attitude, to address that person beautifully, with love, without suffocating him. You have to win his love in a way that comes naturally, without forcing things.

If you are married and you notice that your relationship with your partner has deteriorated you need to find out the cause that led to it. Remember that marriage requires effort to maintain your love affair. Being married does not mean that love is almost guaranteed. You have to impress your partner and continue to keep the fire of love, it is very important to put it first, before friends, work, parents, relatives, etc.

Certain vices - alcohol, drugs, gambling, and more - lead to the destruction of the relationship. All this often requires professional help. If they are not removed, the marriage or love affair will end.