The World in 2020

The hardest part about being an agender person is you don’t get to choose if you want to be or not it’s more of do you accept yourself. What fits the definition of an agender person, doesn’t fit the norm of a female or male. Some are more masculine and others more feminine according to the gender spectrum. I on the other hand, would be considered gender-masculine because even though I was born female, I’m so masculine that I continuously get misgendered. Once I noticed the reception I got from people I realized I can’t just keep calling myself a stud. Dating for me is a bit awkward only because I feel like women don’t know how to receive me. They’re attracted but don’t know what to do because they don’t like women. Any woman attracted to me would be considered ceterosexual. If people were educated on it they would feel less weird about it. I have pronouns I go by but no one calls me them so I’ve given up enforcing it. Something you go through as an agender person, another thing a lot of people like me just call themselves dykes not realizing or thinking to look deeper into who they are. I chose to look deeper and give a more full description of what this is and what we are. We’re not feminine at all, we have masculine features physically and mentally but you can still tell we’re not guys. I consider myself agender/transmasculine. I don’t call myself transgender because I have no desire to be another gender there’s a difference. Another thing about me people ask often is are you transitioning or on T/hormone therapy because I’m so masculine. I’m here to say I’m not at all this is all natural for me which is why I feel so “different” from the average woman. My voice is deep, my stature is slouchy, I have a masculine build, and a strong face it just came out of nowhere. I’ve transitioned into more of a masculine person.

I want to get a little more into as an agender person, the main thing is trying to get your partner to understand who you are and why you are the way you are which is the biggest challenge. Everything always starts off with a million questions of course, another thing to get past is understanding their attraction. For instance, I want my breasts removed but I don’t want bottom surgery, that would confuse a lot of people. Me personally, I think it 100% displays my uniqueness on the gender spectrum. The only gender-masculine people you hear getting top surgery are transgendered, but I don’t want the full transition. That makes dating harder for me because I don’t know how my girl would take it, I guess I would have to find a girl more on the straight side that’s open oppose to a lesbian because they like breasts you know. Most straight girls are firm about what they want so even though I’m attractive my options are limited when it comes down to it. I usually get two reactions from straight women, either they are really interested but scared or they’re upset by their attraction towards me so they make comments in a negative way. I’m attractive so getting a girl to notice me isn’t hard, keeping the interest would be the tough part. The type of person I am, it would have to be someone who is open-minded and willing to see beyond the gender. Because we are completely focused on sex and our body parts we can’t see past it. A woman attracted to me would be ceterosexual. These type of women are attracted to masculinity in general, if people realized it’s the image and personality that draws you in not the gender people would be a lot happier. Even myself I too was once stuck on what gender they had to be to even look someone’s way. I’ve realized that it’s deeper than that, I would go for a complete trans woman before I would go for a stud. Once I realized that, knew it was all about the image and personality not the gender. I love femininity, anything close to my image I’m not drawn to.