The Limerence or love, or being in love?

In love, illusion, or perhaps infatuation—these two or three states can truly multiply in our way of being, feeling, and experiencing what is good. It is good to experience all of this, but also to be aware and observe these nuances in our own behavior and how we deal with them, or to notice where the stimulus was strong enough to bring us back there, even for a moment. This is not dangerous, nor is there anything to fear if you are on the path to healing, and in this world full of mental illness and unhealed people, it is quite easy to get stuck or trapped in this state. What's more, the narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths who haunt us will easily lead us there, simply by functioning in the way they really planned to draw us in. The danger arises when we do not heal this within ourselves, do not notice it, or do not allow it to go away naturally, and we do not wait but rush things, rush the meeting, rushing into love, all without really getting to know the person or perhaps never reaching that point. The most important thing is to practice gestures and movements of self-awareness, because this is the easiest and most natural way to expel those behaviors that may ultimately prove positive, giving us a creative burst that will simply make them disappear from our system once and for all or for a while, and if we notice that they are mainly caused by abuse in everyday life, stress, and the need to escape, we can only survive this by slowing down our active and more than very active neurons will want to explain everything quickly, but when we look at ourselves and slow down, we will notice that something is wrong with one of our desires or the pace is too fast, or we are simply paying too much attention to this person without having a deeper connection with them, which is a warning sign to stop and think about it. As a highly sensitive or empathetic person, you may feel limerence towards this person, which is a kind of threat because you may feel it more deeply and strongly, and that's when you may notice that this person's energy carries something that your body can no longer cope with or is simply unable to bear, and it is always better to call it off before you test yourself further and decide to go for it, unless you are not a highly sensitive person, you can try, but you may well regret it later. The signs that highly sensitive people feel when they are overwhelmed by all this are headaches and tension in the body, and all of this will be sudden, intense, and abnormal, and you may notice a pattern of such behaviors or reactions of your body and mind, especially in the case of some people who may appear out of nowhere for the first time or reappear in your life, remembering you after very short conversations or contacts, which mostly did not go well and often ended in a toxic argument because gaslighting occurred. Another type of limerence is when you haven't met the person yet, but you create a fantasy without even knowing if the person is still alive. Narcissists are great at creating this kind of romantic obsession, but this obsession can be passed on to links that highly sensitive people can read, and it will certainly cause chaos in their lives. This is the moment when you are put to the greatest test, because in most scenarios, limerence does not come from living in a comfort zone, but from living every day in a war zone, without the opportunity to rest, be yourself, and find peace, so it can easily get to you, and most of them choose it for life because they will not have to face it in reality. At the same time, highly sensitive people who are very aware and very sensitive to all these emotions can easily become trapped by such an obsession with someone, especially if that person is lonely or has a more difficult life than others. For narcissists, it is often a lifelong journey because they are not willing to heal from trauma and so on, they prefer to inflict it and provoke it, so it is a losing game, but highly sensitive and empathetic people who become more aware of it find it easier to deal with over time and laugh it off with ease. People who heal themselves really discover more peace, more freedom, more relaxation, and a more real presence in the present moment in their lives, because this can happen to people who are already in a relationship, it can lead to divorce, separation in so many cases, it really does happen, because if left untreated, it will be permanent and will repeat itself over and over again, so it is often good or better to write or creatively express yourself through poetry, song, music, painting, dance, or in any other way, to finally let go and see or feel or simply regain true peace, true being, and you will notice that this experience in the end, it wasn't so bad.

It taught you to return to yourself and find a different kind of comforting peace in such a state a real more healthier relationship can be created. A real love, which can arise at the right moment in a slow, calm state, and not at a frantic pace that comes and goes even faster :) Of course, this is just one example and one fragment of one thought on the subject, because there are different ways of dealing with this state of mind, but no matter which way we choose, being aware and observing what is happening, while at the same time intensively treating it, observing how little or how briefly it started, can be a beautiful step forward for us and a manifestation that we are ready for a new adventure, a new life, a new love, and if it turns out that we have been in this state for too long, it does not mean that we are not making progress, but it may be due to circumstances and too much bad energy around us, coming from people we love, know or do not know, which makes us aware of it and causes us to escape into it. This is also huge progress and does not mean that there is no healing. Sometimes it is our only choice to survive or go through it and get out of the violence. The danger or delay in healing is that you get lost in it, you don't know how it started, how it ended, and why it keeps coming back or why it lasts so long, as long as your mood changes, you are aware of why it is happening, when and under what circumstances you choose this escape, everything is fine, and if you haven't done so before, you can start to see it, and that information alone is healing, the beginning of healing, and perhaps the only information you really needed to return to yourself, to your true self, and to your peace.