The Decision of Choice

The Nation is at another turning point and on the edge of yet one of many issues that will forever keep us separated. Let's face it! Out of all the talents and strengths we have as individuals, we were not blessed with the talent to read minds. Stay with me please! 

The moment you and I gain complete clarity of what another person is thinking, then we have every right to properly judge people. I could say that is a fair and true statement, but the is one problem; we cannot read the minds of other individuals. 

Allow me to give you two examples and help tie us into why this decision on Roe v Wade was right, and wrong at the same time. Imagine me having a neighbor and I noticed that he didn't cut his grass one summer weekend. The weeds are growing and the edges are due for a major manicure but my neighbor is nowhere to be found. I decide to take it upon myself to cut his lawn because his flaws are starting to affect the value of my property. Hour passes, after cutting my neighbor's lawn, he comes out and yells, "what you do that for?". Now here we have a moment of misunderstanding (insert Roe v Wade or any other political issue) and we cannot filter right from wrong in the situation. Now what could I have done before cutting the neighbor's lawn? Instead, I took it upon myself (while passing judgment about my neighbor's incompetence of cutting his lawn) and took control of the situation. So, my neighbor approached me in a furious manner demanding that I pay him for damaging his soil that didn't properly settle because he was allowing for new seeds to grow in with the existing lawn. 

My point is that often times we tend to over insert ourselves when only knowing nothing or little about any given situation. Now let's us kind of flip the situation and understand the reasoning as to why people make some of the decisions they make. Again, we cannot justify any behavior as right or wrong. I do believe that a great duty that is set on all of our plates is to try and understand the reasoning why people make the decisions based on the information and situations that are presented to them. We can agree with them or not, however, it is the decision this person made based on information, feeling and situation. Let's stick with the two neighbors and the lawn situation. 

Now based on my feelings and limited information I had about my neighbor; I had to take charge of the situation because I was trying to sell my home. I needed all factors in place to give my home the much-needed appeal to impress the right potential buyer. So therefore, I had to correct the circumstances based on my current situation. No regard for anyone else, but the sole agenda to capture the right look for my home that I'm putting on the market. The problem with my thought process is that I'm only thinking of my goal, and I have no consideration for the possible issues that may exist that contributes to my neighbor's lawn not being cut. Do we see the problem between wrong and right when we lack information? 

Now stick with me on this next example. Which the principle is easy to follow and apply once we take our emotions out and our need to be right. Take a couple that has been dating for a few months and they decide to go exclusively off the market and date no one else. They are concentrated on each other. A few weeks down the line, one of them decides to step out on the other and date other people. A clear disagreement of a mutual understanding. The person who stayed committed goes out and destroys the other person's property. Who is justified in this situation? Clearly the person who was betrayed broke a written law and intentionally damaged the other person's property. However, can their actions be justified? Will cause and effect grant grace to the person who couldn't control their emotions and lashed out because of pain? 

So what is clearly right or wrong regarding anything we do in this nation? I'm not a woman and clearly I shouldn't be telling a woman what to do with her body. I cannot tell you what is right from wrong, but the incorrect interpretation of any law can send me to jail for a long period of time. The lack of any law or regulation in place can place my life into jeopardy at any time. 

As we stand on any side of a decision we make in life, let us consider the other person before we make that decision. Clearly we cannot read minds, therefore we cannot judge. We just have to do our best to respect the decisions of other because we will never have all the necessary information to make a decision for a competent adult.