Talking, there is a skill

Educator Xe Judea said this in "Hard work, not many words" :

Not many words, but the right words, the right reasoning, and the key points of reasoning, move the hearts of listeners.

Talking is indeed a discipline, and those who master this skill can always impress people with three or two sentences.

Language is one of the most intuitive ways to express ideas. It has evolved from the most primitive and simple expression to a form of communication full of skill and art.

The charm of language is infinite. It can both express one's feelings and map one's character and personality, and the skills of speech are endless.

As the old saying goes: "Sickness comes from the mouth, trouble comes from the mouth." A person who can not speak, will always be invisible to offend people, may incur the discontent of others, lose people, and missed opportunities.

Everything has good and bad interdependence, bad things come from the mouth, and good things can also come from the mouth. Many people rely on a mouth to say the inexhaustible wealth. In our nature, a cheerful and talkative people, there is always a different kind of affinity.

The charm of language is endless. In ancient times, Fanzine told many stories about Chi and Confucianism. He could speak well and even defend the dignity of a nation.

Language can be a sword, such as Huge Lang cursing Wang Man and killing people invisibly, or it can be a wall, such as Tang Jew's argument and admiration for the King of In.

A person who can speak well must think quickly and have a certain talent for language.

As an ordinary person, although you can't be eloquent, you have to be able to speak and master the skills of language, which can always benefit people a lot.

Be good at changing perspectives and being flexible.

The core idea of Mozilla lies in the dialectical view of all things.

Everything has its two sides. Be good at changing perspectives when you speak.

This lies in having one's big-picture view, seeing the essence through the surface, requiring one to be flexible. At the same time, it is equally important to remain calm. Impulsive people always speak without thinking.

Many people have a herd mentality, which somehow comes from a sense of self-preservation.

Even if there is a problem with one statement, then we all have to take responsibility together.

Many people have their own opinions but are afraid to speak up. Instead, they retain their personal views.

The key to changing perspectives is to have a unique vision and a mind outside of inertia. A matter can always be viewed from all sides.

There is only one original meaning of a sentence, but statements change in a thousand ways. It is an art to express ideas accurately and uniquely in your unique language.

People with high emotional intelligence often like to speak because such people can understand a sentence from different perspectives.

Politeness is the foundation and respect is the core.

There are millions of language skills. Not everyone has the energy to study them, and not everyone is good at speaking, each with their strengths and weaknesses.

But the reality is that whether someone can "talk" or not, they are more or less socially engaged, and that's a given. For people with little experience, it is important to understand the basic points of the speech, that is, courtesy is the foundation, and respect is the core.

It is the country of Chinese etiquette, treating people with courtesy is the traditional virtue of the Chinese people.

The most basic and important thing in social situations is courtesy and respect. These two points, whether in public or at dinner and drinks talk, will not offend people, thus meeting the basic requirements of talking.

In today's society, there are more and more "social fears". For these people, pushing a glass for a table in a drinking game is their nightmare, a toast is as difficult as taking a knife to the flaming mountain.

The toast is not so difficult, but people are afraid to say it. Without those flashy words, from their simplicity can be seen, the emphasis is on "respect" rather than pompous language.

Learn to listen and empathize.

Considering the feelings of others is the most basic courtesy, and is a necessary quality of humans.

This basic point of disagreement lies in learning to put yourself in the shoes of others. Only by putting yourself in other people's shoes can you put your words into their hearts and welcome their good feelings.

Very often, talking is not what you say, but how the other person feels after listening, which is the most fundamental.

If you want your words to reach people's hearts, you must first be a listener.

Quietly listen to what others are saying, analyze their needs and mood, and then think differently so that you can say what others are willing to accept. Whether it's advice or criticism, start by thinking differently.

Thinking differently is not about pleasing the other person, but about getting them to accept what you have to say so that you can gain goodwill and improve your charm.

The skill of speaking lies first in thinking, followed by the tone of voice and phrasing. Usually reading more books and newspapers helps to improve one's ability to use words.

Even if it is an online chat, you can let others know your good character and personality through words.

Time emotion class :

A word, a sentence, may attract the appreciation of others, but also may attract the discontent of others.

Some people suggest that "silence is golden", meaning less talk, do not talk when you should not talk, so as not to bring trouble. Rather, when it is time to speak, dare to speak, and do not be afraid to speak, so as not to miss the opportunity.

Communication between people mainly relies on language, and a person's temperament and charm can also be reflected through language.

There is a saying that one should be careful in speaking. Speak must be thought through the brain, can not think out of the mouth. Mastering good speaking skills can make your life smoother.