single

Whether you're solitary by choice or simply unlucky in love, being single is complicated.

Lonely or Alone
So I find myself single again after three and a half years of putting up unnecessary bullshit from a man who didn’t know how to love me. During that time I made a million and one changes, as we as women normally do, to appeal to his sense of what I was supposed to be and look like to no avail. In the process, of course, I lost who I essentially am.
By Cynthia Perez7 years ago in Humans
Why I Am in Love with Being Single
I AM IN LOVE WITH BEING SINGLE. IT’S TRUE. Over the course of many years and many failed relationships to go along with it, I have come to the conclusion that I love being by myself. Of course, a woman does not need a man to define her self worth, just like a woman should never feel like she has failed in her existence because she doesn’t have a fairytale family complete with the hard-working husband and children who excel in sports. For some, it doesn’t work that way. I am happy to say that as of right now, I am not one of those women. It may not ever be me and that is something I have come to terms with.
By Leah Lee7 years ago in Humans
Dear Diary,
Lately I’ve been on this emotional roller coaster about dating and relationships. One month I’m like, "Okay, I’m going to date, and just meet men and enjoy outings with them, and indulge in good, intellectual conversation." The next month, "Nope. This is not going to work for me. It just may not be my season. I really need to focus on my business and myself, and continue to just enjoy being single. The man for me will come.” Back and forth, up and down, I’m constantly giving myself a headache. I go on dating sites and then become bored, or a man has contacted through the dating site messages, yet when given my number, my phone is drier than Popeyes biscuits.
By Kyia B7 years ago in Humans
Why Not Marriage? (Pt. 1)
I looked out the window, deep in thoughts as to why I would have the same dream over and over. Well, not literally the same, but it’s always about the same thing: Me getting married. It’s like my subconscious is playing a game with me. I don’t like marriages. Don’t get me wrong, it is nice when two people who love each other take that courage and decide to stay together forever. I like seeing people in love and it makes me happy. Happy for them because their happily ever after is about to start, and though it might be rough, they want to face it together. But for me, I don’t think it is there or if I will ever find it. In short, I want to see everyone I love happily married, but still stay a coward and not give it a chance. Yes, I admit that I am a coward.
By Raquellek M7 years ago in Humans
Who Am I? I Am the Joker!!!
Picture this scene. It is a nice school day at an awesome high school in January of 1974. As you walk through the hallways to get from class to class, a number of students who know you (even though you may not know some of them) start air-guitaring you some song that contains these lyrics:
By Maurice Bernier7 years ago in Humans
“We don’t need no man”
This is for women. Women that are struggling to see what they need or what they want, but most importantly, what they deserve. “We don’t need no man”. That’s right, we don’t. We don’t need a relationship. But some of us still want someone there, someone by our side. We need someone that we can depend on, but not someone we depend on, not someone that depends on us. A relationship should be a factor in our lives that amplifies our happiness, not one that completes it. Please try to remember that when your parter keeps causing you pain. When they blame it all on you- don’t believe it. Don’t let anybody manipulate you into thinking less of yourself. It’s never wrong to work on yourself and a healthy relationship usually aids you in doing so naturally. It’s not easy to let people go that you love, so please don’t ignore the red flags. Don’t ignore the intuitive feeling that lets you know something’s not right. Because you don’t need anybody but yourself. You don’t need them to complete you- it might hurt, but you will be better off in the end. And it will end, sooner or later, and we can all agree that sooner is better than later.
By Amira .7 years ago in Humans
It's Time to Talk About the "S" Word We're All Stuck up On
Single. It is a "scary" word per se, but it is on all of our minds. Valentine's Day just passed and if that doesn't have you feeling in the dumps about your love life, then I am sure this season of The Bachelor does. It seems that we single people just can't get away from all of the couples.
By Sophia Mayfield7 years ago in Humans
My Charlie Brown Syndrome
I know for a fact that I'm not the only one who goes through this... Let's go through it together, shall we? Since Valentine's Day happens during the month and I was thinking about a few things while I was watching A Charlie Brown Valentine on Hulu, I figured I'd write about it.
By Don Anderson II7 years ago in Humans
Finding Happiness in Being Single—Again
Real Simple magazine once asked what should be a really simple question, what was the happiest moment of your life? Well, was denotes the past, already happened, over. The tapestry of life is woven thick with happy moments: playing outside ‘til dusk with your best friends, first kiss, first car, college, marriage, or divorce perhaps, the birth of children, graduations, landing the job, all too easy and generic. The single happiest moment of your life? What if it hasn’t happened yet? What if you are still waiting for your moment?
By Traci Reason7 years ago in Humans
Here's How You Can Spoil Yourself This Valentine's Day
You may think it's rather peculiar when I tell you that I absolutely LOVE Valentine's Day, but I'm not so keen on the idea of being in a relationship. Whilst I wouldn't consider myself to be a "relationship person," I love love; and I love food and all things pink, red, fragrant, and beautiful—and let's be real, that just about sums up February 14th.
By 7 years ago in Humans
Advice: Inspiration and Motivation for Singles Alone on Valentine’s
SINGLES, LISTEN! “What’s Love Got to Do With It?” Yes, Valentine’s Day is coming AGAIN and you’re still single...You are going to be ok. This video speaks to everyone who is frustrated with the reality of remaining “single”—especially during the February love season. As a member of the over 40 singles crowd, I speak from personal experience and based on the rantings of my friends in the same category.
By Luefras WriterSpeaker-Saxophonist7 years ago in Humans
How to Be Happy and Single
It seems the older I get, the more I am determined to not only unravel "Romantic Love,” but to understand why I need it so damn bad. The more I think about it, I start to feel that it really is all about validation. I grew up seeing many a failed, abusive, and dysfunctional relationships, and I'm quite sure this is what is behind me constantly looking to debunk the myth that is dancing around in my psyche: "Love isn't real."
By Miss B7 years ago in Humans