marriage
Marriage is not so much a word as it is a sentence–a life sentence.
Things Never to Say
In keeping with one of my more popular posts, What We Need to Hear: Friends & Family Guide to PMDD, it only goes to follow that there are some things that friends and family who want to be supportive of a woman with PMDD should NEVER say, first out of compassion, and secondly out of self-preservation!
By Cheeky Minx9 years ago in Humans
The Game
“If you could change one moment, would you?” A common question asked in various ways with millions of answers. There were many moments I wanted to change if I could. My childhood was the best it could be. Velvet Barbie boots with heels that clinked all around the house and the loop of Blue's Clues episodes on VHS. Eventually this was traded in for a pair of white roller skates and daily adventures with the neighborhood kids. Up to a certain point ignorance, or should I say innocence—was bliss. But then one day those black boots, those roller skates, those VHS tapes, weren’t enough; enough to tune out the screams. To tune out the back and forth of words filled with hatred and regret. The threats and the violence and the anger. The constant questioning of whether it was a choice I made that caused the horrid domino effect that just kept going and going and going.
By Emily Mariscal9 years ago in Humans
Why I Purposely Trashed My OkCupid Profile
I first met my wife on OkCupid a little over six years ago. It was a very strange happenstance to be honest. She was just browsing around when she noticed a small thumbnail that featured a guy with long hair down in the corner of her screen. She clicked on it, saw something in my profile that she liked, and sent a message. Years later she told me that I wasn't even "supposed" to reply and that she sent the message with the belief that I was out of her league. Luckily for both of us I did reply which eventually led to us getting married a few years later. It sounds pretty cut and dry, right?
By L.B. Bryant9 years ago in Humans
The Interpolated Girl
For a very large portion of my life, I've felt like I'm just kind of here. Just existing. I've had this feeling for a while, but more recently, it's been hitting harder. It's hard for me to feel this way and not know why, so I put some thought into it. And I realized something, I don't fit in. I just don't. I have never in my life been somewhere where I can just say, "This. This is where I belong." I tried to find it through religion, nothing changed, tried to find it through my family, no such luck, tried attending college, to no avail. The closest I have come to feeling whole is when I am with my wonderful husband. This is one of the reasons I love him so much, I am able to be me around him and I don't have to worry about fitting in. No where else do I ever feel this way, and that's a hard way to live my life.
By Sheridan Walker9 years ago in Humans
The Wedding vs. the Marriage
It’s better to have a $30 wedding and a million dollar marriage than to have a million-dollar wedding and a $30 marriage. We see this all the time. Famous and wealthy people spend astronomical amounts of money to have fabulous wedding ceremonies but then the marriage only lasts a few months or at the most a few years. On the other hand, we see people go to the courthouse and/or the Justice of the Peace and end up being married for a lifetime. How is this so? Marriage is not about money. You can have all the money in the world, but if the two individuals are not compatible and mature, having much wealth won’t even matter. As the adage says, “Marriage is for grown folks” or should I say “mature” folks.
By Damon Nailer9 years ago in Humans
Stop Telling Me I Can't Settle Down
I am the person who is in love and ready to settle down. I have people (gotta love polyamory baby) I love, who I want to marry. I know I love them, I know I want to be with them. So why do so many people think they can tell me not to settle down?
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Humans
Moving Away From the Timeline
Dating is a practice that is often referred to as a timeline. You meet, you become friends, you ask each other on a date, you wait until the second or third date to kiss, you don't say I love you until about six months, no sex for about a year, don't move in or get engaged until at least a year and a half or two, but likely more. However, with the '60s came the start of hook-up culture as we know it today, as people became more willing to have sex outside of committed relationships. Starting in the 2000s, technology began slowly changing the way we view dating and hooking up dramatically.
By J.C. Marie9 years ago in Humans
Dating Advice: Are You Too Judgmental or Too Picky?
How would you describe yourself in 3 sentences? Do you think people know the “real you?” With less “face to face” contact due to online dating & social media outlets, people are spending more time behind a computer and becoming even more judgmental than ever before.
By Susan McCord9 years ago in Humans
Beginning Again
My life has taken a drastic turn. That was not something I was expecting to happen again at the age of 28. For the past few years, I lived as a stay-at-home wife and mother. Now, my marriage is ending, and not by my choice. I've moved out of the home I shared with my husband, and I only have my young daughter half of the time.
By Halliday Nelson9 years ago in Humans
Living with PMDD
When I married my husband, I didn’t realize that I had Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder or PMDD. In fact, I knew I had some kind of monthly dysphoria, but it was never as bad as it seemed to get once we were married. I won’t theorize about that for now because it could be the result of so many things…stress, change, age, etc…but I will say that for some time, my husband thought maybe he had brought it on, and to be perfectly honest, he wasn't helping!
By Cheeky Minx9 years ago in Humans
