marriage
Marriage is not so much a word as it is a sentence–a life sentence.
Thoughts on Monogamy
It is supposed to be every little girl's dream to grow up, get married, and start a family. So why isn't it mine? Having been constantly surrounded by failed marriages and dangerous domestic disputes, the thought of wedlock and building a family is petrifying. With few stable and proper 'model' relationships in my upbringing it is difficult to see myself in a functioning relationship. Though I have been in several serious monogamous affairs, commitment is a terrifying concept. Due to this fear of commitment, I have never been able to fully commit my heart and soul to another person.
By Ally Mauer8 years ago in Humans
Beginning Life...Again...From Two Feet Below
So, I married the first time young. I was just 20. The thing is, she was an able-bodied person, like most of the few people in my world with the exception of a few crips that included my older brother, who died in '00. I'll get to that later.
By Jason Rhode8 years ago in Humans
Want Better Relationships? Start with Yourself
I know. It sounds counterintuitive, doesn’t it? Don’t we all have that friend or family member (or maybe it’s you) who is always there, giving selflessly of her time and talents? I mean, everyone loves that woman, so don’t you want to be that woman, or just like her? Don’t you imagine that she has a ton of friends who love her right back and will drop everything to help her right back if necessary? (I suppose this person could be a man, but yeah, not so often). Often times, though, this friend is drained and not feeling great about her friends not reciprocating. She might just think that’s how things work, that friends just take advantage, and you either deal with it or have no friends. Does she think she doesn’t deserve friends who love her right back? Damn, I hope not.
By OhmMyGoddess8 years ago in Humans
10 Things No One Told Me About Life After Marriage
I once heard the secret to marriage is to never hate each other's guts at the exact same time. While this may sound harsh, after so many years of marriage, it's true. Sure, hate may be a bit extreme but deciding to live day in and day out, create children, and grow old with another human can be difficult at times. OK, it can be damn near impossible at times! What starts off with endless kisses and laughs, romance, lingerie, and intelligent conversations turns into quick texts, sparse dates, scheduled quickies, and if you're lucky, undergarments that are in the same color palette.
By Jus L'amore8 years ago in Humans
On Love and Marriage
As many modern lovers do, my husband and I wrote our own wedding vows. Void of the traditional, albeit stuffy “I take you to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife,” we started out on an empowering note. Our vows were heartfelt and sincere. We stood hand-in-hand, trembling as we recited our promises to one another. It was both beautiful and incredibly naïve, as approaching marital bliss generally is. We were over the moon to embark on forever together, but had no idea what was coming down the pipeline for us.
By Bri Thurmond8 years ago in Humans
Marriage
Anything meaningful takes work. Especially relationships. Any type of relationship requires some sort of effort to maintain, but marriage can be especially hard work. As it should be. Recently, I've seen and heard many people going on about how if you aren't "happy" with your partner, you should leave them and find someone that makes you happy, or be single and discover what you really want. Which is all fairly decent advice if your relationship is still in the dating stages.
By Candida Reece8 years ago in Humans
The Beginning of a New Chapter
The hardest part of this process was my vows. The saying “No words can ever describe how much you love someone” well...that is a very factual statement. There are so many things I want to tell you (Tyler) but how do I even start? I can tell you “I love you”, or “you’re my entire world”, I could tell you a never ending book on why I’ll be saying “I do” in 6 days. The only problem is...I have no idea where to start. Do I start from the moment I laid my eyes on you? Or the moment you asked me to go out with you? Or maybe the first time you told me you love me? I have not a stinking clue. I have written two sets of vows and they’re both beautiful but they do not even say everything I want to say. So, I combined them together and still nothing. I am keeping them because if I continue to write I’ll never be ready. So here it goes.
By Lisa Gonzalez8 years ago in Humans
Marriage
My grandparents got married at a courthouse, and they lasted for seventy years before they passed away. When I was younger, I asked them what it took to make a marriage last that long, and they said a lot of compromise and love. They said they may have had a lot of stress and arguments, but they always worked through it together and talked things out. The only serious argument I ever remember them having was a silly one when I was a child. My grandfather used to joke that he was going to trade my grandmother in for a newer model. Well, one day while fixing breakfast, he told her that, and it was the last straw she had on hearing that saying, so she picked up the cast iron skillet and threatened to knock him out with it if he ever said that again. About an hour or so later, they were making up and hugging each other, and he told her, “Dear, you know I'd never trade you in. You're my other half.”
By Mrs fields8 years ago in Humans
Diary of a Broken Wife
Have you ever asked yourself, why am I just a convenience? Well, this is my story about how I am nothing, but an inconvenience to the man who I thought loved me. It all started back in 2013 when I got a message on social media from a kid that I went to school with, but never would have dated back in high school. I read the message and thought I have nothing to lose at this point, I will give it a try. I began to message him back which led to meeting him at my work. I remember it like it was yesterday, he pulled up in his beat-up blazer, it was July and I was working at a pool store in Marion, Indiana. I told him to meet me behind the building at the Circle K gas station in the back-parking lot. I walk out of the pool store and see this cute short kid in basketball shorts, a wife beater, and sandals. I thought, “he is so cute” and I couldn’t help but hug him. We talked about our day and other small talk when I told him I better get back into work before my boss wonders what happened to me. I hug him goodbye and felt my body move in for a kiss, like I couldn’t stop it. It just felt right and I was so comfortable with him.
By Brooke Sell8 years ago in Humans
Weddings Make Me a Bitch
Usually I’m fine pretending to care about my answers to people’s mundane questions about plans. But when it comes to my upcoming nuptials I can barely manage to keep my eyes from rolling. I’m tired of everyone asking the same thing over and again. I’m sure it mostly comes from a good place, but sometimes I just do not care.
By Katie Werthmann8 years ago in Humans
Things to Do Before You Get Married
One thing that I've noticed as a relationship writer, is that people often end up giving me a lot of personal experiences the moment they hear what I do. Most of the time, the experiences I hear come from bitter divorcees—and most of those times, they tell me that they regret not doing certain things before they got married.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart8 years ago in Humans
