humanity
For better or for worse, relationships reveal the core of the human condition.
Happy Birthday to me!
It’s a big one,so big in fact can’t quite believe that I’m here. I still feel like the kid I’ve always been, well in some ways.... I’ve only recently thought about the flexibility around who I think I am, and who I seem to be around others...the whole subject is complex and the more I look at it the more stuff comes up to be examined ... now tossed if unhelpful ( and boy is a LOT of it unhelpful) or kept because it’s the core of who I am ... really .So I say like it or lump it .. to all friends, ex friends and acquaintances. I’m trying my best and I don’t THINK I have any enemies....
By Gillian Lesley Scott5 years ago in Humans
He Don't Mean It
Becky had just turned 18, just barely a senior in high school, a very smart, sweet girl with a bright future, she could have been anything she wanted to be had she just put her mind to it, she was a very spirited girl with hopes and dreams of doing big things when she got older, as a little girl she always said she wanted to be a paramedic just like her older brother, but in the blink of an eye here she is all grown up and the little girl was gone, now she was a snot nosed, know-it-all teenaged girl who thought she had life all figured out and you could not tell her otherwise. From a mother's perspective there is only so much you can say before you just must let your children figure it out for themselves, but you love them none the less. So that is exactly what Becky's mom did, she stepped back just a little still staying close for when Becky realized she still needed her mom but stayed far enough away to give Becky the space she thought she needed. Not exactly the easiest thing for a mother to do but she did and without discouraging Becky from anything she wanted to do she was supportive and loving. Well Becky was just in the beginning of her senior year in high school when she was introduced to this guy that her best friend knew, and we will call him D.J. Becky being young, starry-eyed, inexperienced, and still wet behind the ears she just longed to love and be loved and find that one true love of her life. Not knowing what to look for in a mate and what to run from she saw nothing but good in everybody and for some reason Becky really seemed to have a thing for the older bad boys, you know the type, troublemakers, ex-cons, newly released from prison bad boys. And that is where D.J comes in. When Becky saw D.J for the first time she was smitten, head over heels for this guy, he had her at hello. Sadly, it did not feel the same for D.J but he sure was good at making her think it did. A smooth talker this D.J was, a silver-tongued devil he was, he could sell ice to an Eskimo and from an outsider looking in you could tell that he was nothing but trouble. They instantly jumped right into a relationship and Becky before she knew it was moved in and living with D.J. According to Becky they really hit it off and he was such an amazing guy, let her tell it and he was nothing short of perfection and things seemed to be going good for a while. Becky seemed to be floating on cloud 9. Then on one fateful day just out of nowhere, it happened and not even Becky saw it coming. He hit her. It was no big deal to him that he hit her but for Becky it shattered her entire world, just totally devastated her that he would do such a thing to her. Suddenly Becky felt as though all this time spent together and invested in each other was all for nothing. For Becky this was the first stage of failure. But where would she go? She did not dare call home. Then it hits her like a ton of bricks and the realization of everything her mom had tried to tell her was true. She felt so ashamed and all she could hear were the words of her mom going over and over in her head saying, " just please be careful, this guy looks like trouble." She then felt so alone and guilty for not listening to her mom's words and dismissing her warnings. All at once all these emotions overflow her mind and she is sad because the one and only man she ever loved had just betrayed her in a major way, angry at herself for not taking heed to her mom's warnings and also for being so blind, depressed because she could not for the life of her figure out what it was that she had done to make him so angry at her, confused because she never saw it coming and does not know why and lost because for some strange reason she still loved him and just knew deep in her heart that he really did not mean to do what he did and if she would not have angered him this would not have happened and strangely enough she forgives him because it really is not his fault this was on her. So, she goes to the bathroom to wipe away the tears, wash her face, gain her composure, and get herself together and go to apologize to him. Little did she know that once a man hits her for the first time it never gets better it only gets worse and worse and worse as time goes by, little did she know that it was only a matter of time and he was going to hit her repeatedly and again, little did she know that the beatings would only get harder and last longer and the violence would eventually get so bad that he was either going to send her to the emergency room or worse to the morgue. If only she had listened to her mom, if only she would have reached out for help, if only she would have told someone anyone and been honest about it, if only she would have known that she was loved and worth something to someone she loved too. Now here it is 10 years later, and it was Becky's 28th birthday, it is just too bad that Becky will not be with her friends and family to celebrate. It has been 10 years since Becky died in the intensive care unit due to her severe and brutal injuries, but if Becky were still here to talk about it the one thing she would have to say is " it was not his fault and he really does not mean it."
By Amy McGuffey5 years ago in Humans
A Trip II
There was something to be said for Gus’s kindness. The hotel he took me to was just like the town it resided in, quaint and adorable. Now that I had a room for the next few nights, I turned to look at Gus, who followed me into the hotel. He mentioned previously that if I wanted to take pictures, he would show me a few local places that would look pretty in a photo. It was approaching sunset and I knew, from experience that some places looked extremely beautiful at that time of day. If I wanted to take some awesome pictures, now would be a good time to ask about it.
By Kelly Brackett5 years ago in Humans
When To Make Things Work or Not Work In A Relationship
What do Relationships Look Like Today? Here are the cold hard facts: In the U.S., Over half of the couple population over the age of 18 prefer cohabiting over marriage, The divorce rate to marriage is around 42% with 1 in 5 marriages ending within the first five years.
By Jacob Samuelson5 years ago in Humans
Thankful and grateful
This year has been an awakening experience, actually the last three years has been impactful. Let me start with three years ago, I started dating a person after a divorce oh my Gosh he was so charming and helpful. We would have so much fun together, I could be myself and feel amazing. We dated for about three months and then boom, first red flag, he wanted me to go to a fast food restaurant and I said no, it was late and I wasn’t about to leave my home and get this man some food. Oh I shouldn’t have done that, because the verbal insult came, he begans to tell me that the reason I am single is because I am not submissive. I laughed and told him he was crazy and he could leave. He refused to leave and brushed the conversation off. Red flag number two, a few weeks later his phone gets cut off and he asked me to pay for it and he would pay me back. He didn’t pay me back in cash but he would take me out to dinner and get me cheap ass gifts, thinking it was something major. When he saw I was not into flashy things he tells me he is seeing someone else. I let him go and went on with my life, going on vacations and enjoying my family. Four months later who do I see on my social media love bombing me, telling me how much he loves me and he misses me. I fell for it, I was lonely and tired of being single so I take him back as his girlfriend, ( wrong move). We continue to have fun then I noticed every time we would have a great time he would start an argument over the smallest thing. I ended up getting pregnant and when we couldn’t do what we used to he would insult me, yell over the phone create things and accuse me of cheating all while I was pregnant. He behavior continued to get worse and I ended the relationship due to his cheating and finding out he still trying to get back with his exes. I was being used, abused verbally, emotionally and mentally. I eventually ended the relationship and had my son without him. This was just the beginning of more abuse, after our son was born he wanted to be a family only because he knew I wanted that, he played off of my wishes and emotions. He would be their whenever I called only to stroke his ego. He was in another relationship which was a carbon copy of me, I was getting strong I’m not allowing him to have control of me. I moved with my family because, I was so addicted to the thought we could actually work things out and my family was not having the abuse continue. I invited him to the place where I moved so he could see his son and he stayed two weeks and within that two weeks I wrecked my car and hurt myself in the process with him in the car , he kept provoking me that whole day especially because I set up an event to feed the homeless and I did it myself with the help of my family, it was a success. That night I decided to take him out with me and go dancing enjoy the night, I was so wrong. We argued on the way back and I ended up crashing my car. He tried tell the police to give me a ticket but it didn’t work. I am so thankful and grateful I can say I was protected throughout this journey of loving myself and finding the self love I needed. I am a psychology major, I would study his behaviors and found he was a true narcissist and has narcissistic personality disorder which is becoming a serious issue in today’s society. I am thankful that I survived and was able to heal and tell my story. God, angels, ancestors and all the universal energies has helped me to continue on my journey of self love and healing. I am thankful that I can be of service to those who have been in any abuse and help them heal as well. I am thankful I realized I deserve love, peace, happiness and the best quality of life. I thankful for the pain, because I know how to heal and keep my power. The pain awakened me, it made me see and ask myself, are you going to live unhappy, unhealthy, depressed or are you going to get your soul together and be who you were meant to be? I chose to take my power back and do things my soul loves. I am thankful I let him go with and pray that he can get healing if not in this lifetime hopefully in his next. I am thankful I am now aware of people’s energies and listen to my intention and believe in myself. I will always follow my own feelings as everyone one should. Codependent partnerships are disastrous, it is better if two whole people come together. If you can’t be alone with yourself don’t get in a relationship. No one can fulfill an empty cup, which means you can’t keep giving to someone who is not willing to reciprocate. I am thankful that I can fufill my own cup and I am happy being a being of light for myself and others. I now strive to promote healing within my family and change our generational cycles. Going through the abusive relationship I found out a lot of my family has also and this was generationally accepted, now I have the power to change the pattern and be the example for self love and true independence.
By Tecarra Jones5 years ago in Humans
Learning To Love Myself
As I looked back on 2020, it was hard, yet humbling. I write myself notes on my phone. Notes with grocery lists, quotes, notes I’ll never send, those types of things. I opened my notes and saw some sad things, but I also saw so much more. I have saved notes all the way back to 2018! I’m glad I hadn’t deleted them. I needed to remind myself.
By Melonie S Shelton5 years ago in Humans
