humanity

For better or for worse, relationships reveal the core of the human condition.

How to Date Intentionally for Marriage
People meet for all sorts of reasons: sex, dating, to have a good time, to meet new people, to find someone to spend time with. And there are a myriad of variables that can influence this reason for any particular individual. "When dating a spouse who doesn't want intimacy or sex, they make sure that what their ex-partner said isn't actually true." You might want to," says Stef Safran, a Chicago-based matchmaker and founder of Stef and the city. "If they break up, they may want to date someone else to deal with the sadness of the end of the relationship and the loneliness they are feeling."
By Keegan3 years ago in Humans
The Power of Emotions
Did mediocrity choose you, or did your subconscious choose mediocrity? Most of the time in our work and life, we want to be somebody, just like in the village, we want to be respected, we want to make people think we are great. However, we regret to find that no matter how strong our subjective desire is, we still end up mediocre and do not become the kind of people we imagined. What is the reason? Based on my short life experience and the information I have learned from reading books, I believe that this is not just due to external reasons and birth defects, but that we subconsciously choose mediocrity. This is paradoxical. On the surface, we don't want mediocrity, but why do we subconsciously choose mediocrity? The realistic plot of Chinese people leads to the conservative choice. We live in this land, from birth to death, we are influenced by various Ming culture and subculture in this land all the time. The pragmatism and realism of Chinese people is one of the most profound culture. Our parents and teachers pass on this spirit all the time, but it is realism and pragmatism that make us more mediocre. Pragmatism demands immediate results, not the long, far-off future. In most cases, the best choice of the moment is not the best choice of history. The overall reason is that our vision is often not long-term, only see now, is far from the overall optimal judgment. Generally speaking, Westerners like to take risks. They are willing to try their best to struggle without knowing any result, so that even if not all of them can succeed, they have gone out of the range of local minimum. The over-emphasis on practical interests also limits the breadth and depth of our thinking, so that we always think about the problems around us, rather than thinking about the broader problem. Our emphasis on the outcome is far more than the process of success and failure history has taught us too much, that is, must be a good outcome. In fact, no one knows how to achieve a good ending. If the result is bad, then the person is bad. We tend to judge a person as good or bad, and this black and white binary thinking obliterates the complex and rich nature of human nature. When a person in the scenery, many of us follow to support and praise, but not to see his success process and real experience, nor to admire the various spirit worth analyzing, we look at the surface of things, which makes us often lose the opportunity to grow up. We can look at all kinds of literature and history books in history, few of them are objective and most of them are one-sided. This is a culture that doesn't lend itself to meaningful exploration because we don't really respect so-called losers. Most of us grow up with a lazy mind, unwilling to think about current problems, always expecting someone to give us a ready answer. Who says Chinese people diligent, diligent only in physical labor, but a lot of times we do not want to use the brain. We waste too much time on small things and too much attention on talking. France's Le Pen detailed a similar phenomenon in his book "The Rabble". Why a good person, finally can be led to a dangerous point by a leader. This enlarging of group psychology results in each individual losing their independent self and even taking pride in participating in it. In the day after day, year after year of life, gradually fall into it, unable to extricate themselves. The pressure of survival makes it physically and mentally tired, without the past spirit, more nothing to do and strive for action, push all rhetoric to the outside environment. () This is a society where people are impetuous, and you can't change it by yourself; But you can change yourself, let yourself calm down to do a thing deep, do thoroughly, do others unparalleled degree. "It was the best of times, it was the worst of times," Dickens wrote in a Tale of Two Cities. Our greed makes us think about the maximum benefit every time we face a choice, rather than choosing what we can do. Greed disturbs the peace of mind, confuses the eyes and loses the direction. A lot of time and resources are wasted in vain. It's not that we don't have the potential to be outstanding, nor do we have the conditions to be useful talents. We eventually become mediocre people, and become dispensable people in the society, which is the result of our subconscious choice. We are too realistic and pay too much attention to the result, we are too lazy and too greedy. It seems that we can only be "happy" with it. People who don't dream must be mediocre originally excellent how we slide into mediocrity God rewards the diligent: don't in the "accustomed" to mediocrity.
By jackma3 years ago in Humans
Small Acts of Kindness
Can life be summarized into hours, minutes, and seconds, or is there something more? Every day we are faced with the task of understanding the meaning of our existence. When we do so, we have a choice, walk forward, or walk away. . . For many people, it is more like running away. . . However, you can only run away from the person you are for so long; at the end of your frenzied sprint, you will find yourself exhausted and feeling a hollowness inside. It is better to face what we are, so we can become something more.
By Ethan DeAbreu3 years ago in Humans
Florence Nightingale
Florence Nightingale was born on May 12, 1820, in Florence, Italy, the second daughter of William Edward Nightingale, a wealthy landowner, and his wife Frances ("Fanny") Smith. Florence's older sister, Parthenope, was named after their mother's hometown, Daughters in Greece.
By Bishesta Paudel3 years ago in Humans
A Guide to International Giving
Giving to international organizations has become a growing portion of Americans’ charitable activities. In 2020, Americans gave $25 billion to domestic and international groups working outside the country, which is more than the federal government’s non-military foreign aid budget. However, this amount is only around 1 percent of the federal budget.
By Patrick Reed3 years ago in Humans
Mother Teresa
During the last two decades of her life, Mother Teresa suffered from various health problems, but nothing prevented her from fulfilling her mission to serve the poor and needy. She spent many years in Calcutta, India, where she founded the Missionaries of Charity, a religious community dedicated to helping those most in need. In 1979, Mother Teresa received the Nobel Peace Prize for her humanitarian work. In 1979, Mother Teresa received the Nobel Peace Prize for her endless work and compassion for the poor.
By Bishesta Paudel3 years ago in Humans
Save the Humans
Clown fish swam by in all their orange, white and black. The water swirled as the tortoises flitted about in the simulated sea. The children of Winchester Elementary school in Newark, Delaware visited Wilmington to experience the wondrous aquarium.
By Skyler Saunders3 years ago in Humans
To Whom It May Concern
Dear Life, Kindly fuck off. I'm so sick of your shit. I'm over it, I'm done. You are no longer welcome here. We are breaking up. I don't think we can be friends after this. Your services are no longer needed. It's not me, it's most definitely you. I'm sick of your attitude. You drive me insane. You are the source of all my problems and stress. I didn't ask for this. You gave me the shit end of the stick. You sold me a lemon. I would like my money back and to speak to your manager. I would like to end this subscription. This is not the type of thing that I'm into. You are a terrible programmer. Maybe you need to update your services. Or maybe you should be shut down completely. You obviously have no idea what you're doing. You're ruining things. I deserve better than this. How dare you treat me this way. What have I ever done to you. This is not ok. I am drowning here and you are just watching it happen. This whole thing is like a sinking ship in the middle of the ocean. Its all a mess. You could have changed everything. All of this is your fault. I'm looking for something new. I want something different. I can't do this anymore. I don't want to do this anymore. I've had enough of this. I feel like I'm losing control. I feel like I'm losing my mind. It's like there's no way out. I'm stuck in this void. What am I supposed to do? Where am I supposed to go? I am not ok. I just want to be ok. I want to get out. It's almost as if there is no way out. Maybe I'm supposed to be stuck. I don't want to do this anymore. I'm trying my hardest not to act impulsively but I'm losing it. I am fighting a losing battle. It's almost as if that's the point. It's almost as if I'm not supposed to win. Its like you don't want me to win. I don't know if I should keep fighting or if I should just give up. If you could send me a sign, that would be great. Please make it an obvious sign. I'm tired of trying to decipher everything. I'm tired of trying to piece together clues. Just give me a straight answer for once or fix everything. If it wasn't for you I would be just fine. But no, you had to come in and fuck everything up. You are the problem. You are what's wrong with this world. I'm over everything and I’m completely fine with everything being done. I'm ready for this whole thing to be shut down. There's nothing left for me here. There's nothing left for me to do. I’ve obviously failed whatever test this was. I’m completely ok with that. Here’s a little advice, maybe don’t fuck with people. No one likes being fucked with. It puts people in bad moods. Things are hard enough without being fucked with. Nothing is worth all this effort. What is the point of it all if I’m just going to suffer? Why should I try anymore? Why should I care about anything anymore? This is a losing battle. Maybe I should finally call it quits. I have nothing left to give. You’ve taken it all out of me. This is it for me. This is my final curtain call. I’m bowing out gracefully. I’m taking what little dignity I have left with me. There’s no point in staying where I’m not wanted.
By Jasmine Harris3 years ago in Humans
Important Takeaways From the 12 Rules For Life
1 Stand up straight with your shoulders straight Most lobsters are finished rats left to their own gadgets. Most people are finished rats left to their own gadgets. This demonstrates there is a Divine being who believes that us should have Request. Request is Manly and Turmoil is Ladylike. In this way to move towards Request, we as a whole need to man up. Bliss is trivial. We are on this Planet to endure. So figure out how to experience like a man. Not every person can be pretty much as rich and fruitful as me, yet attempt to be to a lesser degree a disappointment than you as of now are.
By Sabina (Sabs) 3 years ago in Humans
Perception
Trees, grass, birds. The faint rumble in the distance. Smells of fresh cut grass waft in with the morning fog. The railroad crossing lights are illuminated, a bright red pulsation overpowers the orange ombre of the rising sun. A modern symphony of car horns thunders through to the park, the sound waves dancing on the wind playfully, without malice. People lost in their thoughts of the day and days past waiting in an endless march. Locked, trapped by their metal kingdom, or is it their prison? Diseased by their phones, worries, fears and commitments. The line of cars waits, blind to the simple beauty of nature's morning tradition.
By Cody Brock3 years ago in Humans
High-Ku
I’ve been looking for inspiration to write about this season, but what helped my creativity this year was the snow we got in April. For some reason when it rained, my mind would instantly think of snowy mountains and I can only imagine how they made me feel as a kid. When the weather is cold outside I always hear my mom tell me that if we go sledding down the hill we will have fun and there was no better way to spend the early morning than doing things you enjoy anyway. Last week we spent our Saturday in town, so it was great to do something fun with the family. My sister had decided she wanted to make her waffle iron, so we asked my brother who works at home to help us out and he did an outstanding job. Not long after that, my dad came to us with his favorite breakfast item – cheese pancakes (they were amazing) and asked if I wanted a piece of them, I didn't, but then I heard him say “your turn!” So I said yes and then he told me that I should try making another kind of pancake instead, he told me he would show me. The next day I was up all night trying to figure out how to get everything to come together like it was a waffle while being exhausted from the hours of prep work. Once we got everything done, my sister took photos and of course, my dad helped us eat dinner, which meant dinner was ready to eat in record time. Now my question, though, is why do I love winter? It makes me feel good when the cold air comes through the windows and I remember the feeling of my arms around my daughter one day while on vacation and I realized just how much my heart goes out to everyone during these holidays. Winter feels very comforting, it provides some level of comfort that people often don't want to admit is still missing in the world. There are times when the need to not move on quickly to the new year and start afresh in hopes of starting over again arises. But then there's springtime when joy enters full swing. People wake up with hope and anticipation, and sometimes there is always a little bit more of something even if you aren't sure what that is yet. Spring brings new life into your life with sunshine, growth, and excitement. Sometimes it seems like it'll never end, but somehow everything does, and then suddenly you're left wondering where in life the rest go and what the future hold. Winter reminds us that change happens eventually, but sometimes we forget we can also experience changes that become comfortable rather than uncomfortable. As well as having to face tough decisions, it has taught me that to be happy you have to be willing to accept the challenges that come along with living your reality but what that doesn't mean is giving up our dreams as well. As someone who has dealt with mental illness, I recognize the importance of taking care of ourselves mentally. Whether you struggle with anxiety or depression, we all suffer because of the darkness inside. Just because life is hard doesn't mean you have to accept everything someone throws at you or else you'll live forever depressed. Having to navigate this world is stressful for many people, especially those who can't afford treatment or therapy for their condition because when you know your situation isn't hopeless, the fight for self-care can become too overwhelming. Everyone has days where living their lives means staying healthy, maintaining relationships with loved ones, and facing everyday struggles, but at the same time, there are times when you are just too stuck in your daily routine to take a step back and appreciate what life has to offer in a peaceful environment where the sun shines brightly despite the harsh realities of life. Maybe this has all been to show who I am and what I stand for. I'm not perfect, but I also don't have to choose between being positive and taking chances and enjoying moments that challenge me instead of waiting until tomorrow or whenever the next opportunity presents itself. I encourage every person who reads this to put themselves out there and try new experiences. Life isn't always going to look good, but having goals to strive for helps us keep moving forward. As long as you take a chance every day to explore new things, even if they are simple, you won't regret any decision you make because what's in life, doesn't happen overnight. Your life may not always be easy, but the memories you create along the way might give you some inspiration to keep moving forward. This is what keeps me going when the days are difficult, and I hope you find some ways to push past the hurdles that come along with trying to be happy and healthy. Thank you for reading my story! Please feel free to leave a like and/or tip. If you enjoyed this story, please subscribe to see more in the future :)
By Waseem Malik3 years ago in Humans
Walls
Once upon a time you lived inside my head, now just a memory I feel for you instead. Hallow as night you build your guard, only to give hints at who you truly are. So many walls that you care to admit, fear and shame is what doesn’t let you give in. You value yourself to the point of arrogance, give no ish unless to educate or care for someone indefinite.
By The Kind Quill3 years ago in Humans