friendship

C.S Lewis got it right: friendship is born when one person says to another: "What! You too? I thought I was the only one!"

Skirt and Scarf
It was 2010 and it felt like the world was waiting for me, like it was waiting for me to delve in. It was bitterly cold at 8am on a Monday morning in September when I walked into my first period, calculus. My eyes were shifting in search of allies to cushion the feeling of being alone in this new quest. I knew I needed connections to be successful. After all, I was walking into my first class in college, and I was the first person in my family to do so. I was confident, curious, and ready to venture into uncharted territories with the new people around me but also hesitant of the environment.
By Angelina Miley6 years ago in Humans
My Dixie Dream
It was a dream from the start. We came together to make magic...calling ourselves The Dixie Girls. I was Vernadette. There was Dinah, Lexie, Jerrie Neal and Sheree. In 2 hours we aged 40 years, laughed, fought, ate buttermilk biscuits and butter and honey, and cried...together.
By Marina Whitchurch6 years ago in Humans
the farce
Bzz. Bzz. Bzz. My alarm goes off and I jerk awake, groping in the dark for my phone. I hit snooze and sit up, rubbing the sleep out of my eyes and grasping at the fragments of the dream I’d just woken up from, remembering it had been unusually pleasant. I try unsuccessfully to yawn off the pasty morning bitterness in my mouth as I run my tongue over my teeth. 7:30. It feels way earlier and I’m less than excited to actually get up. I have things I have to do but I’m definitely not about this life. And in all honesty I’m kind of struggling just to live at all.
By Tori Reimschisel6 years ago in Humans
Once best friends now strangers.
@muzammilgooljar When you sit in the eerie silence, alone in your room, your pillows are now drowned in your own tears. Your mind is now your enemy, it makes you look back at all the memories you had together; laughs shared, crazy moments that wrote the story of friendship, things that were done out of foolishness, unexpected outings, food that was shared or even taken without permission. You will now remember all the memories you have created together with your best friend, from dancing together and spoken out the fears you have, the calming hands of your best friend when you were through harsh times, you will now remember all the small details that were part and parcel in your relationship. No matter how you felt, when you were depressed and lost among people who would try to pin you down, your best friend were there with opening arms and soothing words. Your best friend will look after you like a sister patting her little brother's hairs before going to sleep.
By Muzammil Gooljar 6 years ago in Humans
Painkillers
Painkillers From compared to all us, Khadijah is the least bothered. One could say indifferent, and from the looks of it..joyous. She drives in cruise mode, one hand stirring the direction of the car and the other holding yet another cigarette (she lit awhile making a left turn.) Tanya (sits uptop Sky's lap) as Niecey and I sit smushed alongside each door. Lala is unusually mute as she changes stations from off the radio. Finally she stops on a station playing "Massive Attack" by Nicki Minaj. I hear Khadijah rap, "Pop a bottle just to get my head right, tell a doctor go and get my meds right, Monster, you know it wouldn't be proper, If we didn't return with a big rocket launcher, Massive Attack, mmn massive attack."
By MarieMarie Urban 6 years ago in Humans
Hazel's Town
I have visited family in Severy, Kansas on several occasions over the years, but only recently saw it for the first time. Entering the tiny town with a population of about 250 people, roosters are crowing, and dogs are barking.
By Tammy Hader6 years ago in Humans
A True Friend
In reality finding a true friend and even trying to figure out what makes a true friend, is undeniably hard. In life many people struggle to keep a friend and even meet new friends, not realising that there are a few characteristics that needs to be visible to you, in people to know they or that one person is the definition of a true friend. However, this is not just some random person who is just writing this piece for the fun of it, i'm someone writing this piece who had to deal with this kind of thing in the past, I had to deal with meeting friends that I though were my absolute true friend and finding out the hard way that you can't just call someone your 'true' friend without really getting to know them, because I realised that the word 'friend' gets thrown around a whole lot, not even realising that, that one simple, yet dangerous word can bring you loneliness and hurt, and honestly that's how I felt when I lost my so called friends that I treasured so much, not realising that I've been looking at it all wrong it's not what you see in a person that makes them a true friend it's what is buried deep within themselves and their characteristics that makes that one person a true friend. And because of what has happened to me in the past I have written this piece for people to understand what it is that makes a true friend, a true friend.
By Lee-Ann Powell6 years ago in Humans
The Talking Tree
“You still care about him? After everything?” Collin’s words stirred hesitation inside of me as she voiced them in the quiet, the two of us nestled in the gnarled lap of my old Talking Tree’s roots, named so many years ago when my brother Adam and I would come here to play. Far beyond the fence of the old, run-down elementary school’s decaying playground, in the middle of the vast expanse of grain and grass, well hidden away from any city noise, was a patch of flowers circling an elderly, stout oak. He and I came here to escape, to pretend, and sometimes just to talk where we would not be heard. We’d climb up the trunk, reach the first bough, and then tumble back down on our way to the second, every time hitting the thick growth of clovers below and bouncing back, bruised, but giggling, and raring to try again.
By Adrien6 years ago in Humans
Finding that 'Asian' community
It has been a long time coming for me to finally find my community. My first ever group of friends who are Asian. I didn't have many Asian friends throughout my schooling life and even now at university. I wouldn't say it's a problem, because I am liked for who I am as a person not for my background. It doesn't mean I'm shading my current friends and friendship circles I am part of but I wanted a group where I could relate to everyone on a cultural level. It naturally happens for people searching for familiarity in this world and to be accepted.
By tracydtn6 years ago in Humans
Are We Still Friends.
Here’s the thing. It isn’t a question of if we are friends or not. It’s whether you are ready to take responsibility and acknowledge what happened. I am and I have accepted what happened and healed. But, the thing is that if you want to be in my life you can’t pretend like nothing happened acting like we are all good. Like you didn’t hurt me and like it was all my fault because it wasn't and I think you know that deep down. It doesn’t work like that. I refuse to let it. I would love to be friends. But, I’m not willing to be friends or let you back into my life in any real sense until this happens. My life is here and my friends are here. I don’t need you. I can’t respect or have someone in my life who has wronged me and hurt me who can’t be mature and self aware enough to see their own faults and not to just disappear when things get hard or uncomfortable or they disagree. I've grown past the time in my life when I would accept that. I want more for myself and I owe it to myself to accept only what I deserve. For me, friendship is far more than that and my loyalty has always been there even when yours faltered.
By M F6 years ago in Humans
Stay Connected: How to Keep That Friendship Spark Lit After Moving
It is estimated that most Americans are going to have around three good friends in life. These are people who hang out with each other and share experiences, but this relationship can be put in jeopardy if you move out of state. The following are a few tips to help keep your friendship intact.
By Damien Justus6 years ago in Humans
Great Expectations
People do care about you. They genuinely think about you. Those were my thoughts until recently. I really thought that people genuinely cared about. And when I say people, I mean people other than my parents. They have been with me no matter what and I believe that they always will be. ITs the other I am talking about. The ones we pick and choose to be part of our world. The ones we open up to at one am In the morning talking about our deepest desires and wishes mixed in with our secret fears that are stirred into our night mares. You know, the usual. However, as much as I thought this was something I wanted to believe, the more I realized that we cannot put so much faith into developing movie like relationships with the people in our lives. The media portrays relationships as cute, lively, lovely, rainbow and cupcakes and you know all that fluff. And then when all of a sudden, our best friend doesn’t rush over to our house in the middle of the night to uplift and eat icing with us, we get devastated. We think that people must care about us so much and even if they look away for even a second, we feel betrayed and as if no one understands us. We feel as outcasts. We feel ended. Which I have to be honest, I have very much felt. I always felt like I was constantly being let down by the people in my life and I was angry that they weren’t meeting my expectations. I didn’t understand why. All they had to be was good friends to me. However, I felt as if they never were. I was so self absorbed about how I felt that somewhere along the way I forgot that they were also humans that need space and attention. They were also people who craved being craved. They were us. We were them. We all wanted the same thing. We all wanted someone to care about us so much that they would drop everything and be with us. And this also goes for relationships. We all want that perfect, cute adorable relationship where you sit on each others’ lap, smile, do cute things in public and share the intimacy of a couple in the movies. Everyone wants those things. However, when everyone wants all the same thins, we forget about each other. We forget that the other exist and instead we just get mad at each other for not fulfilling each others fantasies. It is an insane cycle. Which can be indeed broken, with a single action. Let go of your expectations. They aren’t as great as you thought they were. You don’t need something in the movies, you just need real and raw. As soon as you lower your expectations for someone, you no longer hold a bar above their head for which they have to meet in order to be your friend. Just let it go and be a kinder human. Buy some food and give it to them. Make them some jewelry. Invite them over to your house. Do something nice. Lower your expectations. And maybe, just maybe, you’ll find yourself happier with all that weight off your shoulders.
By Manasa R6 years ago in Humans