breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
Love Hurts
What I have learned in love and relationships over the past 30 years and why it's took me this long to figure it out... I think as women we are hardwired, or maybe convinced as children, that love is this fairy tale, a "Happily Ever After" place, where no one gets their feelings hurt, and it's unicorns and rainbows all the time. A place where there is never a harmful word spoken or an unspeakable act committed. Unfortunately, no place like that exists—or at least not in my universe. That and the fact that in the past I have had the crappiest taste in men you have ever seen. I love the broken and misunderstood, thinking that if I just loved them long enough and hard enough, they would somehow become a decent person. That is sooo far from the truth. Not to say that someone who is broken can never be loved, but people don't change unless they want to. Addicts and egocentric assholes are never going to change just because you want it... they have to want it. My mother used to say you could put me in a room full of successful, well-balanced millionaires and one broke motherfucker with no job or ambition, and that's who I would fall in love with. She was married four times, so where do you think I get it from? Even when I was fully warned by friends that said guy was absolutely no good for me, I would still dive head long into oblivion, knowing I could prove everyone wrong about him. For the record, I have never proven anyone wrong in any of these cases. That being said, you should probably listen to your friends and family when they speak.
By Vanessa Hampton7 years ago in Humans
How to Break a Soul Tie
A Soul Tie is such an intimate and close connection where you bond so much with another person, place, object, idea, etc. that it can't escape your mind. Daily interactions are just a sliver of the powerful bonding that occurs in a Soul Tie. Usually you can visualize in your head two ghostly vessels tied by an cord. The distance between them is only as far away as their hearts and minds. A Soul Tie can feel like it can never be rubbed off. I am here to offer relief; here are five ways to break a Soul Tie.
By SAYHERNAME Morgan Sankofa7 years ago in Humans
Leaving Forever (Pt. 1)
Once you’re in a relationship, you feel so happy. You feel like no one else in this world can give you happiness. You’re wrong. Anyone in this world can make you happy. Your friend, your best friend, your loved one, or even your family, but sometimes love is hard. Whenever you’re in a relationship, you're going to have ups and downs, but try to fix them and try to make it feel better before something else happens like a breakup. Breakups are not easy at all. Some people are just laying in bed crying alone for hours and hours. Some people eat ice cream all day long and they feel a little better or even watch their favorite show. And there’s people that don’t care about the person, and you move on and find someone else. I tried loving you and I did. It seemed that everything was perfect, but something was missing and I knew what it was. I didn’t love myself, and that was not good in a relationship because you’re supposed to love yourself first and then your loved one. I didn’t do that. I just needed someone to be there for me, to give me comfort, and the only person that can do that is yourself. I just stood up there, quiet, listening to you. Listening to your voice saying that you love me, that you want me to be there for you forever. But I didn’t listen.
By Liliana Moreno7 years ago in Humans
It's a Process
Heartbreak is intense. It physically hurts. Telling your story to others and having them make you feel better only works to an extent, even if they're your best friend, your mom, or your "person." In those times, you have to be your own person. Your happiness is in your own hands. Of course, those "101 Things To Make Yourself Happy" articles don't work right from the next day, but there will come a point where you take charge of your own happiness and make a conscious effort to give yourself the life you deserve. So your relationship didn't work out—it shouldn't hold you down forever. Breakups are meant to be freeing. They're supposed to make you find your hidden potential, at least according to social media and literally every celebrity who goes through a breakup. But you don't see the endless hours those same celebrities cried before they hit the gym to form those abs, or before they went out and explored their potential or tried new things. It's okay to be upset, it's okay to cry. Heartbreak is not metaphorical. You can actually feel your heart stop for a second and shatter. Thinking about those memories can take a toll on your mental and emotional health more than you realize in that moment. Some people can move on within weeks, while others may take years. But everyone gets there. It's a healing process. Some wounds heal faster than others. Some are deeper than others. But they all heal. They may leave a scar which reminds you of each day you spent crying over the wound, every moment of pain you experienced, but the important thing is that it has healed and the scar will fade with time.
By rantingmystressaway7 years ago in Humans
Rules for Breaking Up
Having been on the sending and receiving end of a breakup text, I can tell you this is not my first rodeo. Some breakups are mutual, some come with heartbreak, others come with freedom. All in all, there are some simple steps I take after each break up to ensure I come out on top.
By Shari Shanice7 years ago in Humans
My Letter to Him
It's been months since I let you walk away. But here I am, just now getting back up on my own two feet. Because I knew, in that first moment I met you, that there was something about you that I needed. Turns out, it wasn't something about you, but it was the things you'd teach me that I needed.
By Hannah Thaell7 years ago in Humans
Why Ghosting a Girl Is the Worst Thing You Can Possibly Do
This is probably the worst time to be in your 20s trying to find love. If you talk to your parents, they’ll probably, not probably- definitely, tell you that when they were our age, people faced the truth, they had that confrontation, and they conversated.
By Amanda Gabrielle7 years ago in Humans
