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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Things You Shouldn't Say to an Interracial Couple
I am white, and my fiance is black. This shouldn't be a problem, however, it does seem to cause an issue with a lot of people. Or, rather, it seems to cause a lot of problems for the two of us — simply because people seem to be blissfully unaware that there are things you shouldn't say to an interracial couple.
By Ossiana Tepfenhart8 years ago in Humans
Narcissists
Having lived through a horrific marriage to a class one narcissist has been the most life changing experience of my life. It nearly destroyed me and my kids. I read everything I could find on narcissism and narcissists and their victims. My ex's diagnosis did not go unchallenged (by him of course) but, then no surprise! That is what a narcissist does. They turn everything around to make you feel that you are at fault, that you are the crazy one, that they cannot be with you because they "were meant for greatness," and anything that they do wrong they say they never did, and that you are the one that did this.
By Margie BQ8 years ago in Humans
The Song Remains the Same
"Oh-oh-oh-oh-oh, California sunlight Sweet Calcutta rain Honolulu starbright The song remains the same..." No reason, I just had this song in mind when I ventured into this musing...
By Amanda Karenina8 years ago in Humans
"The One" Myth
If you've ever looked for "the one", you know that it's harder than it looks. There are so many love stories out there, depicting how Romeo find his Juliette, and how they get to have their happily ever after.
By Yumi Yamamoto8 years ago in Humans
Questions to Ask in a New Relationship
When you first start going out with someone, everything seems magical. They are the best thing since sliced pie, and you often get the warm, fuzzy feeling that they are going to be The One. Beginnings are all about being lovebirds and romantic. That's why they call it the "Honeymoon Phase."
By Ossiana Tepfenhart8 years ago in Humans
Abusing Love
Virtually and in reality I've seen (what it seems to ME) couples claiming to know what love is and believing that they represent the ideal relationship. Posting a video or picture of two people kissing or of other actions that almost every other couple has done on a basis is not a real representation of love (in my opinion). Anyone can "show off" their girlfriend or boyfriend on Instagram, Snapchat or even Twitter or send cute texts to one another, then screenshot and post it so other people will applaud you for finding "love." Which leads me to my next topic: What do I think Love is? Love is the feeling you get that the person in front of you is the one whom you were destined for. When you experience true love, you will be willing to do anything for that person to just smile, and that person the same. Every worry in your life just floats away, and all you want to do is spend time with that person, help them with their goals, and show them your deepest thoughts and feelings.
By Jordan B.8 years ago in Humans
The Millennial's Guide to Relationships: What NOT To Do
“I don’t even know who that is!,” “She’s just a friend from high school…” “You can trust me…” these are just a few of the lines I, as well as my friends, have heard over the past few years from our own former significant others. Millennials seem to be having the hardest time grabbing onto a relationship that they’re willing to keep. It has become a paradox; everyone talks about how they want a faithful lover yet they aren’t committed when getting into a serious relationship. Here’s a news flash kiddos, you have to want to be faithful to be in a committed relationship! Contrary to popular belief, “talking” in today’s society is considered “dating” and it’s one of the biggest problems with the way young adults believe they should begin their journey of love. My main goal for you all is to possibly show you what the problems are and what NOT to do the next time you want to get into a serious relationship.
By Mylinh Saré Stern8 years ago in Humans
Stop Looking for the Good in People; Start Seeing Their Truth.
Before we get into this, a little disclaimer: please don't think that I am trying to give advice. I don't mean to come across as "holier than thou" and if I do, then that is not my intention. I'm simply letting you in to my innermost thoughts at this moment in time, and you are very welcome to take or leave what I'm saying. After all, what do I know? I'm just trying to figure it out like everyone else.
By Janine Agombar8 years ago in Humans
Why We Should Set Boundaries
I've never been very good at setting boundaries. It seems like a lot of work to me. But lately, I've started to reflect on how I manage relationships with those around me and it occurred to me that setting boundaries is in fact pretty necessary in life. It can make a real difference about how we're treated by others.
By Janine Agombar8 years ago in Humans
Dealing With Feuding Friends
So you’re Switzerland — you are caught in the middle of a fight between two good friends, or even worse, your roommates. This puts you in an incredibly awkward and stressful position. You don’t want to pick sides, but their fight is starting to sap all of your energy. Not to worry, these five tips will help you cling to your sanity through every passive aggressive group text, cold shoulder, and screaming match.
By Alina Gallupe8 years ago in Humans
Taking Your Power Back After Twin Flame Separation
I'm part of something, it is bigger than me, it's bigger than romance, it has shown me that we are more than this flesh and blood existence and although I previously thought I was spiritual and open-minded, this, this twin flame experience has blown my heart and my soul so wide open I feel like a totally different being altogether.
By Alvina Von W8 years ago in Humans
How to Keep a Long Distance Relationship
Ok, you have just accepted that dream job in another city, and now you want to know if a long distance relationship can work, because the most important thing you are leaving behind is your partner. Yet, dating long distance can heat up your relationship as a couple or even with your life partner. Why? Because absence absolutely does make the heart grow fonder. I am living proof that it can work. Just follow the simple steps below to learn how to keep a long distance relationship red hot.
By Arlene Nisson Lassin8 years ago in Humans