advice

Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Him, Her, and the Distance
Relationships are a beautiful thing. Unfortunately, they are never easy, they will always come with problems, and only time will tell us if things will work, or not.
By Jennifer McIntosh8 years ago in Humans
Be Yourself, Love Yourself
I have gone through a lot in the twenty-odd years I have been on this planet. I have seen things. I have had to do things I wish I didn't do. Everything took a toll on me. It took a toll on how I looked at myself. I was becoming what someone wanted me to be for a really long time. Then I finally broke FREE.
By Jescina Miller8 years ago in Humans
Building Healthy Relationships Pt. 6
We all know them. We may have even been one—a disagreeable, antagonistic individual. Disagreeable people are often obnoxious. They are exasperating, annoying, ungrateful, complaining, and condescending.
By denise knight8 years ago in Humans
The Single's Guide to Returning to the Dating Scene
If you've been hiding under a rock for the last little while, perhaps feeling a little bit lonely, wishing you could share that last slice of pizza with someone else, or maybe you're fresh out of a relationship and you're ready to try again—just staring out into the vast blue ocean we call dating can be a little bit intimidating.
By Delilah Jayde8 years ago in Humans
Building Healthy Relationship (Pt. 3)
Life constantly demands changes. There are things we must often change to secure jobs or complete projects. We may have to change our schedules to accommodate life's demands. But should we change the essence of who we are to please someone else? Should we alter our interests and/or personalities to preserve relationships?
By denise knight8 years ago in Humans
Building Healthy Relationships (Pt. 4)
What is negative energy? The answer to that question depends on religious and philosophical views. Whether one views positive/negative energy as a part of a metaphysical life source or a cognitive and behavioral choice, negative energy is powerful. It impacts the emotional and mental atmosphere in which it is present.
By denise knight8 years ago in Humans
Loving the Unlovable
Let's face it, there's probably someone out there that you hate. Whether it be an old high school nemesis or a world leader whom you've never met. Chances are you've said the words, "I hate that guy" at least once in your lifetime. Though we've heard that "hate" is an awfully strong word, it's used so often now that it's watered down the true meaning of the word because it's tossed around so frivolously.
By itMe8 years ago in Humans
It Was Never Going to Be Me
When I have a daughter, there are a multitude of lessons I'm going to teach her about life. I'm going to teach her that scraping your knees only means you have to get back up again, just because something is free doesn't make it good, and heartbreak will always lead you in the right direction.
By Ariana Marcanti8 years ago in Humans
Don't Let Love Blind You
You think you know someone, but do you really know them that well? How many times have you been in a situation where you have, let's say, told that special someone something that is intensely personal and they have completely blanked you and told you to "grow up" or replied with "cute" or "fair enough?"
By Hayley 8 years ago in Humans
Life Lessons From Broken Long-Term Relationships in Your 20s
The end of a long term relationship is a lot like raising a child; it's frustrating, can often be loud and demeaning, and you're usually left in a puddle of a mess without any rhyme or reason as to how you ever possibly convinced yourself that any of this was a good idea to begin with. But the end of a long term relationship, specifically in your 20s, can be even more frustrating and full of hate; you're young and inexperienced, broken, and with no idea how to be single. There are countless amounts of articles and blog posts online that could give you everything you need to know about working through your breakup: from how to get over your ex, to things you should never do after a break up, to websites that weasel single people straight into them dirty porn advertisements. And while we comb through these patronizing methods of online dating and meet-up sites to try to sort out what feelings we have left, I have found that there isn't really a place that showcases the true terror of what it feels like to have half of your soul torn out of your body, tendrils of your insides spilling out of your eyes, and your nostrils in big, messy globs. One would think that helpful breakup advice could potentially render a person quite wealthy beyond measure...unfortunately, I don't really have any of that. In fact, I'm quite uncertain anyone really has any at all, and it's most likely because it all comes down to being really sad for a while before the countless masturbation sessions just end up boring you and you wander off again in search of your next future soulmate/ex. With all that being said, cleaving off the end of a long term relationship during that moment in your life when serious adulthood is just within finger's reach, all while you're still standing knee-deep in the goop-y, green sludge that is your youth can be a great teaching moment. Therefore, I present to you: the lessons I have learned from surviving single life in my 20s. Enjoy my pain.
By Delilah Jayde8 years ago in Humans
Is He the One?
There are many times when we think we are with the one we are supposed to be with the rest of our lives. The reality is, people, no matter if you are meant to be together, that just gets in the way; school, jobs, life, but if you are truly meant to be together, you will always find your way back to each other.
By Grace8 years ago in Humans
The Side Chick Chit Chat
The media has perpetuated and profited off of the reign of the "side chick." When it comes to the nature of infidelity in modern day relationships, it really brings in the big bucks. Television programs like V?H1's Love and Hip Hop display men and women glamorize the life of their little piece on the side. While those sensationalized narratives exist on reality TV, they do not always play out that way in the real world.
By Alyssa Wilson8 years ago in Humans