advice

Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

A New Start
My name is Jane. This is the story of my anxious boyfriend. Let's call him Kurt. Kurt seemed like my dream guy. We had a very swift start to our relationship and I thought I would marry him one day. We met on an app called Whisper and we hit it off right away. Our relationship began right after my senior year of high school in the summer of 2017. We had similar likes and dislikes including Disney, technology and ideas for the future we had planned to spend together. Everything changed when I started college. I moved 400 miles away from where he lived and we went through our day to day texting, calling, and keeping each other informed. VERY informed. When I didn't tell him certain details or forgot to mention them to him, he would get peeved and ask me, "Well, why didn't you tell me before?" I almost always had no answer to that question. I had either forgotten to tell him or knew that if I did tell him certain details, he would become even more angry with me.
By RJ Scott7 years ago in Humans
How to Forgive
I would like to talk about forgiveness today. It is one of the hardest things in our lives to do. Most of the time, if we are at a stage where we need to forgive it, is because someone has wronged us or hurt us. After it happens we have a tendency to sit around and ask why. Sometimes we do that physically and get some closure, but sometimes we do not have that opportunity. Sitting in anger and hurt doesn't help us move forward. We get stuck in the continued search for the answer to questions that may have no answer. We need to find a way to be okay with that.
By Hm Weimar7 years ago in Humans
A Complete Guide to Maintaining Relationships (Even After the Spark is Gone)
Have you ever heard the expression "love is like a firework?" Maybe you've heard that one hit song by Katy Perry? You know, the one that says, "Baby, you're a firework!" Well, surprisingly, there is a lot more truth to this statement than we realize.
By Sierra I7 years ago in Humans
How to Avoid Bad Relationships
In today's society, it is hard to find someone the good old fashioned way. You no longer walk into a bar with your friends and guys walk up to you offering you a drink. Now, your head is in your phone, and you find it next to impossible to find someone to be with. Nowadays it seems like the best way to meet your soulmate is either online or through work. Many people though do not feel comfortable to find someone at work because it might cause drama in the office and no one wants that primarily if you are in your twenties or thirties. So, you choose to go online, and that is perfectly fine. However, you need to identify how to spot the right person online. I decided to put a list together of whom to avoid for men and women.
By Ada Zuba7 years ago in Humans
Life
Opportunity What was your once in a lifetime opportunity? Opportunities come and go. Which to choose from? Go within and ask yourself the question. Great opportunities could come once in a lifetime or many times. Just know if you never try then one would probably just wonder. This is when the “what ifs” comes to mind. If you never try, then how would you know? We live once choose wisely in your opportunities and proceed in this lifetime.
By Tanzania S7 years ago in Humans
Who Are You Entertaining?
Just going to be honest right now and tell you that not everyone is cheering you on. Sad to say there is a few people out there that are cheering against you. People who don't want you to succeed. Those people who would rather see you in the same place you were last year and never growing.
By Shauna Campbell7 years ago in Humans
You Might Be a Bad Friend If...
Sometimes as we grow older, our friendships fade or change. I've been best friends with the same person for 18 years and lately... I'm not so sure she is still deserving of that title.
By Katia Ashe 🖤7 years ago in Humans
Don't Find Someone to Grow Old with
When we were little we watched TV shows like the Brady Bunch and pictured the perfect life. The perfect tall, handsome husband with a full time job, who came home every night on time and the wife would have dinner waiting on the table, a few kids that they had planned on having, the mom is in the PTA and always baking. Date nights are scheduled. The kids love the babysitter. Husband and wife grow old together. Everything is perfect....but is it really?
By Michelle Schultz7 years ago in Humans
Dating Normal
I had someone ask me earlier today where and how they could meet a normal woman. At first my response was "good luck." But then I sat down and decided to really think about it. There are so many ways to meet people these days and unfortunately with the cost of living, the economy being bad and people spending more time online, it's become difficult to really get out and find new people. So, what do you do to take that step in your life when you actually want a relationship? Where can you go to meet people who like to spend the time to have an actual long-term relationship? Is your only option online? If so, then how do you know what you're doing and if they are who they say they are? Is there a safe way?
By Hm Weimar7 years ago in Humans
8 Signs That You've Given Other People Power over Your Life
It could be a co-worker or it could be someone closer to home, but chances are that someone is getting the best of you. They might be quite manipulative a lot, but the truth is that they probably have no idea they are hurting you because they are simply too focused on themselves.
By Test7 years ago in Humans
We Always Want What We Cannot Have
Look at the world—planet Earth; all 7.53 billion souls. I want you to pick out two. Two individuals of any gender, age, religion; across any of the seven continents, and seven seas, and five oceans; speaking any of the six thousand plus languages. Now, hope they are compatible.
By Danielle Oliver7 years ago in Humans
A Love Less Toxic
With so many things in the world that we consume depicting unhealthy, and sometimes downright abusive relationships as the pinnacle of romance (looking at you 50 Shades of Gray) it is important to examine how we are loving, and why we love the people we do. Sometimes, even with the best of intentions, we love from a place of selfishness, and it is important to examine ourselves and break poor habits. This is undoubtedly true when it will also affect another person—we are rarely ever only responsible for ourselves.
By Paige Graffunder7 years ago in Humans