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Dating, married, single, divorced, and more. Advice on the relationships you have in life. Dear, Humans..

Living Together
Living together might be feeling a little more normal at this point. The two of you are probably used to each other’s habits or at least know what to expect, and you are probably going about your regular routine of tackling your responsibilities. However, with this new move, there is a potential that the two of you might have taken on extra hours, and the time that you have with each other might not be as much as you thought you would have.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue12 days ago in Humans
Fear Doesn't Keep Dates
Dating can be a difficult process for anyone. It can be difficult to figure out how to find the person that you are looking for and what standards you should have when meeting new people. However, this process doesn't have to be stressful. The point of dating is to have fun and find the person that adds to your life, so why let all of your worries and fears take hold of you?
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue12 days ago in Humans
Finding Love
Now you have decided that you are ready to date, and you are trying to find somewhere to meet that special person. So, where do you go? How do you find that person that will sweep you off your feet? The answers to these questions won't be the same for everyone.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue12 days ago in Humans
Communication is Key
Once you find someone that you are interested in, take the time to get to know him or her. Talk about the things that you want out of life and see if your goals line up. Also, talk about your expectations when it comes to a relationship. Let the other person know what you want to get out of a relationship and listen to what he or she wants as well. See if your wants and needs line up. If they don't, consider whether moving forward with the other person would be an additive to your life or if it would bring you farther away from the things that you want and need.
By Nicole Higginbotham-Hogue12 days ago in Humans
The Lie That Love Knows Best. AI-Generated.
Love is the easiest word to manipulate. Parents, partners, friends — everyone wields it like a compass, a rulebook, even a justification for control. “I only want what’s best for you,” they say. And because you care, because you want to belong, because you want to avoid conflict, you listen. You follow. You compromise.
By Fault Lines12 days ago in Humans
The Lipreader’s Truth: Stop Assuming I’m Understanding Everything
Most hearing people imagine lipreading as built‑in subtitles. They think that if they face me and speak clearly, I’m “reading” their words like text on a screen.
By Tracy Stine12 days ago in Humans
Your Family Isn’t the Enemy — But They’re Not Your Compass Either. AI-Generated.
There’s a seductive lie making the rounds: that your family is either your greatest blessing or your greatest prison. Both are lazy conclusions.
By Fault Lines12 days ago in Humans
The Hidden Damage of Disrespect
Disrespect doesn’t always come loudly. It isn’t always insults, shouting, or obvious cruelty. Most of the time, disrespect is subtle. It shows up in tone. In dismissal. In being ignored. In jokes that cut just a little too close. In boundaries crossed casually, as if they never mattered.
By mike13 days ago in Humans
The Quiet Fear That Nothing Really Matters
There’s a kind of fear people don’t talk about because it doesn’t scream. It doesn’t feel like panic. It doesn’t feel like sadness in a clear way.
By mike13 days ago in Humans
Why You Can Feel Lonely Even When You’re Never Alone
Loneliness is usually imagined as physical isolation. An empty room. No messages. No plans. No one around. But one of the most confusing forms of loneliness happens when none of that is true.
By mike13 days ago in Humans
The Silence is Not Health: The Structural Cost of Moralised Pain
I. Executive Summary I would like to present theoretical and empirical synthesis concerning the systemic failure of modern pain management. It argues that chronic physical pain is a biological fact that cannot be thought away through cognitive reframing. By utilising a framework of Regulation Architecture, I demonstrate how current medical demands for acceptance force subjects into a state of resignation and learned helplessness. This silence is not health. It is a trauma response that masks a total collapse of structural integrity. By integrating neuroimaging data and allostatic load theory, this paper calls for a shift from policing emotional reactions to providing functional, biologically grounded relief.
By Claire McAllen13 days ago in Humans
Training the Brain in Spite of A.I.
While A.I. is being shoved down our throats, it's more important than ever to keep our minds sharp the old fashioned way. Letting a machine think for you might be tempting at first. How many times have you heard, "Work smarter, not harder," in reference to letting A.I. handle a report at work. Sounds innocent enough. But don't get carried away because let's remember that machine learning has its flaws.
By Leslie Writes13 days ago in Humans