Stop Abusing Yourself!

Stop abusing yourself. You will never allow anyone to abuse you more than you abuse yourself. But once you reach self-love, a new way of life stands at your feet. Self-love is the foundation for personal happiness.

We are born full of love. When we are babies we can't express how we feel when we see our mother or our favorite toy, but we don't even seem to need it, because love is reflected in our whole being and breathes through all our tiny pores.

We do not know that what we feel is love because we do not yet have a language. Maybe even if we had words, they wouldn't be enough to explain this intense feeling.

Then we start to grow, we start to be told how we should be and we start to be afraid of who we are. We begin to repress our emotions and hide more and more who we are. We begin to repress what once seemed natural and we are even ashamed of what we feel. We believe that love will make us vulnerable, and we begin to fear that we will be hurt.

But it is not love that causes us pain, but all those teachings about who we should be, and how we should be, are what cause we fear. Throughout life, there are times when we stop believing these lies and have the courage to allow ourselves to feel what we feel, without censoring this start through the voice of reason. In these moments we regain the ability to find again the love that has always been present in us and wait to reach it.

So it seems that there is an extremely close connection between the moment we are ourselves and the moment we find the love deeply hidden among the lies instilled during our evolution.

Even if it sounds utopian, the love we seek can only be achieved when we are no longer afraid to be ourselves. The moment we give up being who we should be and accept who we are. This is one of the most revealing moments of existence.

More and more women are waking up and reaching this awareness, this is because humanity is evolving and over the centuries with the help of technology we live better lives outside, it's time to start living better lives inside. The main key to achieving this performance is the art of loving, the art of loving ourselves first and then others.

"We have learned" to be afraid to fall in love because we have the feeling that it is not safe to be in love. You may wake up at some point suffering and so we closed our hearts to love and with that decision, we closed our hearts to any form of love and ourselves.

The opposite is true. It is love that makes us strong, but we have learned to sabotage this because the expression of love that we have received from our parents, those who have been around us, is often not healthy and pure. but she is an impostor.

The first step to living a fulfilled life inside is to become yourself, the real one, to remember who you are.

What happens is that most people think they know who they are when in reality they have no idea. At some point in their lives, they wonder, "Who am I?"

What's going on?

When we are babies before our consciousness develops, everyone tells us who and what we are. Mom tells us who we are and because we are innocent, we agree. But my mother tells us what she thinks about us. It is a personal perception.

Then Dad comes and projects another image on us and again we believe it. Then our brothers, sisters, classmates from kindergarten, from school, television, all tell us who we are and we agree with them. And not only that. They also tell us who we should be.

How good it is to be successful, what is good and what is bad. You have to be that way or that way, that way. These are often called teachings, but they are just subjective perceptions that are instilled in us and that we take as benchmarks.

We try so hard to become who they want us to be, and we practice and practice and fight because we are afraid that otherwise, we will not be good enough for others. We are afraid that others will not like the way we dress, the way we eat, the way we think, what we do, and we are so afraid that we will be rejected that we will do anything to get them in jail.

We create an image of perfection, of how we should be even though we know we are not that image. We try to be perfect for everyone else because we think we are imperfect inside if we do not conform to the pattern that has been presented to us as we should be.

We are blind. We fail to believe that we are perfect as we are because we are unique. He is no more, he has not been and no one will be like me or you. We just can't see this because we are so focused on what we should become instead of who we are.

My dear, you must not be ashamed that you are not what others want you to be. When you realize that you are not what you think you are, you will see the world in a completely different way.

You don't have to justify your existence in front of anyone as long as you serve your true person, your true inner being. Aren't those who set us standards satisfied? It's okay, the road is open to those who resonate with us in this way.

When we know who we are, we no longer spend time in conflict with parents, or loved ones, or children. Everything becomes so wonderful because we live in a place of love and love will be reflected in our lives at all levels.

We are no longer afraid to express who we are and what we want because we know we have the right and deserve to receive what we need. We don't say "yes" when we want to say "no." We don't need anyone else to fulfill us because we find in ourselves everything we need. The relationships we have from now on only amplify what we have already achieved. It's a wonderful way to live.

You will improve every relationship you have, starting with your relationship with yourself. Then your romantic relationship will become wonderful because you are no longer afraid to be who you are and ask for what you need.

You don't take anything personally anymore. You no longer need to control the other person and ask for his love to walk an inner emptiness, and the relationship automatically becomes a team sport instead of a continuous competition.

Most people today complain that they are going through difficult times in their relationships. Do many women say they are tired of trying and trying again and again? But why do you continue to attract the same kind of relationships?

The main problem is that the relationship with ourselves is not a good one. All your relationships will be a reflection of your relationship with yourself. You want to see what relationship you have with yourself, look at the relationships you have with other people.

You want to see what relationships you will have with other people, look at your relationship with yourself! How much do you respect yourself, how much do you love yourself, how much do you invest in yourself?

As long as the relationship with ourselves does not change, we will continue to attract the same kind of relationships that we have attracted so far. We need to free ourselves from self-judgment.

Even if the perfect man appears in your life now, how long do you think he will stay with you if you don't respect yourself? If you don't respect yourself, there will be no respect in your relationship either. If you do not love yourself enough, there will not be enough love in your relationship either.

First, you need to change the way you think about yourself. On the day when your relationship with you is extraordinary, you will attract the perfect partner in your life.

Fall in love with yourself, this is my message and it is the foundation for excellence in all areas of your life.

I came to this conclusion after many years of study, experiences, feelings and for this very reason, I felt that I had to share with you everything I discovered in the book I dedicate to every woman: Fall in love with yourself: How to become a woman again authentic and confident.

When you love yourself unconditionally when you respect yourself one hundred percent, when you honor yourself and you will do nothing against yourself, when you finally manage to be that way, that is the moment when you will attract the perfect partner in your life.

And because you will have such respect for him, you will have just as much respect for him. Moreover, you will not allow him to disrespect you or honor you. This way your relationships will become different from everything you have experienced so far because you will no longer need to control the other out of jealousy or because you are insecure about yourself.

If you are in a relationship littered with control, jealousy, abuse, and disrespect it means that you are doing nothing to respect yourself, that you do not love yourself, and until you fix these things, your relationship will continue to be kind of painful.

When you love in this way, you allow your partner to be who he is, without imposing on him who he should be. You will not feel hurt because it is not what you want it to be but you will accept it as it is and you will love it as it is.

But that means being who you are at the same time. Enough with the games and strategies in Cosmo, you don't have to be someone else just to conquer it.

How do you expect to have an honest, pure relationship, based on healthy love, if you start lying and are someone other than you are just because the magazines advised you? Be who you are!

You just have to be more discriminating with the help you render toward other people. You need to be aware of who you are and what you want to make the right decisions.

Stop abusing yourself. You will never allow anyone to abuse you more than you abuse yourself. So if you are in a relationship where you are experiencing physical or emotional abuse it is because you are doing this to yourself. You hate yourself so much that you constantly abuse yourself, this, is, of course, is reflected in your other relationships.

If someone abuses you more than you abuse yourself, you will leave, but if they abuse you less than you abuse yourself, then you will remain unconscious and you will consider that you deserve it. The less you love yourself, the less tolerant you become of abusing others.

It is not in vain that I speak to you so insistently about self-love, and it is not in vain that I tell all the great spiritual guides and psychologists that it is the foundation for attaining personal happiness. I lived on my skin and I can tell you that lack of self-love:

• is the biggest obstacle to personal happiness.

• it blocks you from attracting the ideal partner for a healthy romantic relationship.

• it is the source of addictive and self-destructive behavior that certainly does not serve you.

• it can block your health, prosperity, and interpersonal relationships.

But once you reach self-love, a new way of life stands at your feet. Living in a place of love is the most fulfilling life experience.