Sinful Maria

You are charming!

Very charming his sugar coated tongue belted out whiles his luxuria eyes converged around her body

That fiendish witching hour , her world came crumbling down

Let me paint you a picture of the girl scared of society’s unspoken nightmare

Fear laid its icy fingers on the victim whose masochist knew no bounds

Vigorously slamming her spine on the cold concrete floor

In a futile attempt she fought back , skin to skin , his breath she felt all over her most cherished frame

Like a bubble awaiting to be pricked , everything went by lightning fast

When she awoke , the sun had fallen of and rolled away

They know , she knows , he knows , that child know , her ascenders know

She is the villain in her story

They put her over their knees said to pray and confess

Shame and disgrace you have brought unto the family

My neighbours are going to point at me and hoot. “She is your daughter” Isn’t she ????

Left dejected and barely feels like living with thousand and one eyes out in the open full of quick judgements void of help

People are talking without speaking Your fault and yours alone

SINFUL MARIA ! That is what you say

SINFUL MARIA ! Shame upon thy head

Forgetting you , you , you and I could be in her place .............

Being of support to someone who has experienced any form of sexual violence or an abuse in general can be really daunting to say the least . By being available and listening to them alone is a form of help . There might be some other few things to keep in mind ;

Being of support to a victim or survivor of sexual assault or an abuse in general , you might be concerned about saying or doing the “wrong thing” .

Yes , all victims and survivors are different and might not need the same support mechanism but there are a few general ones which cuts across ;

Always do remember it’s not their fault. Victims and Survivors shouldn’t be faulted for what happened to them . They might already be going through feelings of shame , neglect , guilt and self blame but it is very crucial to let them know it isn’t their fault .

Always listen . It can be very tough for victims and survivors to talk about what happened to them and for many , it is painful . If someone has managed to share with you what happened to them , let them know you understand how they feel . It might be difficult and upsetting for you to hear but it’s important to show them indeed you are really listening . Let’s do our best not to interrupt even though we might have lot’s of questions to ask .

Let them stay in control and respect their decisions . Abuse in any form can make the victim or survivor feel powerless or feel like they have lost control . This ,for many survivors and victims , it is important to feel in charge once again . It can be tempting to want to take the ordeal into your own hands but don’t take over unless they ask you to . Instead , support them . There’s no right or wrong way to feel after an abuse and it is only the victim or survivor can really deeply know what’s best for them . Don’t judge or ignore whatever decision they make even if it isn’t what you’d have done . They could end up losing trust in you .

Be patient and respect their boundaries and please do not ask why they didn’t say anything sooner .

Thank you for making time out of you busy schedules to read .