Signs That You Are Ready to Move In Together

Deciding when to move in together is a difficult thing to do because there isn't a certain amount of time that, once it's over, allows you to say, "Done, we're ready now!" It is also a decision that will change many aspects of your relationship - maybe for the better, maybe for the worse!

Some relationships simply evolve on their own - partners feel as if they have always known each other, fit into the smallest aspects, have the same hobbies, values, principles of life, and common activities! But in the case of most relationships, building a couple requires certain compromises, time, and a more stumbling evolution!

In the case of the happy ones in the first case, the decision when you move together is made without any dilemma - they come to this step naturally, when they notice that they cannot stay too long away from each other. But in real life, this is rarely the case.

The different stages in the evolution of a relationship can last more or less, depending on the personality of the partners, their age, their previous experience. For some, the beginning stage - of dating, when you get to know your partner slowly and when everything is interesting - can take longer, even up to a year! And so logically don't ask yourself the question yet when you move in together!

Then follows a stage of consolidating the couple, forming a common routine, and getting to know the partner at home, "in his natural environment"! And only after this stage, when the partners get to really know each other and spend more and more time together, then the question will arise when you move in together! That's if you're right and everything went well!

Simply skipping a stage - that of consolidating the couple, of getting to know each other in-depth - is a spontaneous decision that denotes certain irresponsibility! Talking about when you move in together is beautiful and romantic, but even taking this step when you are still in town when you don't know each other intimately when you have no idea about your partner's daily habits can be the worst thing for a relationship!

This is especially true if you are quite young and have never had a stable relationship experience in the past! The partners must take the relationship step by step to give themselves time to adapt to the situation and the other!

The signs that show that you are ready for the question when you move in together are:

● You have long passed the stage of romantic encounters, you know each other quite well, you have told almost everything about your past, you have known your relatives and close friends. This period of knowledge lasts, you can't say that "ready, I know everything about him/her after a few months of meetings!

● You have already talked about plans, you have a common vision of where this relationship will take you and you want similar things from your future. Be careful here: if you find out that you want things that do not harmonize - for example, one of you wants a big family, while another wants to focus exclusively on your career, moving together is a big mistake, because first of all, you need to see if and how you can have a future together!

● You may be seriously wondering when you move in together when you have already talked in detail about this stage: where you will move, what things you will need, and so on. Here it goes without saying that you must first have the necessary financial resources: talk in vain if no one has an apartment or can not afford a rate!

● You are prepared when you spend more time together than separately: when one of you already has various personal items at home with the other and when you spend more time here than at home with him, then your relationship has advanced considerably! That is unless the partner who "makes available" his house to stay together is not disturbed and does not feel threatened by your personal belongings!

● You may be wondering when you move in together when you are alone, at home, thinking about what the other person is doing and you miss seeing him - even though it's only been a day since you last saw him! As attachment and habit - although it may sound ugly, habit is a key element in the evolution of a couple's relationship - grow, the more intense you will feel the need to be with your partner!

● When it is difficult or ugly for you to fall asleep in bed alone, when the last thought before falling asleep is the other one - it is a clear sign that you need him/her!

● The question when you move together only makes sense if you have already spent at least a week at home alone, just the two of you! And it's not about a vacation - during the holidays, it's easy to get along with your partner! If you two have been living in the same house for seven days without interruption and you understand each other well, you have not had any major misunderstandings and you have not felt the need to go out or meet someone else, this can only be a good sign!

● You should already have a certain common routine for the days you spend together: what time and waking up, how to have breakfast, in what order to go to the bathroom, where to go shopping, what relaxing activities you do - these little details which may seem insignificant matter a lot in a relationship, because without them, nothing would be safe and stable!

● You may be wondering when you move in together if you have come to know the less pleasant and not flattering little habits of your partner in time and it doesn't bother you! You know, those little things that we generally hide from our partner, especially in the beginning: that you are messy, that you eat in bed, that you grind, that you brush your teeth only once a day, that you bite your nose - only some examples, each has its own little "dirty secrets"! And if the partner knows them and accepts them, then the relationship has nothing to gain!

● And finally: you wonder when you move together when this thought and the thought of all the changes it entails will scare you a little! It is normal to be a little scared, but if you are at that stage in your relationship and if you love each other, it is the best decision you can make!