"Resolve to Break Up" confuses the ending, what is the most unwilling thing for a woman who has been broken up with?

# 1

I watched Park Chan-wook's "Resolve to Break Up" yesterday, and I liked it very much. There are many places to talk about, and I can't go into detail about them. I only talk about the finale that confuses everyone.

Because it's the ending, I can't talk about it without spoilers. So let's put a spoiler warning first, friends who plan to watch but haven't seen it can close the article here.

# 2

When I saw the ending of the movie, I remembered a dialogue I forgot whether I saw it in the movie or in the book not long ago.

A woman asked a man, do you know what is the most unwilling thing after a woman is abandoned?

The man said that the other party has a new love? Hated by each other?

Women say no, they are forgotten!

# 3

In fact, it's not just women, it's people. I once knew an old man who was very dissolute and ruthless and had hurt countless women.

At the beginning, I always understood that he was just distracting and could not control himself.

Later, once, he talked about a female netizen who had said a few words on the Internet, and occasionally asked him to talk to him when they met at an offline event.

Back then, his articles criticizing her were particularly ruthless, which greatly hurt her self-esteem. I haven't written anything for a long time.

What's interesting is that when he said this, he was not aggrieved or helpless, but rather proud - it turned out that I had such an influence.

# 4

At that moment, I suddenly realized that when he talked about the girls who had been hurt by him and who had always hated him, he actually had the same expression.

I suspect his hurt to these girls was intentional: i.e., if I were just being nice to you, you'd soon forget about it.

But I was very nice and hurt you badly. Although you will hate me, you will remember me for the rest of your life.

As long as I exist in your memory and keep you haunted, I occupy a part of your life.

# 5

Milan Kundera said it in his "Immortal". In this world, almost everyone wants to be immortal.

It is precisely because of this demand that people fall in love, pass on the lineage, and hope that their children and grandchildren will remember them.

Of course, we also have the desire to create. You may think this is vanity, but it is also a very real need.

Of course, there are also people who are living a life of subtraction, allowing their lives to be muffled in the crowd little by little, and finally completely forgotten, as if they had never been here.

# 6

In "Immortal", the elder sister is this kind of person, while her younger sister is the opposite. A woman who is particularly fond of horses always wants to emphasize a capital "I".

No matter what you do, including committing suicide with your sister and brother-in-law, you are making a voice to the world: look at me! follow me! remember me!

Milan Kundera said she committed suicide to be remembered.

Later, when my sister died, my sister and brother-in-law came together. The brother-in-law naturally forgot his sister and was deeply fascinated by her.

# 7

Speaking of the ending of "Resolve to Break Up", the heroine played by Tang Wei finally buried herself alive, not for self-sacrifice, but to completely occupy the memory of the male protagonist for the rest of his life.

From the character of Tang Wei, she is a Chinese who smuggled to South Korea, and she can't go back to China. Her closest relative has passed away. She married two husbands and she is a bastard, and she has no children. cut off.

After she dies, no one will remember her, she will be like she has never existed in this world.

If she does not obey the law, she will be forgotten by the hero in prison. Then she is a living dead.

In short, in this world, as long she may not be so determined.

# 8

From the perspective of the male protagonist, the man himself is a very serious person, very persistent, and a detective.

Stig Larson once said in his "The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo" that every detective will have a unsolved case in his life. He will spend his life trying to find the answer.

There are actually two deaths in the Mexican legend, one is the physical death of the body. One is that you are truly dead when the last person in the world who remembers you dies.

And he is the only person in the world who will care about her life and death, and the only person who may grieve for her after her death.

He was the only living witness that she had come to this world once.

# 9

So, she wants to be one of his unsolved cases. She was determined to live in his memory.

If she just commits suicide by throwing herself into the sea, her body will be washed ashore in a few days. He knows her ending. Although he will feel sorry for her, he is a just policeman after all.

He had already blamed himself very much because she violated his principles, and made up his mind to break up.

Seeing her commit suicide in fear of sin, no matter how sad she is, she knows she did the right thing. This matter is basically over, and his relationship with her is over.

Slowly he will find a way to forget her and start his life again.

# 10

But now the ending of the movie is different. He still loves her, and she disappears like a fascination under his nose.

To bury himself alive like this is called living without a dead body. For him, this is more torment than seeing her corpse.

After becoming his unsolved case, he will never be able to get rid of her for the rest of his life, and she will always occupy his memory.

He will keep her photos and her voice for the rest of his life, and he will search for her whereabouts hard. He will not sleep at night, thinking of her until the end of his life.

# 11

In fact, this matter is broken, and it is very simple, just like when we fell in love when we were young, and when we were torn with our lover in pain, it was inevitable that we had some silly thoughts:

I want to disappear from your eyes, I want you to never find me, then you will know how much you love me.

After breaking up, the most heart-wrenching moment is to think that one day he will forget himself, just like you never existed in his life.

Works of art sometimes take these in more extreme forms.

Although the story is fictional and the characters are played by actors, the desires, needs, and emotions of human nature are all real.

# 12

So in my opinion, Tang Wei's last act in the movie is not just women's dedication and sacrifice for men.

He made up his mind to break up, but he actually couldn't play with this woman at all. The key was that this woman was too cruel. In order to be firmly bound to him, he could die.

The director's view of the world and philosophical thinking is also real and interesting. For me personally, it's an existential ending with universal human issues, not just masculinity.

If you have to hold on to these extreme presentations in the movie and say: This ending is sick, which woman would really do this in real life.

Then there is no need to continue talking about it. Many works of art are also unavailable.