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Read This When You Miss Your Ex: A Guide to Healing and Moving On

Practical advice and emotional insights to help you cope with the longing and rediscover your strength.

By Milan MilicPublished about a year ago 4 min read
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It hits you out of nowhere. Perhaps it's a melody on the radio or a spot you utilized to visit together. All of a sudden, the hurt for your ex feels terrible. Losing somebody who used to be your everything could be a tornado of feelings, but here's the truth: you're not alone, and you'll get through this.

Why You’re Missing Your Ex

To begin with, let's address the elephant in the room—why does it hurt so much? Missing an ex isn't close to them; it's around the recollections, the schedules, and the adaptation of yourself you were with them.

Think of it like losing your favorite combination of shoes. Beyond any doubt, they were worn out and perhaps indeed gave you rankles, but they fit fair right. Your brain clings to recognition, so of course, it feels unsettling when it's gone. But keep in mind that development happens once you step out of your comfort zone.

Acknowledge the Pain Without Judging Yourself

It’s okay to miss them. Seriously, it is. As well, regularly, people attempt to guilt-trip themselves into feeling “over it” as quickly as conceivable. But healing isn't linear—it's a muddled, crisscross travel.

Instead of resisting the emotions, try this:

  • Journal your thoughts. Writing them down can help untangle the chaos in your head.

  • Sit with your feelings. Imagine them like waves. Let them wash over you, but know they’ll eventually pass.

Keep in mind that there's a contrast between recognizing your feelings and letting them control you.

Find your strength today.

Reality Check: Was It Really That Perfect?

Ok, nostalgia—the rose-tinted glasses of the intellect. Once you miss your ex, you're likely remembering the highlight reel, not the complete motion picture.

Ask yourself:

  • Were you truly happy, or were you settling?

  • Did they support your goals, or did they hold you back?

  • Would you want your best friend in a relationship like that?

Sometimes, we miss the idea of someone more than the person. Don’t let selective memory keep you stuck.

Distract, But Don’t Escape

This does not imply that you should binge-watch Netflix until your brain mushes. (Although, hey, a day of that is fine!) It means engaging in activities that genuinely bring you joy or challenge you in healthy ways.

Here are a few ideas:

  1. Reconnect with old hobbies. Remember that thing you used to love doing before the relationship? Dive back in.
  2. Move your body. Whether it's yoga, running, or moving like no one's observing, physical action could be a demonstrated disposition booster.
  3. Learn something new. Choose an aptitude, like cooking modern food or attempting your hand at painting.

Diversions are around rediscovering yourself, not running absent from your emotions.

Social Media Detox: A Must-Do Move

Raise your hand on the off chance that you've stalked your ex online. Correct, we've all been there. But here's the unforgiving truth:

Keeping tabs on them, as it were, drags out your mending.

Unfollow, mute, or block them if you have to. It's not negligible; it's self-preservation. Out of luck, out of intellect, right?

And while you're at it, stand up to the encouragement to post those enigmatic, “I'm so fine without you” captions. Healing doesn’t need an audience.

Reach Out to Your Support System

Heartbreak includes a way of making you feel confined, but you do not have to do this alone. Your friends, family, or indeed an advisor can offer viewpoints and consolation.

Pro tip: Be honest about what you need. Sometimes you want advice, and other times, you just want someone to listen while you ugly cry over ice cream. Both are valid.

Find your strength today.

Rediscover Yourself

Here's the silver lining to the heartbreak: it's a chance to reconnect with you. Keep in mind that you're not fair to someone's ex—you're an entirely, dynamic individual along with your dreams, characteristics, and abilities.

Take this time to reflect:

  • What makes you happy?

  • What kind of future do you want to create?

  • What qualities do you truly value in a partner—and yourself?

Treat this phase as a reset button for your life.

When the Urge to Reach Out Hits

Let’s be real—there will be moments when you’re tempted to text them. You might even start typing out, “Hey, just wanted to see how you’re doing…”

Here’s the thing: pause.

Ask yourself:

  • Will this message bring closure or open a can of worms?

  • Are you genuinely ready for a conversation, or just craving validation?

In case you're uncertain, attempt the “48-hour rule.” Hold up for two days and see in case you still feel the urge. Chances are, you'll thank yourself for holding back.

The Importance of Forgiving—For You, Not Them

Absolution isn't about letting them off the snare; it's approximately liberating yourself from the weight of hatred. Carrying outrage, as it were, keeps you fastened to the past.

That doesn’t mean you have to forget what happened or even reconcile. It simply means saying, “I release you and the hold you have over me.”

Moving Forward: What Comes Next

Healing from heartbreak is like a long hike—tough at times, but the view at the conclusion is worth it. As the days go by, you'll take note of the hurt softening. You'll smile more, snicker louder, and feel lighter.

And one day, you'll wake up and realize you're not okay—you're prospering.

Final Thoughts

You become human when you miss your ex, not weak. But keep in mind that this is not the conclusion of your narrative. This chapter might feel heavy, but the next one is full of possibilities.

So, take a deep breath. Focus on you. And trust that better things are coming—because they are.

Find your strength today.

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About the Creator

Milan Milic

Hi, I’m Milan. I write about love, fear, money, and everything in between — wherever inspiration goes. My brain doesn’t stick to one genre.

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