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Dating can be candid, don't you think? As far as you know, you're pleasant to be around, you know what you like and what you don't like. So all you gotta do is show up. Right? Hoping that you're attracted to the other and they like what they see as well.

You’ve been taking care of yourself, right? Riiiiiiight.

As humans, dating can be “hard”. Your awareness could be in higher levels than the one you somehow ended up with. Talk about that awareness.

You just don't know what to expect when linking with someone you've never spent time with. You can even choose to do something you have done plenty of times, but because it's with someone new, it'll be a whole new experience. Does fear of the unknown play a part here then? Should fear keep you from connecting with someone?

What if they're too straightforward? What if they're too shy? Are you the bold one? Will you hold your tongue?

You can share such a special moment, or several of them with someone - then, never see them again. Even if you didn't fall in love with them, that can certainly change your behavior of how to date again. Or if you even should.

Becoming a serial dater, one whom will date for the rest of their life, never marry, all about those connections instead. Ever meet one of those? Almost proud to be holding such a position. Could that be a defense mechanism? The illusion of being in control by not settling.

You though. You’re finally out. You have a spectacular time with someone, shared numerous memorable moments but you later find out they don’t live near you. I’m not talking just a few freeways away. Thousands of miles. And not just across the other side of the country. They are from a different country. They fly back home tonight. Now what?

Are you the type to brush it off your shoulders and go for another experience? Or will you hold back from sharing yourself because, maybe this next person won't meet with you again?

So much to question when it comes to dating. Even if plenty is shared between two people, all you really know is what they shared. So much to wonder. How can this not be stressful? Is dating simpler now because of the internet? Are people googling each other to find out more?

I suppose, with today's tech, there's nothing to lose. I can't even imagine all that you would gain though, besides humiliation. What if your date had raving reviews? Ha, I laugh at the thought of giving it a try on the next date.

That connection though? That’s what our lives are all about. Making those connections. Or enhancing the ones you already have. Some may believe that making the connections is the easy part. What’s the connection you’ve made with reading this far? Did I spark your interest?

You ever want to date someone and find the moment to ask them out only to find out they are already taken? How does THAT affect your experiences in meeting others from here on out? Does it make you more reserved until you are sure they are single? Or does it make you just as courageous because you want to make sure right away before you get your feelings involved? Where’s the self control?

What happened to just being? Enjoying what is without thinking of what’s to come or what’s yet to occur. Again, that awareness. Being present is something not found in many. Even when it’s practiced, people have a way of reminding you of the potential you, as a human has.