People with high emotional intelligence

Can speak and know how to praise

As the ancients say, "If you have good thoughts in your heart, you can speak with the fragrance of the lotus.

People who have goodness in their hearts will speak well.

A psychiatrist was waiting in line to withdraw money from a bank when he saw an old man in front of him with a sad face and thought to himself that he had to find a way to cheer him up.

So he stood in line while observing the merits of the old man, and found that he had beautiful hair, although he was a bit hunchbacked. So when the old gentleman passed by the psychiatrist after his business, he happily said to him, "Sir, you have beautiful hair."

And the old gentleman was often proud of his hair, and at this moment he was even more joyful when he heard the praise from the psychiatrist.

In life, everyone wants to receive praise from others and hopes to be recognized by others.

It is wonderful kindness to know how to praise others.

When you get along with such people, you will always feel the tenderness and kindness given by each other.

As long as your praise is full of sincerity, many times, a compliment, an encouragement, enough to become the motivation for others to struggle.

A person with high emotional intelligence will never be stingy with his praise.

Good listening, understanding respect

Carnegie once attended a card party. He did not know how to play cards. It so happened that a beautiful lady also can not play cards, so they sat down to chat.

The lady was talking the whole time, and Carnegie just listened carefully. But when the event was over, the lady complimented Carnegie as a very gentleman and a friend worthy of friendship.

Learning to listen to means that you are willing to understand others.

When you make an effort to listen carefully and are willing to leave more time and opportunities to others, they will be more willing to approach you and get close to you.

No one wants to communicate with a person who only wants to express himself.

Knowing how to listen is also respecting others. Respect others, you can get others to feel good about you, to build good interpersonal relationships.

Know humility and know how to keep a low profile

Stephen Covey, the author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, is a world-famous management guru.

He has met 31 national leaders and once even gave training to the president.

His career success has given him great fame, for which he shows great humility.

He said that people should not praise me because these principles are not original to me, I just uncovered them and organized them.

In life, he is also an extremely humorous and funny person and has no shelves at all.

People who live a thorough life in the world tend to maintain a modest and low-key attitude.

Feng Digicam once said, "Low-profile is not marginalized, forgotten, let alone incompetent. On the contrary, only self-confidence can be low-profile and comfortable with low-profile."

When a person's eyesight rises to a certain level, he will possess a sense of reverence. He knows how to be humble and cautious in everything and to keep a low profile.

Humility can add luster to a person, and a low profile can keep one's feet on the ground.

People who are truly successful in life tend to be very low-key. They are simple and unpretentious, low-key, and down-to-earth.

Knowing how to be humble and understated is the best quality of a person.

Be able to laugh at yourself and understand humor

Lu, You has a poem that says: "It is hard to predict the change of things, I am only self-deprecating.

Self-deprecation is a humorous way of speaking, and an optimistic attitude toward life.

Our famous lyricist An Si is a very humorous and funny old man.

Once An Si and friends in Hubei Zhengzhou's ancient city wall tour, a mother with a three- or four-year-old child to see him, the mother very excitedly shouted: "Ah, that's An Si."

The child saw the mother's excited look, some confusion asked his mother: "A Si is a what?"

This makes the mother a little embarrassed, who knows Yan Su came over and gently stroked the child's head and said, "Children, Yan Su is not something, he is I ah."

Hearing this, the child happily "Oh", the people present could not help but laugh, and the woman kept expressing her gratitude.

Dare to laugh at yourself is a social skill, but also an expression of confidence.

As the saying goes, you mature when you learn to laugh at yourself, not at others.

Self-deprecation may seem to scandalize you, but it is a kind of wisdom.

Compare less and know how to be content

Schopenhauer said, "Man is governed by his desires, and if his desires are not satisfied, he suffers, and if they are satisfied, he is bored, and life is like a pendulum swinging between pain and boredom."

I once read a short story like this.

There was an old farmer, his family was very ordinary, and he worked hard to farm, but he could only solve the basic problem of food and clothing.

Despite this, the old farmer continued to thank God every day for the life he had.

His wife laughed at him and said, "How can we be happy when we can only feed and clothe ourselves?"

The old farmer smiled and said, "First, I am thankful that we live in a peaceful era without war; second, I am thankful that our whole family is well fed and clothed; third, I am thankful that my family is healthy and free from illness."

The secret to this old farmer's happiness is to know the word contentment.

A lot of human suffering comes from unsatisfied desires.

If you know how to be content, you can live well in the present; if you know how to be content, you can cherish what you have in front of you.

Some people say that flowers look half open, wine drink slightly drunk. Seemingly incomplete is also complete.

Life is short, living is the mindset. Not to compare with others, knowing how to be happy with what you have, is the only way to seek happiness in life.

Quit complaining, know how to change the position

Li Shutout said: "People must stop complaining and look inward. Don't look at other people's mistakes; all you see is your cause and effect."

Aunt Zhao in Ca Sequin's "Dream of the Red Chamber" is a person who loves to complain about everything, and whenever she gets along with it, she hears either sighing or complaining about the east and the west.

She was born a maid and was seen by Jim Zhang as an aunt, from a servant to a half master, a child's life is quite beautiful. But she does not know enough, can not recognize their position, and always feel that others are not good for her. She complained that her son did not compete to disgrace himself, and complained that her daughter did not give her back.

In contrast, Lou Lou Lou, whose family is poor, has problems with food and clothing, but she is happy in her misery, does not complain about God, first went to the Grand View Garden, and laughs at herself to make everyone happy.

Franklin once said, "To complain incessantly is the worst reward for life."

Complaining can only make life worse and worse, make luck worse, and make the mood worse and worse.

Complaining is only bad, none of the benefits.

In life, we are supposed to go through a lot of trials and tribulations. Stop complaining and focus on finding ways to change, so that you can turn the tide against the wind.

Take charge, understand the responsibility

A company invites a department manager, and after many rounds of testing, three people are left in the end. The final interview took place in the general manager's office.

The general manager let them visit the office, pointed to the flower pot on the coffee table, and said, this is just bought from the auction, spent tens of thousands of it.

And pointed to a location, and let the three interviewees move the coffee table to that side. After saying that, they went out.

When the three carefully moved the coffee table, suddenly the coffee table broke a leg, and the pot worth tens of thousands of flowers also slipped on the ground broken.

When the general manager returned to see this scene, extremely angry and asked: "What is going on, this flower pot you can afford to pay?"

The first interviewer, blamed the general manager because the general manager asked them to move.

The second interviewee, put the responsibility on the manufacturer of the coffee table, because of the poor quality of the coffee table.

Only the third interviewer, take the responsibility for themselves and admitted that they were accidentally broken.

Finally, the general manager said to the third interviewee: "A person who can be responsible for his fault, must be a person with success, welcome you to our company."

In our life or work, there are always some inevitable mistakes. Mistakes are not terrible, the key is our attitude towards them. Only the courage to take responsibility, to get the understanding and respect of others.

People who do not take responsibility, when things are not evasive, said to shirk responsibility; people who take responsibility, is to try to find ways to solve the problem.

Have good thoughts, understand the heart

I saw a small video on the Internet.

A starving homeless man wanted to give himself a facelift with the only $20 he had. But because of his unkempt appearance, no barbershop would cut his hair.

When he was desperate, a barbershop opened its doors for him, and when he learned that his haircut was to find a job, not only did he get a free haircut, but also gave him a suit.

Years later, the barbershop was ready to close because it had no money to pay the rent.

At that time, the homeless man came in and said to the owner, "This house already belongs to me, from now on the rent here will be free for you forever.

As the saying goes, if you plant a good cause, you will get a good result; if you plant an evil cause, you will get an evil result.

Life in the world, the heart of good thoughts, more good deeds, not to please others, only for their inner joy.

If you have good thoughts in your heart, you are doing your best. If you treat people well, God will bless you.

You have to believe that if people have goodness in their hearts, good luck will come to them.

No ridicule, know how to cultivate

Not laughing at others reflects a person's inner cultivation.

Feng Tang in the "thirty-six" said, once in Taipei, with a friend to a teahouse to drink tea.

Drinking tea and chatting on the way, the teahouse owner proudly said, these teas outside you can not see, the outside is fake. Because this tea is only a few acres of real estate, and these acres are contracted to him, every year he picked first, the rest will be given to others.

But not coincidentally, in their peer people, just a boss under the control of the best pu-erh and oolong tea, pick out a few, the teahouse owner certainly has not seen.

But the old boss listening to the teahouse owner of these words just smiled, bowed his head, and drank tea, without saying anything, with good cultivation to maintain the peace and harmony at the time.

This life, such as the tide, the tide, the ebb and flow, ups and downs, there will be peaks and valleys.

Fortunately and unfortunately are their own life. No need to envy others, and should not laugh at others.

Ridicule in exchange for only ridicule, only respect to win respect.

No ridicule, no deceit. Learn to respect others, but also respect yourself.

There is a saying, "If we will only stand in our perspective, then we will never know what others are thinking."

A person with high emotional intelligence, who knows how to think differently, will put themselves in other people's shoes, and give others enough respect and courtesy.

Having the kindness to consider others is a real high emotional intelligence.

May you and I can be a person with high emotional intelligence, with warmth in our hearts towards life!