Partner Maturity  -  The Key to a Serious Relationship?

No matter how much we want to make a relationship work for a longer or shorter period, we must first decide the degree of perception of it: is it a serious relationship or not? But how do we know? Should this decision be made by the couple if it exists in the true sense of the word?

Because a serious relationship already means commitments, more obligations, and less freedom. How many people or teenagers are willing today to have a serious relationship, giving up the chaotic life full of love for a night or a week?

Do we have to figure out for ourselves how close our relationship is with the person next to us, or do we need to be notified? If it is a feeling or simply a situation that we end up in without wanting to and without realizing it, how do we react later?

All these questions linger daily in the minds of teenagers, especially those who fall in love about three times a day, and when they are given a little attention, the situation already changes radically, sometimes getting out of control.

No one can give the answers, but they are simply found or reached sooner or later, when in fact we realize that we have forgotten where we are. A serious relationship, however, involves a little maturity, although most teenagers in their first love can categorize it as such, although maybe it's just simple passion, pure, as is the first love.

For many it lasts, becoming a serious relationship, for many it ends after adolescence because people who "grow up" together change and begin to want something else from life.

How is a serious relationship going?

Many times we find ourselves in a bizarre situation, in which we are either carried away by the tide and when we realize, we already have a partner we can rely on, but many times we need more and no matter how old it would be the relationship, it can't be called serious: the man next door simply doesn't get involved and you want more, and your standards don't fit into reality.

A serious relationship should be based first and foremost on maturity and awareness. Maturity brings in the couple the necessary contribution of reasoning to overcome obstacles, to solve difficult or difficult situations. A relationship becomes serious when the meetings between the two are constant, the care for daily activities is mutual, plans intervene, and no longer fit a third person (excluding children or future child) in the equation, no matter how many temptations would be around.

A serious relationship does not mean bringing flowers to your loved one (and if you do, make a good impression with a special flower on an insignificant occasion or simply without an occasion, to show that you have thought of her).

A relationship does not mean leaving your boyfriend at the match with friends after many quarrels because he came last time on about seven paths and was quite late (if you leave him, at least he doesn't remember the last time).

People tend to monopolize the person next to them in a relationship. Women generally have a higher level of possessiveness and tend to believe that men sometimes need them as mothers.

Nothing wrong! Although they need to wash their clothes, iron their shirt for work the next day, or make a portion of french fries for them, this does not mean that they are not able to, it simply makes them happy to know that someone is there. who cares about these details and can rely on that someone.

Men, on the other hand, believe that if women are in a serious relationship, they don't have to go out for coffee with their girlfriends, they don't have to arrange because they have no one to attract, they already have them. . It is also a mistake.

A serious relationship does not mean that you want to change the lifestyle of the person with whom you have chosen to spend most of your time, and even more so that it does not mean that you change that person.

A serious relationship does not mean going home to your parents with that person and not staying together for 5 years, because later you can realize that you made a big mistake.

In a relationship, the most important thing is the simple things, made out of love, without reproach, with small upsets that do not overshadow the future, with mutual teasing that has their charm. All the little undisputed quarrels that affect you at the moment, can hurt you a lot in the future.

A serious relationship means that you both walk in the rain, without fear of catching a cold and without yelling at each other: "why did you forget your umbrella at home, I just told you it was raining?", This is an insignificant example.

Because a serious relationship starts with the simple things that strengthen the feelings and make you think that if you can't do one thing alone, then in two it's achievable.