Newlyweds, But What Happens When the Honeymoon Ends?

You are newly married, in love, and excited to start a new life together - but what happens when the honeymoon ends? In many relationships, after marriage, there is a wonderful period at the beginning of life for two, a period full of hopes and dreams; but after a while, things can change: dreams make room for reality, and that reality can be hard to deal with. It is a major change, a moment called the "end of the honeymoon", so the end of innocence, of the period when everything between the two seems perfect.

Newlyweds often have complete confidence in their relationship: they are in love and have a whole life ahead of them. And I think that as long as they love each other, everything will be wonderful. But often the time comes when the honeymoon ends: the time comes when the challenges and problems of life in two appearances, which can be easier or harder to solve…

What happens when the honeymoon ends, more specifically? It is the "end of the beginning": passion subsides, crazy love gives way, if the two partners allow, to a calmer love, but at the same time more mature and deeper.

The two lovers are put face to face with a change: a change that can lead to a crisis or the maturation of the relationship between them. The newlyweds look at each other for a while through the eyes of the lover, idealizing themselves and seeing only what is good.

When the honeymoon ends, newlyweds may go through a moment of doubt: did they make the right choice? Is the life partner the soul mate? Do I know him/her? Why do I think it's different? Why is our relationship different?

Why don't I feel so intense anymore? Why did I fall so easily into the routine? Often, it seems to the partners that the other has changed, that he is no longer the same person they fell in love with. And suddenly, I see that their relationship is not so great, that there are different problems that they have to face…

Especially if they haven't had a long relationship before marriage, newlyweds just think they know each other (it takes a lifetime to meet a person and even after a lifetime you can't say you know them). Love holds lovers together, passion makes their relationship beautiful, hopes make them confident and confident in the relationship.

But the romantic and passionate period never lasts: it can last a year, two, maybe three, maybe even more; but inevitably the end of this period is coming. And once the passion subsides, the partners begin to notice things that they were innocently overlooking before: things related to their life partner and things related to their relationship. With the end of the honeymoon, a partner's defect or a relationship problem can become much harder to overlook or accept.

In other words, newlyweds will create a lasting marriage only after the honeymoon is over. Only after the idealism decreases and the reality takes its place in the relationship. Only after they start to look the way they are, without painting themselves in beautiful colors. Only after they get over the first challenges and problems of marriage together. And only after living in two no longer seems bright, but real…

When you fall in love, you turn your loved one into what you dream of: you idealize her, you are blind to flaws (which seem nice to you), you project your dreams on her. The passion of the beginning helps you to continue to look at your partner in pink light for a while.

You start to know him / her better and better, but you will not see him / her as he / she is in reality until your relationship matures - when the period of enthusiasm and dreams gives way to the period of maturity. It is important to know that this moment of doubt is a normal one: what matters is how you react the moment your relationship loses its brilliance…

When the honeymoon ends, the newlyweds can take two different paths: they move away from each other because their life partner and relationship have changed (in reality, only the way you look at it, previously idealistic, now, realistically, it is changing in essence); or transform their relationship, add depth, try to get to know each other as they really are, and add a deep friendship to the love relationship.

In the first situation, a crisis arises: the partners are no longer on the same wavelength, they regret the missing passion and they start to have misunderstandings that are more and more difficult to solve.

Passion binds them, but they did not create a solid foundation on which to build the relationship. In the second situation, the partners strengthen their relationship, adding feelings of friendship: but this is possible only if you keep them together, apart from the passion that decreases over time: common goals, principles, values, ​​and desires.