Monogamy or an Open Modern Relationship

Monogamy: pros and cons - more and more people lose confidence in monogamous relationships and no longer believe in that "happy to old age"… The idea of ​​a" soul mate" is obsolete, the idea of ​​"happy marriage" seems ideal (considering the number of separations) and even the idea of ​​"true love" is viewed with doubt! Some people prefer not to risk anything and avoid getting involved in stable relationships - you have nothing, so you have nothing to lose!

They argue that a person - male or female - can be very happy on their own and does not need a couple to be a fulfilled being! In addition, true and lifelong love is ideal, and the idea of ​​fulfillment through the couple would rather be a preconception from "brainwashing."

When we talk about monogamy: pros and cons, two aspects that highlight how vulnerable faith in a single partner is are interesting. First of all, what is called "serial monogamy" - almost every person today goes through a series of relationships, has several partners in a row,d does not have a single relationship in a lifetime!

Over time, most people become involved in many relationships - with the failure of one, you try again and again and again and again, which is abysmal. So the simple idea of ​​monogamy from start to finish - a person emotionally and sexually involved with one other person for life - seems fantastic to us.

Secondly, there is what is called an "open relationship" - two people who are emotionally involved and form a long-term couple, but allow each other sexual adventures to avoid boredom! This idea is becoming very popular - partners can afford to have adventures from time to time (usually only sexual, without mistaking emotionally, usually) and sometimes do it together - swingers couples.

Monogamy: pros and cons - is monogamy still desired and possible?

Monogamy - pro: Yes! Various studies show that young women and men want one more happy relationship (whether it involves marriage or not).

The idea of ​​a couple is still valuable and the idea that you are a fulfilled and truly happy person only after you have met a suitable partner still exists. It seems that only the belief that you will find the right person is suffering - many are disappointed by how difficult it is to form and maintain a happy couple!

Monogamy - Cons: And yet, other young people criticize the outdated idea that only through marriage can you find fulfillment and happiness! They argue, logically, that you cannot be a truly happy, satisfied, independent, and strong person on your own!

It is essential to be satisfied with yourself and your life, not to seek fulfillment through union, through the couple, because that does not help you to develop yourself, as an individual!

There is a part of the truth - the couple is not the salvation and a miracle - if you are not a happy and content person with yourself, you should not seek that gratitude through the couple, but in yourself. But what the individualists who deny the couple the merit of bringing a forgotten fulfillment is great through communion with the partner, through the stable couple, your life is enriched and completed!

Monogamy - pro: Studies and reality show that people involved in a stable relationship are healthier and more generally satisfied than those who have unstable and varied relationships! Emotional balance and general well-being are stimulated by a stable relationship!

Monogamy - against Opponents come and show the benefits of a life free of responsibilities, obligations. A life where you do what you want with who you want, you get involved only as much as you want and when you want, you can have fun when and how you want…

In a couple, such a thing is if not impossible, then very hard! But how much fun will you really have? How long will night-outs and spontaneous adventures satisfy you? When will you get home alone and realize that no one is waiting for you?

Monogamy - pro: Related to the latest idea, monogamy ensures the fulfillment of emotional needs - only with one partner for a while you can get emotionally involved, you can get to know him, you can share who you are… The couple primarily meets the needs of closeness and communication - that every individual has!

Monogamy - Cons: It is said that friends and family can meet these needs and that you do not need a couple! But is a friendship the same, does it involve closeness the same? Diverse partners you get close to, talk to - and diversity keeps you from getting bored! But can a real rapprochement be formed?

Monogamy - pro: Biologically speaking, the female needs a single male to protect her, and the male needs a single partner to safely insurer their offspring - and you don't have another! Equally biological is the instinct to procreate and form a pair to protect the "chicks" - and the father has the instinct to have offspring and protect them! That is why since ancient times, monogamy has been more widespread than polygamy. it was too big - so a man took more women or, less often, vice versa).

Monogamy - against: Some say that man is just an animal and that the animal has the instinct to have sex as often as possible to ensure the reproduction of the species!

But there are many species of animals in which the female and the male form a pair - sometimes until the chick grows up, other times for life! In addition, man is not just an animal - he is a unique and evolved animal, whose emotional and affective needs outweigh the biological ones!

Monogamy - pro: We get to the sexual aspect! Those who form couples declare that they are more sexually satisfied than single people! Although sex is often rare, although monotony can occur, in a couple, sex is more than a physical act, physical pleasure - it is an emotional act of connection. And time together and trust make the partners feel more at ease and experiment, to enrich their sex life!

Monogamy - against: No one can deny: boredom, the routine of sex life… The attraction that suffers over time… Sex is less and less rare… Those who have multiple adventures and relationships at the same time enjoy a more spontaneous sex life, more passionate and more varied.

This can provide greater satisfaction, but only if the person only wants sex. If they are also looking for love, it is difficult… In addition, complications can occur - having sex with more than one person is only normal. , they will try to involve you in a relationship…

Monogamy - pro: Only through a stable relationship with one person do you get to know her and be able to rely on her! Of course, if that relationship works… Instead, going out with more people prevents you from having the time and interest to meet them. And the many meetings are not so much fun - always the same discussion "what do you do", "what do you like", "what hobby do you have" etc?

Monogamy - Cons: Many - too many - monogamous relationships fail! Maybe because he is not the right person, maybe because we do not strive… Failover failure and we can lose confidence in the idea of ​​a stable, monogamous, and happy relationship!

Conclusion: the monogamous and stable relationship is still what people want, but it is becoming more and more difficult to maintain. And if we talk about relationships, sex and adventures, the key is "what do you want and what makes you happy"? Even though most of us need a stable couple, you don't have to be like the majority!