Marry someone who can talk nonsense

A marriage, want long, need to have what conditions?

I'm sure you can list a lot on the screen:

It is love, tolerance, understanding, and consistency...

In fact, there is another easily overlooked point:

Nonsense.

Marriage is like a conversation that spans decades.

Two people want a long-term relationship, in addition to deep communication.

Make sure one loves to talk "nonsense" and the other loves to listen to "nonsense".

In the process of exchanging and sharing "nonsense", it moistens the feelings of each other and also waters the marriage of two people.

"Happiness, probably, is to find a ready to listen to your nonsense, talk nonsense with you at any time."

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The byproduct of relationships is nonsense

There's a famous theory in psychology called the "nonsense theory" :

If a person, usually speak more than 90% of nonsense, then this person is easy to feel happy;

If the nonsense is less than 50%, then this person, it is not easy to experience the feeling of happiness.

Nonsense. It's linked to happiness, even symbiotic.

The more people in a relationship like to talk "crap", the more likely they are to perceive happiness.

It's like a reward, pushing both sides to share more topics.

And the feelings of two people, also in the collision of you a sentence I sentence, gradually heating up, become stable and firm.

Enchantress shared her own emotional experience online:

She and her boyfriend went to college together during graduate school.

"We came together in large part because we talked."

From daily life to study and work, from mutual teasing to mutual encouragement and comfort.

Although they are in different majors, but two people just have endless words, endless conversations.

They often complain that they can't find someone for each other, but they can't help but plan what to do together in the future.

"How about we go to the same school for graduate school?"

In this way, we can study together, travel together, and it is better to work in the same city, to look after each other.

It has become their habit to share each other's daily life.

Every day, if we don't talk and talk some "nonsense", we feel as if something is missing and the day is not complete.

Naturally, they got together and lived a sweet love life.

How does it feel to really love someone?

I can't help but want to talk to them, want to share with them the photos you have taken, the scenery you have seen, and the little bits and pieces of life.

We can't even tell the difference:

In the end nonsense is a byproduct of feelings;

Or love is a derivative of nonsense.

If it is not because they love you, who would like to share with you the daily fun, share their own troubles and thoughts;

If not because of love you, who will continue to respond to your "nonsense", listen to and want to participate in your little.

Because love you, so willing to tell you a lot of nonsense.

And these seemingly meaningless "nonsense", seemingly boring behavior, together constitute our simple and beautiful little happiness.

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Nonsense is the most beautiful love words

"The trash-talking moment in a marriage is really a signaling moment."

"It's windy today. Wear thicker clothes." "There is a beautiful wildflower on the subway." "This video is so funny."

Words like these, in fact, are conveying a signal:

"I love you. I'm happy with you."

If the other person reads this signal and responds positively, the flow of affection between two people will continue.

As the writer Sanmao put it:

"Husband and wife life, is trivial and concrete.

No matter how hard the life is, no matter how simple the environment is, we can't ignore the relief of the couple talking nonsense together.

Only in such a marriage can there be vitality and vitality."

Little Red Book blogger @Little Thing er wrote in a note:

"Every time my husband asks me what I have to eat at the end of the day, I never know.

My husband knew I would respond, but we had to have this boring conversation every day."

She often shared with her husband the fantastical or terrifying dream she had the night before.

I send him a long list of messages and don't worry if he's busy or not responding, because I know he'll read it when he's free.

If she had a particularly good dream, she would save it for the evening to tell her husband in person.

In her eyes, her husband "is a listener who will never bore me."

I don't know why, but when she and her husband are together, there is always something to talk about:

Funny funny thing, in millions of reverie, all kinds of strange "if"......

Many times, they chatted until midnight, and she confided to her husband that she didn't want to sleep.

Her husband touched her head and replied, "I'm here every day. I'll talk to you tomorrow."

"Yes, life is a long time, and we have a lot of nonsense to talk about."

What does a happy marriage look like?

It is basically:

"You are talking, I am laughing, our daily is nonsense and silly, but just so happy and comfortable."

In a quality relationship, nonsense is the most beautiful love words.

Nonsense behind, is concerned, is the care, is the care, is the heart.

It's proof that we're loved.

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Long marriage

Both are good at talking trash

"Do you talk for more than an hour a day?"

"You're always talking to your phone, and you're not talking to me."

"You're still looking at your phone while you're eating."

"The wife asks her husband in the documentary" Frozen Picture of Happiness."

The most impressive scene is:

The wife and husband sat on the bed, each holding a small child, mechanically patting the child's body.

There was no eye contact, no greeting, no gossip.

It's quiet and suffocating.

There's a word for it, "marital aphasia."

Refers to, from the premarital nothing to say, to the marriage of firewood, rice, oil and salt, nothing to say.

I wonder how many marriages face a similar dilemma:

Once home to play mobile phone, a day can not say a few words, no desire and impulse to chat;

You share topics he doesn't want to participate in, you talk about gossip, he "um" and "oh" reply;

Ignoring your nonsense, disregarding your thoughts, not responding to your emotional communication, even cold violence...

In such a marriage, the feeling is suffocating, is a black hole, is deep despair.

The essence of marriage is the desire to be seen by the other person.

The daily detritus that happens around you, the little things you see or hear, the meaningless "gossip" and "nonsense".

They are an emotional channel opened by one person, and they want the other person to "see" themselves, understand themselves, and accept themselves through this channel.

If the other person is constantly ignoring your "crap" and not interested in the topics you share, they won't offer to share their life with you.

Over time, you will also lose the desire to share, lose the enthusiasm and expectation of marriage.

And intimate relationships break down in neglected, unresponsive breakdowns.

For two people in a marriage, "crap" is more of an emotional value.

Responding positively to the "nonsense" and engaging in two-way communication will lead to a stronger emotional bond and increased marital satisfaction.

And that, perhaps, is the point of getting married.

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"Before you move into marriage, ask yourself this question: Can you and this woman grow old together and still have fun?"

So said the philosopher Nietzsche.

Good marriage, is that two people always have to say endless "nonsense".

And it is these "nonsense", fill our daily fragments, accompany us through a long time.

Let us in the busy and ordinary days, capture the happiness, feel the existence of warmth.

Some people talk nonsense, some people seriously respond to nonsense, which itself is a kind of happiness.

Everything is bitter, your preference and "nonsense", is the cure for life.

Life is long and tortuous, can meet a willing to accompany you to say nonsense, is our lucky.

Go talk some crap to someone you care about

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~This is Antoine, and I hope you find pleasure in each of my articles~