Love Without Addiction, or How to Love Unconditionally

True love has no limits, no form, no conditions. If all the people on earth could fully understand this, none of us should spend our evenings in front of a boring movie.

Relationships are often pursued by one ruthless murderer, and his name is attached. This vague essence is, at first, disguised as love, but then it brings its companions into our lives - envy and selfishness.

What is certain is that attachment should rather be called mutual dependence. It makes us believe that we simply cannot live without our loved one - that, in the direct sense of the word, we will be lost.

When we "love" someone very much, that is, we become attached, we often forget our importance and our needs, because we lose most of the positive emotions we need to please those we love.

When we love unconditionally, we become unaffected by the pain of attachment.

To love unconditionally means to accept a loved one as he is… to accept love itself as it is.

When we cannot accept someone as they are - without conventions and conditions, we begin to try to change them in the direction we need, while at the same time convincing ourselves that we are not doing anything wrong.

Like, we better know what's best for him. In a word, a similar situation has all the necessary conditions for starting a truly toxic relationship.

Ask yourself how you felt in the first days after meeting your loved one

When the love for a person ignites in us, we experience an incredibly great sense of freedom and happiness. Our feelings are extremely profound, the awareness of the world merges with the understanding that everything is "in order" and it is exactly as it should be.

It is important to remember how you felt when this person was not near you. Try to remember how love helped you to start making the most of your life.

Love is eternal and knows no bounds

Unconditional love does not have to know the boundaries. When true love is replaced by addiction, we begin to long for that person to be with us always.

We want their presence always and everywhere. It is not enough for us to know where I am and that everything is fine with him, and this obsession becomes dangerous.

As soon as we accept the simple fact that true love has no end, no borders, and can be felt even on the other side of the Earth, even in the depths of the ocean, we understand the importance of personal freedom and personal space. And not just for those we love, but for ourselves.

To love unconditionally, you must be able to accept imperfection

Unconditional love helps us to understand that there is nothing perfect. Sometimes perfection awaits us in imperfection. Unlike love, attachment is supercritical, evaluative, prone to control, and serious.

Unconditional love for another person will never allow you to step on a slippery path that leads to attachment. By loving unconditionally, you simply love your partner. Even his wrong toe on his left foot, crooked teeth, and too much laughter.

You like everything - and a disgusting hairstyle in the morning, and the smell of breakfast prepared by the loved one… And how the loved one knows how to deal with problems, how he cries, and even how he gets angry when something goes wrong. Unconditional love is patient, kind, and immense in all areas of life.

Unconditional love is simply not possible unless you love and respect yourself. Before attempting to follow the teachings of unconditional love, you must accept and acknowledge yourself as part of this all-encompassing feeling.

The power of unconditional love will one day surely free humanity from the toxicity of addicts and is already able to heal many of your wounds and teach you to live in reality. After all, life is love.