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Loneliness.

Should we be worried about being alone?

By summer zelayaPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
Loneliness.
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We've all been there - sitting at a table for one, moving to a new city, or facing a weekend with no plans. But what used to be a fleeting feeling has now become a chronic condition for millions in the UK. Shockingly, 60% of people aged 18 to 34 often feel lonely, and in the US, a staggering 46% of the entire population consistently feels alone. In a world where we're more connected than ever, it's alarming to see so many people struggling with isolation. It's important to note that feeling alone and being alone are two different things. Some people find solace in solitude, while others despise being surrounded by others. Loneliness is a deeply personal experience - if you feel lonely, then you are alone. And let's debunk the myth that only those who struggle to communicate or interact with others experience loneliness. Studies show that social skills have minimal impact on this emotional state. So, let's start talking about loneliness and work towards creating a more connected world.

Loneliness is a universal experience that can strike anyone, regardless of their status, wealth, or social skills. It's a natural function of our biology, much like hunger, that drives us to seek out social connections. Our ancestors' survival depended on collaboration and forming bonds within a group, and those who cooperated and formed strong social ties were more likely to thrive. As a result, our brains have evolved to recognize and respond to the thoughts and emotions of others, fostering social ties that are essential for our well-being. However, this evolutionary history also highlights our sensitivity to social rejection. Our brains have developed mechanisms to prevent exclusion and isolation from the group, as these often meant dire consequences. These mechanisms, including the sensation of social pain, guided our ancestors to modify their behavior and remain part of the tribe. So, if you're feeling lonely, know that it's a natural function of your biology, and your brain is simply prompting you to address your social needs.

As time marched on, society's focus on individualism began to chip away at the bonds that once held communities together. The industrial revolution brought about a mass exodus from rural areas to bustling factories, disrupting the tight-knit networks that had been in place for generations. And as modernization and urbanization continued to sweep across the globe, the disintegration of these communities only intensified. Nowadays, it's not uncommon for us to find ourselves far from our support systems due to work, love, or education. We're left with fewer and fewer close friendships, and the fast-paced nature of our lives makes it tough to keep those connections alive. Before we know it, we're caught in a vicious cycle of loneliness. We're so busy with our day-to-day responsibilities that we don't even realize we're sacrificing time with friends until we wake up one day feeling isolated and desperate for human connection. It's a tough cycle to break, but it's not impossible.

Loneliness is a common feeling that we all experience at some point in our lives. It's important to recognize that it's a normal part of the human experience and there's no shame in feeling lonely. In fact, acknowledging our loneliness can be the first step towards healing. By taking a closer look at our thought patterns and analyzing our attention patterns, we can gain a better understanding of why we feel lonely and how we can change our perceptions of social interactions. Are we focusing too much on the negative aspects of social interactions? Are we assuming the worst about others' intentions? By challenging these negative thought patterns, we can start to see social interactions in a more positive light and ultimately feel less lonely. So let's embrace our loneliness and use it as an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Loneliness can be a tough cycle to break, but there's hope. While introspection can be helpful, sometimes it takes a professional to help us navigate the complexities of chronic loneliness. It's a brave step to seek assistance, but it's one that can lead to improved mental and emotional well-being. Whether we see loneliness as a personal issue or a public health crisis, it's clear that it's a problem that needs our attention. Despite all the amazing technology we have at our fingertips, we're still wired for connection. As we continue to explore the wonders of our world, we must remember that our most basic need is to connect with others. So let's take that step and reach out for help – it's a powerful way to start feeling more connected and fulfilled.

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