Life advice: don't worry about 2 hours and 8 kilometers away

Dr. Aaron T. Baker, a renowned psychologist, told the story of three anxiety sufferers.

The first, Todd, was a recent college graduate.

Todd felt that he was not good enough when he was looking for a job, and he would back out in his mind before every interview.

It was hard for him to succeed in the job, and he couldn't help thinking that he would surely be eliminated because his colleagues around him were so good.

His supervisor gave him a client resource, and before he was happy for a while, he began to worry that he couldn't keep it.

Worrying all day long, and finally the psychological pressure is huge, he suffered from acute anxiety disorder.

The second one is 38-year-old Rebecca.

Rebecca is a working mom and has been suffering from insomnia since she was promoted to manager.

Every night she tossed and turned, she was worried:

Is her daughter safe at school, will her husband be laid off one day, and what will happen to the family's few remaining savings.

These lingering worries roamed freely in her mind.

She had trouble sleeping and eating, often bawling without warning, and was on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

The third, Elizabeth, is nearly 50 years old.

Elizabeth has retired home, living a life of food and clothing, but she still live every day with fear and trembling.

Fear of their own thinking backward, can not keep pace with the times, abandoned by society;

Fear that she is getting old, her health is deteriorating, and she is causing trouble to others;

Feeling that their pensions are not enough, fearing the coming of accidents, and even speculating about the day when society will break out in turmoil ......

How many people are there in these three people?

Always anxious about things that have not yet happened in advance, every day in a state of "full load".

Not only are they powerless to change the fact that the future will definitely come, but they also drag down their lives in the present.

There are two possibilities as to whether tomorrow's troubles will come or not.

One is that it won't come at all, so our worries today are purely superfluous and completely unnecessary;

The second is that it will definitely come, and since it has to come, what is the use of worrying about it?

That's why I always say that the stupidest thing a person can do is to worry about things that are 2 hours and 8 kilometers away.

A U.S. newspaper has a young reporter named Jones, one day his boss told him to go to interview Justice Brandes.

Jones was shocked, and hastily refused, no no, he simply does not know me.

He listed a bunch of reasons not to go to the interview: he is a nobody, inexperienced, the judge is busy with official business ......

The supervisor glanced at it and directly took and dialed the other party's phone number:

"Hello, I'm Jones, a reporter from the Star, I've been instructed to interview Judge Brandes, and I was wondering if he could see me for a few minutes today?"

Jones said with trepidation, how can you mention my name, how can he say yes.

At that moment, a voice came from the other end of the phone, "One-fifteen, please be on time."

Jones froze in place, did not think he constantly entangled things, the other side was so dry promise.

After becoming famous, Jones exclaimed in his speech, "That moment was the most important lesson I've learned in twenty years."

British Prime Minister Winston Churchill also once said:

When I look back on all my troubles, I am always reminded of the story of an old man who, on his deathbed, said, "There are so many things that worry me in life, but most of the things that worry me, never happen."

This is not an illogical piece of chicken soup.

A psychologist conducted an experiment.

He asked the participants to write down the worries they might encounter in the next week and put them in a "worry box".

By the 3rd week, the psychologist opened the box and checked them one by one, and the result showed that 90% of the worries did not happen at all.

The psychologist put the remaining 10% into the "worry box" again and waited for another 3 weeks.

After 3 weeks, and the experimenters to check, found that those troubles are no longer troubles.

Trouble has no root, do not pick up the natural nothing; confusion has no source, do not investigate since easy.

Often times, what really wears people out is not the established facts, but one bad thought that pops up in your mind ahead of time.

So never worry about what's going on 2 hours and 8 kilometers away.

As soon as you find yourself starting to look ahead and begin to worry about the future, say to yourself firmly and clearly, "The vast majority of the things I worry about will never happen."