Let's Talk About Toxic Girlfriends

If the family is given to us, if love often blinds us, we choose our friends based on rational criteria. We can't always understand that certain relationships hurt us. We chose them (often in our image and likeness), so it's impossible for that friend not to do us any good.

We don't spot toxic relationships easily. We don't realize we're being manipulated. Or we simply don't want to be aware of this, because manipulation and friendship do not go hand in hand.

Most toxic friends are women and no, that's not a misogynistic conclusion. If we take a look at some of the friendships around us, we will notice that men are much more united and it is much less common for betrayal to occur.

How do you recognize a toxic friendship?

If you don't feel like spending time in the company of someone, if you actually feel that you are being negatively charged every time you help a certain friend, if his remarks to you are often negative, if you feel that you are not he can enjoy your successes, if he is not there for you, for better or for worse, then it is about an abusive friendship.

Portrait of a toxic girlfriend

You are always there for her, but she is never with you. Of course, you will always find excuses. She has bigger problems, he doesn't feel well, he couldn't have done that, I can't ask him to do that, I didn't ask him to do that and you can continue the list of excuses.

The closer a person is to you, the higher the expectations and the more likely you are to be disappointed. And it's normal to be like that. It is normal to have expectations, it is normal to want to be answered with the same currency, it is important to receive the same.

One of the rules of a friendship is that you will always be with that person and you will help him whenever he needs it. If, on the other hand, the person is just asking and never offering, then friendship is toxic.

Your girlfriend may be often sarcastic with you, jokingly telling you bad things. You feel offended, but you think she doesn't want to hurt you and she can't really think about it, so you take it all as a joke.

If you have a problem, then your girlfriend will have a bigger one. If you stand to judge in the cold, you realize that you would have needed support, but as she presents the situation, you feel bad because you dared to ask her something, knowing that she is in a delicate situation.

If she feels lonely, then you have to be with her. If you need someone to talk to, they won't have time. Or maybe you will have a discussion and after two minutes he will change the subject to his person.

You feel like he's taking advantage of you, but you don't want to accept that. You think you are a bad person because you can have such an opinion about someone so close.

Healing

If a person hurts you, then he must be removed. It is very simple. You don't have to feel guilty.

You must understand that the friendship in question is harmful to you. By allowing such a relationship to continue, all you do is allow your girlfriend to hurt you. If you are not sure if you are being manipulated, then you can test the reactions to see if you are right. It is important to talk to other acquaintances.

Most of the time, they will notice from the outside that your girlfriend is abusing you. You'll probably defend him. Try to listen to those who care about you, listen to their arguments. Slowly move away, think first of yourself and your needs and then of her needs.

It's hard to break up with a toxic girlfriend, but it's much better for you.