I'm So Tired Of Activists and Causes

America Is Trying To Turn Into A Butterfly

When I think of American social progress I envision the progress of metamorphosis. America has been trying to morph into something else... since its creation. And I think of the butterfly specifically when thinking about America because every social progressive step we've ever taken has involved tearing our country apart at the seams so we can remake ourselves.

Right now when I think of America and its 'social progress,' our country is in its cocoon, turning into liquid mush guts. It's not beautiful. It's not great. It's fragile and if you were to crack it open, the ugly disgusting innards would burst from the chrysalis in a display of violent gore.

We've never been a country of "small" social issues. Slavery to 'indentured servitude,' to women uprising to gain the right to work and be paid for it. Then women AND minorities have to fight for true equality- and that still hasn't quite been achieved. Sweatshops with children (because that DID happen in America, people). Internment camps of racism towards AMERICANS who had ancestral lineage to countries we were at war with. Racism, bigotry, and the absolute worst of the "Good Old Christian Values."

America has always been a hate-filled cesspool of judgment, corruption and fuckery.

I don't know about you guys - but I'm tired. And my country's reputation weighs heavily on me. Not because I care about what others think - but because of the bullshit here at home. Americans hate each other. ALL Americans hate each other it seems like.

We can never agree on anything. We're always arguing. And we are always wanting to tell each other how each other's very essence and core values are "wrong."

So naturally- our groups that are minorities but not in a racial way have to fight for their freedoms too. Unfortunately, the way our country operates - the fight for acknowledgment, acceptance, and even the basic right to love and express ourselves the way we want to without other Americans trying to lynch us HAS to be almost violent, in a way.

OUR words have to be harsh. We have to stab each other where it hurts. Sometimes we do this JUST so we can be heard...whether we mean it or not.

It bothers me that Americans can't just not have an opinion or thought on other people's lifestyles.

It bothers me because I am one of those few Americans who don't give a flying crap if Tom married Jerry. They are happy and in love? GOOD FOR THEM! And it's STUPID that the American government thinks they have the right to say that two humans, same-sex or not, does not have the RIGHT to be in love and a relationship. It's stupid that there are Americans who have NEVER met Tom OR Jerry - and they think they have the 'right' to have an opinion on their lives.

It also REALLY bothers me that Lucy and Anna's relationship was exploited, and they were used on a pornography site because lesbians 'are hot' and 'sexual,' but male homosexuals are looked at with disgust. Either homosexual relationships are okay, or they are not. Just because you're a sick fucking pervert who gets off on two women scissoring doesn't mean that lesbianism should be more accepted than two men kissing and raising a child together. Homosexual relationships are JUST relationships. And the fact that they are still a big deal here in America can't even be called archaic: Because homosexuality and bisexuality have been celebrated in public in other countries since the beginning of civilization and religion (Greece, looking at you, you amazing progressive little prodigy of a country).

Susan changed her biology and name. Susan is now Seth? COOL! I'm happy that they were able to find who they are and commit to that. That's actually pretty dang awesome in my humble opinion, considering I have commitment issues and I doubt I could even commit to myself with that kind of dedication and strength.

And Barbie and Ken? Ken wears a pink apron when he's cooking in the kitchen, homeschooling their kids, and lets his daughters paint his nails. And when he goes shopping for his wife's menstruation products, he wears that purple glitter on his nails with PRIDE. Meanwhile, Barbie is a neurosurgeon and has to go on call for 24 hours at a time, she's the one who changes the tires when they go flat and she reshingled their roof by hand. And that is AMAZING too!

It doesn't really matter if it's the mom or dad at home, those kids have a stable happy home, they get fed every night and they have parents that love them. The things that need to be done...are getting done. And it doesn't matter if the "gender roles" are reversed.

It's shocking to me that there are people who...give a shit about all the things above when it's not involved in their life.

It's also pretty shocking that there are people in America who are SO entitled to their 'imaginary rights' that Americans have that they think they have the power to deem other Americans and the way they think, feel, and love are "unAmerican and wrong."

Are you kidding me? Just how many people in our population are THIS delusional?

And that turns me to the people who are fighting for the normalization of 'abolishing traditional gender roles.' What this group of people are fighting for is BEAUTIFUL. Well. What they WERE fighting for WAS beautiful. So what are they fighting for now? Even I am not sure - because it went from 'lets eradicate gender stigma' to 'lets eradicate traditional households and bad mouth EVERY housewife and working husband that ever was and tell them all what pieces of gendered stigma creating pieces of shit that they are even if they are on our side."

It went from a beautiful movement to... oh well now they're just another group cussing each other and saying that my family is trash again. Not just because we're white now, but also because we are traditional. And me and my family should just be deleted off the planet.

I STRONGLY believe that decentralizing the idea of "gender roles" in the generation of children being raised right now will help with MANY things in the future. Sexism, misogyny, fake and fraudulent angry borderline violent feminism, bigotry, individual abuse against members of society who do not 'fit' the standard.

I believe that raising our children without the stigma of 'gender roles,' is an awesome stepping stone to a much more beautiful America.

I also understand that humans will NEVER agree on ANYTHING perfectly, 100% And the more humans there are, the more variations of ideals are. We say that compromise is the key to marriage - but guys! It's the key to societal progress too... don't you understand that?

But the gender role/racism/feminist activists are stepping on their own feet, and kicking each other in the face. Your ugly words are turning supporters of your causes into enemies. And it's hard to feel sorry for you.

Why should I care about acknowledging you, your rights, your feelings, or your worthless fucking opinions on 'gender roles' when you have all plainly said that people like me are trash? I have been attacked by people who know NOTHING about me. I have been verbally ASSAULTED... by people who are fighting for... what? They certainly didn't seem to be fighting for equality because they had no problems telling me what a worthless piece of shit I was simply because I have a traditional housewife role - and that was the ONLY information they had on me.

My children at ages 2, 4, and 6. I am trying to teach them SO many things. How to be kind. How to love other humans without needing a reason. How to not be surprised or feel strange if they see a man wearing a dress or a woman who dresses like a man, or same-sex couples. I AM normalizing the important things within my home. But not a single one of you 'activists' for 'human rights' have asked me that, before you assumed that my traditional family was 'a part of the problem.'

I teach my children, EVERY day, through EVERY question they ask, that people should be able to live freely to live their lives. I teach them that unless the other human is hurting them directly or attacking them in some way, they do not have the right to be cruel or judge them.

I teach my children that women can be heroes in the form of firefighters, and cops, they can be wrestlers. They can do or be ANYTHING in the world that they want to be. I teach them that if men want to be pretty mermaids or princesses, those men can be anything that THEY want to be.

My two-year-old son walks around wearing his sister's dress-up high heels and he plays with Barbies. And I ENCOURAGED the Barbie playing- the other thing he just has a fascination with is shoes. And those cute little gel repunzel princess shoes? He walks in them better than I have EVER walked in high heels. He walks around and kisses his pink unicorn plushy, and he wants his nails painted when the girls get theirs painted. And I paint his nails.

And I am going to support and love them no matter what they choose in life. I want an America where people are not so unhealthily obsessed with how OTHER people live their lives.

Why should I fight for you? Why should I teach my children your values when you are teaching hate and segregation through your 'equality causes?' Because none of you are fighting for a better tomorrow anymore.

I shouldn't fight for you. None of you are afraid to tell me that my existence is wrong. So quite frankly - I've stopped giving a shit about your cause or your pain, or your 'oppression.' Quite frankly - I don't care what happens to you or your group of humans anymore, and that is YOUR OWN FAULT.

Because I have found that people who are fighting for the abolishment of gender roles are NOT any better than racists. Or sexists. You are all a cancer to society too. You didn't used to be. But you twisted your cause from: "We deserve to be treated like humans" to "We are the ONLY correct humans and everyone else is a piece of shit." You changed it from: "Lets teach our children gender neutrality to get rid of gendered stigma in the future' to 'let's argue meaninglessly about why traditional families are fucking GARBAGE."

Activist organizations have turned into social terminal cancer for Americans.

How have you become a cancer? Easily. Because you're acting exactly the same as the people you are fighting against.

It doesn't matter how long your ideals exist or how hard your group fights. 130 years from now - there will STILL be people who do not see eye to eye with you. That's how the human race works. But you getting angry and wasting your life generating MORE hate? That's where the hate never ends.

People like me - Who Is Teaching My Children That There Is No 'Only Girls' and 'Only Boys' activities, careers or lifestyle. People like me who are teaching my children to look at people - and not see them for the color of their skin but by the colors of their hearts and souls? That love is beautiful - and doesn't matter who the couple is or what they look like. We're not part of your cause and we're doing way better than you at teaching it.

I fought for my more 'traditional' family, but because all I've ever wanted was a happy, loving family. A group of humans connected by love and fate, who are willing to lift each other up, no matter what life throws at them. I HAPPEN to be a straight woman. And I shouldn't have to feel subterfuge and guilt for wanting a man to love me. I shouldn't feel like I am 'cringe' material because I WANT to be a stay-at-home mom, so I can extract and cherish EVERY possible second of my children's childhoods.

I don't CARE if our neighbors are homosexual or trans. I don't CARE if that big bearded man identifies as a big bearded lady. I want my children to look at the bearded-lady-man and see a human being who deserves love, kindness, and respect - because they are another HUMAN. A PERSON. With feelings and thoughts and a soul. I want them to see an opportunity to understand and learn about how other humans feel and think.

I want my children to feel comfortable enough in society to look at the bearded-lady-man and ask: "What makes you feel the way you feel? How did you figure out who you are?" Not because they are judging, but because they are trying to gain knowledge on how to figure out who THEY are. Because humans in nature are constantly changing and evolving. Especially children.

I only care that my children see someone who is being attacked, and they are brave enough to stand in front of them, look someone in the eyes, and say out loud bravely: "This is NOT how we treat other HUMAN BEINGS."

Whether they grow up to have a traditional family, conform to gender roles or not - I want them to have that OPTION. I want EVERYONE to have the OPTION. And I want everyone to stop hating each other for how other people live their lives. I want true freedom for my children. I want my children to see the BEAUTY that our differences bring to the world.

We are trying to teach our children that kindness or unkindness is the root of every decision we make - and how we treat other human beings is the CORE of what kind of people we are.

So to those of you who are using HATE in your cause to ACCEPTANCE: Are you being kind? Do HONESTLY you think that telling people that their existence and lifestyle are WRONG will gain you allies? When you are writing words of hate and hubris because someone disagrees with you, are you HELPING your cause?

Do you ever stop to think: The thing I am about to post or say, will make people hate my cause even more, and close their minds to what I have to say? Is what I am saying meant to HURT or EDUCATE?

It doesn't matter WHICH cause I look at in America today, the cause has become WARPED with hatred.

Racism is being fought with 'anti-white racism.' Gender equality has morphed into something really fucking weird. And no matter who is on what side of whatever social issues is happening: No one is saying anything intelligent you're all just hurling hate.

Why one way or another? Why can't change, acceptance, and a more inclusive future be a compromise? Why can't our future include...EVERYONE?

If the cause you're fighting for says other people must conform to your thinking, you are NOT fighting for a cause of acceptance. You are just trying to oppress others, the way you have felt oppressed.

We have a much better chance as a society of compromising to a future that accepts ALL humans, than abolishing entire lifestyles, traditions, and core beliefs that have been ingrained into humans since the formation of civilization.

People who are fighting for a better future have all lost their way and forgotten what they are fighting for. And none of you are worth listening to. Because of the way activists are behaving when they are 'fighting for equality.' BLM, Femnists, Gender-Role Ablishers, LGBQT+. You have all gotten frustrated and put down your original cause - and you've picked up the boxing gloves that the hateful people threw at you and you've stooped to their level.

None of you are improving society like you think you are - because y'all aren't doing anything to help society. You're only making more poison.

You all can keep stressing yourselves out, fighting hatred with more hatred, racism with more racism, gender inequality with gender hatred, trying to 'abolish' other people's feelings and thoughts, making yourselves have heart attacks and strokes from constantly beating dead horses if you want.

But me? I will teach my children to respect, potentially love, and accept EVERYONE. And maybe that's a cause all of its own.

Well. I will try. But I'm human so I'm also inherently flawed and fucked. So just know that I am only able to do my very best.

And I am going to protect my children from ALL of you. You're teaching them that HATE is the only way to fight. And you're teaching them that hatred is what defeats more hatred.

When you all know that love is the road you should be traveling. And you all know that love could be the most powerful weapon we had at our disposal - if only humans as a collective were intelligent and patient enough to use it.

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