I Don't have the courage to say NO

As a writer, I had written a proverb a few days back that says "IF YOU HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY NO I SWEAR YOU FEEL BETTER ". I do agree with my quote because it's the fact that everyone does need to follow in life to feel better, but when I ask myself "hey beautiful soul are you following it in your daily life" to be honest my answer would be NO...

Recently I was experiencing a painful situation in my life where I was facing issues in my life and my mind was unpleasant that was filled with confusion. To be honest, my mental health was not good, I was facing a dilemma in thoughts and emotions.

On that hardcore time, I was assigned work by my professor in no way related to my studies it was my professor's work, the person just shifted the work to me. The work was not just easy to do because it consume more time and more energy. I was so familiar with the professor because the professor was once my neighbor, our family and theirs used to have a good bond so I doesn't have the courage to say no. At the same time, the professor confessed that there was a lot of work allotted so my help is much needed.

I tried my level best but I couldn't able to finish the work on time that my professor assigned. As I told before it consumed my whole energy I felt depressed because at that time my mental also was not in a good state. For helping the professor wasting all my time and energy all I got was annoying expressions towards me as I was not able to finish the task. I could not speak anything at that moment all I got is tears.

My mind was full of questions that I kept on asking myself

Why I haven't told NO?

Why did I want to do someone's work in no way related to me?

Why I am not taking care of my mental health?

why professor doesn't even ask me how I am feeling before assigning work?

By asking all those questions to myself all I had understood is, it is not like all need to have the courage to say NO. Some do consider others work pressure as theirs, some do consider others trouble as theirs, some do doesn't want to break the bond that is been in existence for several years so all they will do is take others responsibilities in their shoulder even though their shoulders are heavy.

A the same time I also understood that if I am in need of someone help besides agreeing to do it or denying it, I would first ask them a few things such as

How are you doing?

Are you already working on anything?

Do you have sufficient time to care of you?

Are you ok to do my work?

In our life, we do have some precious people who tell yes to everything we do and everything we ask. It doesn't mean that we should take advantage of them not considering their feelings and emotions. They do care about us now our turn to do take care of them before assigning them any work or seeking their help.

MAYBE I COULD NOT BE A PERSON WHO DOES NOT HAVE THE COURAGE TO SAY NO BUT I WANT TO BE A PERSON WHO DOES CARE ABOUT OTHERS MENTAL HEALTH BEFORE SEEKING OTHERS HELP, BEFORE INDULGING OTHERS IN MY WORK. I WANT TO BE A PERSON WHO OTHERS CAN FREELY SHARE WHETHER THEY ARE OKAY OR NOT OKAY.