How To Make Someone Not To Care Anymore

Don’t do these things if you want someone to care about you

Manipulate them

My sister and I are not on speaking terms. Well, she texts me when she needs something and I only reply when I feel that her communication requires my attention.

We were not always like this. I wouldn’t say we were besties exactly, but there was a time we used to communicate effectively with me even going weeks at a time to babysit her children while she worked.

We had a falling out (perfectly normal for any relationship) and I was taking my time to process the hurt. Thinking that it would help the situation, she used her kids with whom we had a pretty good relationship with to manipulate me about the issue we were fighting about. I was done right there and then!

She had used two innocent children by throwing them into a fight they knew nothing about which ended up making things worse as it made me create a distance between me and the poor children for fear that they could be used to manipulate me and my feelings again. By doing this I protected myself from hurt and them too because they were too young to know what they were being thrown into.

Manipulation is an irritating and annoying way to communicate or to have someone meet your needs. It tops my list of relationship no- no’s.

If someone cared about you and you manipulate them, it might lead them to no longer care because they might think that whatever need of yours you need them to meet could be another manipulation.

Don’t manipulate people. It will break the trust they have for and in you.

Judge them

Everybody wants to be loved and accepted just the way they are. Even though as humans we want to be understood, we might not always find people to understand us for several reasons. Maybe we are too of the top, maybe they are too rigid or close-minded, we might also not be easy to understand.

Nobody wants to be judged though even in misunderstandings. If you judge someone, they will stop caring because why bother anyway when all you will do is judge them?

Communicate poorly

I have witnessed that poor communication is a lead cause of the breakage of relationships. Don’t ask around why someone doesn’t care anymore. If you cared enough, you would ask them yourself by communicating this clearly with them.

People are not mind readers, communicate your needs with them clearly. Don’t assume or wait for them to guess.

A person might not care about you anymore if you are hard to get through too. They might wonder why they should bother when you are not open to talking about issues.

Take their attention, care, and love for granted

If someone gives you their love, care, and attention and you never acknowledge or seem to care for how they are going out of their way to care for you, then expect the same from them.

Human beings are very reciprocating. And nature in general is too. Give a cow good grass, it will give you good milk and in large quantities.

When people give you their love, care, and attention, they expect the same from you. Communicate with them clearly on what they want and how they want it, then reciprocate what they give you.

Don’t fulfill their needs

Relationships are built around the fulfillment of each others needs. As human beings we need each other, and people form lasting bonds depending on how well their needs are being met.

A customer will be loyal to a shop where they find the commodities they need consistently and at a good price. The seller will maintain the outlet as long as he gets his entrepreneurial needs met.

As a parent, you should care for the needs of your children and in the process, you will be teaching them by example to take care about yours in return. Don’t expect your children to love and care for you appropriately if you did not set a good example.

If you do not care about their needs, how do you expect them to care about yours? Why should you expect them to care about your needs? Why should they care?

People’s needs are different. Some are looking to be loved, to be appreciated, to be cared for, to be listened to, to be pleasured etc. Strive to meet the needs of the people in your life so that they may also feel the need to yours. This will help build and nurture your relationships.

Cross their boundaries

Everybody has their likes and dislikes. Many of us have set personal boundaries that we do not like others crossing. We are all entitled to our personal spaces and privacy mentally, physically, and emotionally.

Never cross a person’s boundaries. It is intrusive and invasive. And many people will react badly to the intrusion into their spaces and disturbing their inner peace.

Stay in your lane and don’t poke your nose into the businesses of others uninvited, acting as if you know them more than they know themselves. Such acts may lead them to push you out of their lives and may also make them not care about yours.

Instead do this:

• Communicate clearly

• Reciprocate love

• Respect people’s boundaries

• Accept people for who they are

• Fulfill their needs

And you will have happy, meaningful, fulfilling and fruitful relationships.